Is there anyone who likes kids, but doesn't want to have any of their own because it just isn't practical?

Question

I like kids. All my friends have kids and I am a godmother to 2 little girls. However, I simply can't afford them or find a man suitable to have them with. I also, know that by the time I am financially stable and after I go to grad school, I will be too old and looking forward to enjoying the freedom that school has denied me for so many years.

Anyone else agree that having kids just isn't practical now-a-days???

Oh and don't tell me I'm going to change my mind. I doubt that I will and that isn't my point.

Answer 1

No, I think many women today feel like you do. I mean, there is a reason why the birth rate is down. Also, it is becoming much harder for women to find suitable partners. We are more and more educated, we have spent half our lives building a successful career, we are busy, busy, and the thought of having all our hard work be halted and become dependent on a man makes your point very valid. However, I do believe it is a sad thing that this what it has come to. I mean, women need to have children, I just wish society would make life a bit easier for women. Look at Quebec, they had the second lowest birth rate in the world a decade ago, so they implemented more 7$ a day daycares, gave a lot more compensation to mothers and parents, put more money into social services for mothers and families, and its gone way up since... All this to say that I agree with your point.

Answer 2

When my sister was young,
she decided to be a kid
and not have a kid. When
she finished school, she went
out and got her career started.
It's going great guns and she still
isn't looking at having any kids.
She is however, the greatest
Aunt in the world. She takes
everyone's kids every where.
She's mad crazy about them,
if, they can be returned, before
the clock strikes midnight.
She wants to spend her time,
on herself, going around the world
and doing whatever she has a mind
to do. Some of her jealous friends,
say she should have tried to have
a kid. I say, she was smart enough,
to know herself well enough, and
not make that mistake. Few people,
are strong enough, to go their own
way in life. They don't need the
opinions of others. No rules, no labels.

Answer 3

I love kids, I realize they are very impractical, and yet I have one. The logic side of my brain says they are too expensive, time consuming, and all but my hormones tell me, "Reproduce!". Not everybody is meant to be a parent and there is nothing wrong with that. I go ga-ga over babies and children, but some women could care less. My grandma had 3 children and says it was the worst mistake she ever made, because she lost her freedom. I love being a mom and find it very rewarding. Different strokes for different folks. Don't have kids if you don't want them. The world is already overpopulated.

Answer 4

I love kids and volunteer and teach pre-schoolers & kindergartners.

I too am demanding a GOOD man before I have kids. I'm a motherless child so; I need a man with a good up - bringing, values, patience, and family network (yes I want a darn good mother-in-law). I expect that I'll be a maniac when I have kids ... but still look forward to any opportunities that might come my way. Faith, Hope, and love are all that lasts!!!

Answer 5

I agree with you about children just not being practical. If I can't afford them financially, then it's not an option, especially if you haven't found someone to have them with. I probably will have kids someday, but I'll have them later in life, when I'm settled, married, and to old to be out in the clubs (when my biological clock starts ticking). But until then, I don't want to stress myself out about having kids when I'm not ready. So, yeah, I think kids aren't as practical as they once were, with all the things people have to put into perspective nowadays.

Answer 6

I personally think it's comendable that you have the common sense to realize that you don't have to have children of your own to feel fullfilled in life.. I love children, I have my own. But it's not for everyone. You may change your mind in the future, but if you don't that's fine. If you get older and feel as if you shouldn't have any there are always other options to feel that parental sensation. You can get involved with childrens orphanages, big brother and sisters programs or just be as involved in your god childrens lives as much as possible. But i don't think it's a case of kids not being practical these days, it's just not practical for everyone.

Answer 7

I totally agree. I love kids and I'm pretty good with them, but not over the long-term. The world has too many people as it is, I hate the idea of pregnancy and delivery, and I don't want to deal with a husband OR single parenthood. I would rather just focus on my career and leave the rest to women who want it. My brother will have children, and I'll be a Cool Aunt.

Answer 8

I have a friend who LOVES kids, she's great with them. But just doesn't want'em. Not because they're "not practical", but because they're a LOT of work and she just doesn't want kids.
Nothing wrong with it at all. I won't say you'll change your mind, because no one knows that.
I applaud your practicality! And BRAVO for not wanting to get knocked up by just any schmoe and expecting the taxpayers to support your kids.

Answer 9

If I knew then what I know now I would not have had my son 14 years ago. AAAAGGGHHHH!!!!!

I would have extra money saved, and more time to travel and experience the world.

I may sound selfish but when is it going to be my time?

Love him to death, but parenting is a major chore on top of my fulltime employment.

Answer 10

i like kids with ages ranging from 3 to 7..after that they get annoying..before that they are crying too much..and you can't talk to them..i would love to adopt...have my own kids? well, yeah ..i guess...