As many of you may already know because of reading some of my previous questions, a guy I am romantically involved with has been missing for a couple of weeks. How much longer should I give before filing a missing person's report? Does it have to be a family member that files the report? What are some other actions i can take besides filing a report? Is there anyone on here who has gone through a similar experience or that is a trained counselor who might be able to help me cope? Here is what I have already done: I sent him a letter in the mail (with no response), I talk to his mother every day (he is an adult, however), I sent him an email, i had the police go to the address he was supposed to be at (His father's. All his dad told the police was that he wasnt there but that he was ok). Someone please help. I care about him very much. He is my best friend. If all you can do is talk to me, that would be a big help as well.
2007-05-04 08:16:50 · 11 answers · asked by pocketful_of_sunshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nothing bad had happened between us before this happened. He is supposed to come and move in with me sometime this month (at least that was the plan). I dont have the phone number to where he is supposed to be at, and if he is in the hospital or something I dont know what to do. I already checked to see if he was in jail and they told me at the police department that he wasnt.
2007-05-04 08:19:39 · update #1
to those of you who understand that i really do care about him and dont think just forgetting about him is the right thing to do.......thanks for your answers........his mother told me today that since he is bipolar, he may have just suddenly decided that he wants a little time away from everyone and everything.......but these things usually dont last for years or anything like that......she said that when bipolar people do this, its not because they are angry or want to hurt the other people in their life.........its just something they do to cope. And as long as he is not harming himself or doing anything illegal, i am okay with that. but i still want to know for sure from him that he is alright and that things are still cool between us.
2007-05-04 10:28:22 · update #2
While talking to the police, you should have told them that he was missing and see what they think.
2007-05-04 08:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by itsmyitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, file a police report. Depending on where you are, the police can give you instructions on what u can do. Flyers, placing ads, etc. Weeks seems like a long time not to contact you if you were close. I would file and keep calling. Talk to alll friends if he has a contact book. If he does show up on his own, the police will understand. Better contact them to be sure. You're a good friend. Keep it up. He may have just taken some time for himself but doing this is just helpful. Keep being a good friend. A BIG HUG to you! Good luck!!!
2007-05-04 15:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sorry to say it but I think he might have gotten serious cold feet about the relationship moving to the next level (moving in). If his mom and dad are not concerned I think he may just be avoiding you. I am sure that you are in a lot of pain and I don't want to hurt you any further but you should be very careful because the police may come knocking on your door for stalking. I know that is what you are truely doing, stalking him, you just want to know that he is ok and he should have the courage and respect to tell you what is going on. But if you call his house all the time and always call his mom the jerk may call the police on you. Sorry dear, but try to move on with your life.
2007-05-04 15:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by misbotta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't show up on the move in date, file a missing persons report. Just explain to the cops what has happened. They will take the report, but probably will have very little luck finding him. Talk to his dad. He seems to know something. Tell him you are concerned, and if he changed his mind about moving in with you, that is fine. You just want to know if he's O.K. Tell him you would like to hear it from his son. Either way, good luck.
2007-05-04 15:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by magix151 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does his mother think of the situation?
Can you contact his father and ask him what is going on? If the father won't speak to you, or gives you the same runaround, talk to the police again.
Explain you are worried about him, ask about the missing person's report, etc. One possibility is that he is in treatment for some kind of medical issue. Maybe not in the hospital, but some kind of clinic.
2007-05-04 15:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by soelo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something happened between you two that he doesn't want to be found by you. Ask his father to ask his son if you did something to make him mad. If you suspect foul play then you need to tell the police what you think. Tell them you need proof that he is OK. I would think the parents would have to prove that to the police. I know that when my son was missing for three weeks, I called everyone I could and finally found him-------but I was beginning to worry! He was OK.
2007-05-04 15:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by tinymite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs some space...Also sounds like the Dad knows more than he is telling you. If he said your guy is OK...then let it be OK. I would totally NOT call or pursue him any longer. Put the shoe on the other foot. Sometimes NO action is the best action!
2007-05-04 15:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by shooblus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry that this has happend to you. all i can sya is that time heals everything. I don't know about what u can do about the missing stuff, thats kinda wierd? You dont think he's running from you do you? just a question, it might be the case?
2007-05-04 15:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by memyselfandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to save if its been a couple of weeks you know..Just tell the police report him tell his parnets to come and give in the files and passport and pictures.
Good Luck.
Youll find him trust me this i know
2007-05-04 15:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by alex m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been missing for couple of weeks and your now just asking what to do?
2007-05-04 15:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋