Do the abused become abusers?

Question

Do you agree violence begins at home
I think violence ends at home
are people violent if they were heard would they be violent
people are always at war! it is very bad
is that why bullying is let to continue in most schools
cho in virginia was clearly unhurd yet 33 people were killed his life seems now to of been counted
i think maybe if you witness violence you do not want to commit violence you tell me
should anger have to be expressed it is a natual emotion surely people have a right to be heard yet victims are silenced

Answer 1

no not ALL abused become abusers they do one of either become abusers or hate any type of violence me I have been abused and I hate ALL violence abuse has made me become what you call the modern day hippie :) which is a good thing but abuse is NOT good

Answer 2

not all the abused become abusers but most abusers were abused as children in some form or fashion.

As far as the Cho situation, I would bet money he was probably abused in some way as a child either by family or by other people.

What happened on that fateful day was the culmination of a lifelong journey of hell for him in his own mind and life experience. So much hurt in that young man's heart and it was twisted into so much anger. A walking time bomb among the innocent.

That is why I take parenting so darn personal and serious. I know I am molding a future human being who will be let loose on the world and I better make sure there is plenty of love, forgiveness, listening, advice and such while I have them.

Answer 3

ok you covered a lot there.
the abused do not always become the abuser but it would be safe to say that there is an increased chance of that happening.

everybody is different. being heard would be enough for some but not for others. Some people are violent by nature not because of the environment.

Cho in Virginia is a case all to himself. He was mentally ill (a fact the college was unaware of) and not properly medicated. Mental illness is a difficult thing to control at the best of times and definitely unpredictable.

a healthy expression of anger should be encouraged. it is never a good thing to bottle up emotions.

Answer 4

I come from an abusive home because my father was. Thank the Lord we're out of that situation, but because of it, I do mu best to love others because there is enough hatred in this world already. My mother stopped the cycle of abuse with us, and I'm not passing it on to my children either.
But it is sad because if a person isnt strong enough to stop the cycle, then Yes, must of the abused become abusers because they bottle up all their hatred and anger inside and then take it out on the world.

I hope this helped!

God Bless

Answer 5

Yes, the abused may, indeed become the abusers. But it's not necessarily a "done deal."

And yes, anger is most certainly natural. But there is NOTHING "natural" about hurting another living being. Animal or human.

Anger can be expressed in lots of ways, that get the feeling OUT but that is not destructive.

It is not acceptable to hurt ANYONE. Ever.

Answer 6

Anger is a by-product of hurt. So, it seems to me that the natural progression of someone who has been hurt by abuse to be angry if they feel that they were never heard, listened to, believed, and/or helped.

I do NOT believe that the abused all become abusers. I suffered abuse at the hands of a close family member, and I would NEVER want to bully, hit, hurt, demean, or in any way harm a child.

Answer 7

As hard as it is to understand, yes, many do. Children live what they learn. One would think, that as a person who was abused as a child ... they would do everything in their power to protect their own children (as well as others) ... but, for some reason, some (and I stress *some*) don't ... and they mimic the actions of their abusers.

One can't be so naive as to believe that ALL abused children will do the same, but, disturbing as it is ... some do. They raise or treat children how they, themselves, have been 'taught' to treat children. A very sad fact, but true. :(

Answer 8

violents begets violents.
if one was abused then it is verry likely that they become the abuser.
there are sighns to look out for like if they are younger they may abuse small animals, bullying is allso a good sighn,
violent behavior against others usually famaly siblings,
as they get older the turn to easy prey such as mentally handicaped or elderly.

violents gives them a high beouse they have the power to control others.

Answer 9

Abused becoming abusers is a well documented phenomenon. It becomes a learned behavior. The anger, shame, hatred, humiliation, etc. they suffer needs an outlet, so they in turn take these things out on other people and make them feel the same way. Either that or they take it out on themselves.

It's a vicious cycle.

Answer 10

The abused can become abusers, but mainly they turn into well adjusted people. It`s a crazy and unfair saying. I know a few people who were abused as kids - none of them are abusive.