how can you heal?

Question

I was very close to a female friend , we did almost everything together we both had partners but she broke up with her fella and starting seeing another, this is when she stopped answering my text avoided seeing me, i sent txts asking what i had done, tryed ringing but no responce, then i txt her asking if i could come round to pick the things that i left at her house, she agreed, i was so angry i was veru blunt wth her while there but i did txt and say sorry , and again no reply
i helped her thro a very hard time in life and she was there for me and now shes not there i feel the pain of loss,
so any suggestion how the hell i can get her out of my mind cs its breaking my heart and driving me insane

Answer 1

Relationships come and go.
Remember the bird - Set it free and if it comes back, it is yours. If not, it never was.

Try listening to "Bridge Over Troubled Waters" by Art Garfunkel.

Answer 2

The new fellow has control. And she seems like the dependent type, jumping from guy to guy and always having some other Guy friends for when she is in a pinch. When the new relationship goes bad, she'll come around. I am not condemning her behavior, it is hard for women to get by in this system o things. Just realize and accept her weaknesses, and be patient. you have deep love for her, so let her know that your door is always open, and for whatever reason she is avoiding you now, that you are sorry an you will be there when she is ready. be very blunt in saying that the invitation does not have an expiration date. And since it seems that this new partner is way too controlling, i suspect that you wont have to wait too long before she confides in you to find a way out.

Answer 3

Oh Boy! I had a friend and I want to believe we still are! We were so connected and especially on an artistic point of view. We met in a foreign country as exchange student and we were foreigner to one another after a few months we both left the country and went back to respective home. we kept in touch two years, updating news every week and I was suffering at the same time because of his physical absence in my life. I needed two years to be over it. I realized that if I don't move on I will never fall in love with someone real! I think you are in love with your friend, it will take time to heal, time heals but please try to forget cause disappointment , love wounds and frustration destroy somebody

Answer 4

I'm sure this new venture of her not wanting anything to do with you has nothing to do with you could very well be her new BF becoming jealous and asking her to not talk to guys in general i know this must really hurt to be loosing a best friend or even a sister but this seems to happen to everyone i had a best guy friend who told me one day out of the blue with nothing that could of predicted that he was going to tell me that he didn't want to be friends with me anymore then he asked me to leave after i asked him if he could only tell me why and for a while i wondered if it had anything to do with something i did but after a while i realized that it didn't he just grew up and didn't need me anymore to be there for him the only thing i can say for the pain i felt is that it dims with time and the best thing i can say is to be there for her out of love if she ever needs you again but i wouldn't get my hopes up on it because the last time i saw my best friend was at my little brother graduation for his little sister was in his year too and i just stared at him from a distance thinking how happy he was and how much i wished i could walk over there and be happy with them but i knew that it wasn't my place anymore to be there for him because he's engaged to a women whos pregnant and i had to realize that he has everything that i could give him and more right there within his wife i guess you just have to find a way to cope with it and move on with your life too
hope this helps

Answer 5

Hey Steve,

Find someone that wants to be with you. That will take your mind off of the obsession with the previous. Time will help too. Take it one day at a time. When you think of her, do something, like run in place - and think of where you might go to find someone new.

You know it is over, so get over it. You have a valuable life, don't waste it over someone you cannot have.

Answer 6

you heal by excerise and working out.