I was going to break up with her.... She lied to me about takeing pills and shots. And she convinced me to have unprotected sex. So she lied to me to get herself pregnant in hopes of being able to keep me. She is unbelievable... im goin nuts. i knew her email pass and she placed an order for love spells and spent $400 on it. also a firtility spell. She planned this to happen without me knowing. I figured all this out and told her i wasnt goin to support her. I F**kin hate her now. But i never said anything about the baby. Now she says that im dead to her and the baby and i cant ever see, speak, or be known around the baby and her. I cant believe there are people like this in the world. Yes it was my fault for sleeping with her but the point is she did this behind my back and did it for her selfish reasons to keep me. Do you think she will come for child support later? What can i do? What should i do? Im scared and lost! Im not a dead beat... but if i c her again ill kill her.
2007-05-04 08:29:31 · 24 answers · asked by Z-Man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well brother, you are in a hard spot.!!!
You have two choices, keep in touch with the child or let go and forget the child.
If the child is yours, you are obligated by law !!! it is up to her to take you to court if she wants your money, then the courts will take your money.
If you have the money, get an attorney; if not, consult the free ones, there are many in every city. you have to search and be your own best advisor.
All the other stuff is not important, the spells, the lying,...Now the choice you have to make for yourself...do you continue the road you are on or make some changes? You are now paying for your poor choices. it has nothing to do with God. are you going to step up and become a man that you are supposed to be? I am not saying it is easy considering where you are starting from. the ball is in your court. Best regards.
2007-05-04 08:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by emb9199 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should never speak that way anyway I don't care how mad you are. Don't wish people to die and don't say you are going to kill them. Could come back to haunt you. Anyway, so she says she's pregnant. How do you know. Did you see her pee on a cup, did the doctor give her an estimated due date. Then you can see if it falls back to when you were having sex. You are young you should never believe a girl is using protection. Always protect yourself anyway. So, you may be having a baby. She can't keep you from seeing this child. Get a paternity test and take her @ss to court. There are people that are crazy such as this girl you speak of. But, you are looking at her e-mail pass that is kind of rude. Two wrongs don't make a right. I would sit down and speak with her because if you are the father of her child then you are forever connected.
2007-05-04 08:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by MommyofTwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she probably will try for child support and will most likely be awarded it. Even if she doesn't, if she ever gets any federal or state assistance, and lists the child, the government will come after you and make you pay support. If you sincerely want to be a part of your child's life, step up and offer your name as father and pay child support and some of her medical expenses. If you do what is right in that respect, you shouldn't have a problem with being a part of your child's life. If you don't care about the child, sit back and wait to see if she is going to name you as father and expect anything from you. Just don't count on getting off scott free, without having to take some responsibility. The welfare system is so over loaded with unwed mothers that they are doing more to identify the fathers and make them pay. Good luck, no matter what you decide to do.
2007-05-04 08:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by sissyd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few actions you can take. Get a court order for full custody without visition that way she doesn't get the baby at all. Sign off on all your parental rights...if your state is like mine you do this and she can't come for child support but you also lose all interest in the child at all..meaning no matter what you do you will never be given the chance to see the baby. It is a pretty messed up situation, it sounds like she was merely using you to get pregnant and using the pregnancy to trap you into marrying her. Is it for sure she is pregnant? Love spells don't work by the way and the best bet for fertility is putting your body in the proper balance such as vitamins, not smoking or drinking, and so forth....no humma humma humma hoo.
2007-05-04 08:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by MOMMY585 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the fertility spell did absolutely nothing to get her pregnant. It was you having unprotected sex with her.
Unfortunately, you're dealing with a dumb as$. She might come to you for child support, but at that time you can request that the courts grant you with visitation or even joint custody with the child. There isn't much you can do right now, except wait until she has the baby. If you're not around to sign the birth certificate when the child is born, you're going to have to get a court order for a paternity test to prove you are the father. At that point you can work on getting your parental rights as well.
As far as killing her, you may want to, but you're not going to do that. And, even if you did... what would that do to the child? Their mother is dead, and their father is in jail for life for killing the mom. You don't want to do that to the child.
2007-05-04 08:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to state the obvious...it takes two to tango. It doesn't matter if she lied, if she is several cards short of a full deck--you need to find out if that child (more than likely it is yours...especially if you have not indication that she would be sleeping with anyone else) is yours. You are now an adult and you are accountable for your actions. You were the one who didn't protect yourself. Period. If you ever had an adult not tell you this, I feel for you.
But, all this aside and assuming that the child IS yours (you would have to prove it, otherwise), you are responsible for that child. That child is yours. Do you want your child being raised by a dellusional nut-cracker?? Seriously!! She is whacked. Now...I take a very objective view to the world. When it comes down to it...sure, I believe in the Big G...but, I also know a sham when I see it. The fertility and love spells are CRAP! If they did work, if she was following the rules applied to magic, they will not work, because she has been underhanded. She's an idot.
You need to get yourself a lawyer. You need to talk to trusted friends and family about this situation. I hope that you have what it takes to get that child out of that situation. I don't know what state you are residing in...but if its one that has the tendency to grant sole custody to females, regardless of their sanity, then you had better get yourself one of the best. You need to COPY ALL OF THOSE EMAILS. All of them. Anything that would have to do with this crap, and use them as evidence that would imply that she is unfit..that she purposely entraped you. For the benefit of that child, I would seriously try to get that child out of that situation, legally. Again, look to your family for advise and help.
Yes, she will slap you with child support. But, I bet (I hope) that she hasnt been to the county court house yet, especially if she is as underhanded and whacked as you portrayed her to be. Make sure this wasn't out of anger. Change in life is upsetting.
2007-05-04 08:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear!! I am so sorry that this happened to you....it kind of gives women a bad name again. :( I think first you need to decide if you want to be a part in the baby's life, which for the baby's sake I hope you do. But, yes you should pay child support anyway...no don't get mad, but it does take two to make a baby. Right?? You could have also taken care of the birth control situation yourself, if you didn't want a baby....right?? You could have chosen to wait, and make her mad for the moment...but not had sex until you had protection.
Right??!
Anyway, it was NOT cool of her to lie to you like that, but don't take it out on the baby...okay??
Good Luck to You!!
Momma P
2007-05-04 08:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Momma P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've heard about things like this, right now in the courts, theres nothing to really protect you. You need to have a paternity test taken as soon as possible. Theres a website that offers legal support in cases like this, but you'll need to also get a good lawyer. If it is your child, you'll have to pay child support most likely, since theres nothing currently aganist the law in tricking men into getting a woman pregnant, but if you can offer firm proof you have a chance.
2007-05-04 08:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Yokihana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you will be responsible for support IF the baby is yours. I would make her get a paternity test to be on the safe side. There is no way she can keep you from seeing your child! If you really want to, you can actually get joint custody with the child taking turns living with each parent. If you hear any rumors about her leaving the state, get legal action ASAP. I'm glad to hear you don't want to be a dead beat.
Also it wouldn't hurt to go get checked for STD'S.
Good Luck!
2007-05-04 08:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a pretty messed up situation but dont let that get in between you & your child. Let her be imature about it just let her know that you DOnt want to be with her but you want to be in your childs life. When she realizes its only going to hurt the baby maybe she will come around. All you can do at this point is offer the support & hope she comes around.. Im sorry you are dealing with his sweetie & i hope the best for you. Dont give up on your child. Good luck
2007-05-04 08:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋