My girlfriend is 8 months pregnant. Help!?

Question

She wants me to take about 2-3 months off work before and after the birth. I can't really afford to. How can I break the news to her?

And i mean a month before birth, and 2 months after!

Answer 1

Your the boss, just tell her.
She should have thought about all that before she got pregnant.



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Answer 2

If she is 8 months pregnant now then there is no way you can take the 2-3 months off before the birth. But anyway sit her down and tell her the truth. Tell her you can't afford to do that and you refuse to take money away from your child. Tell her you are willing to take some time off but not that much. Take however much time off you can afford. If she doesn't like it then to bad. She will have to get over it. You are working to put food in your child's belly, clothes on his/her back, and a roof over his/her head. She as a mother has to realize you are doing the right thing.

Answer 3

Just sit her down and explain that you will be with her as much as you can leading up to the birth, but that you cannot possibly take two to three months off work before and after the birth.

That isn't really even a reasonable request, the way it sounds then you would not be at work for like 6months, and that just isn't possible.

Try to be with her DURING the delivery however and for a few days after IF you can. To make sure she is settled in . And then just let her know that you will be by her side through the labor and delivery.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Taking months of work is the most rediculous thing I ever heard! You should be working overtime!
If you live in the UK and are employed (not self employed) you are entitled to take 8 weeks of, in the first five years of the birth, you wont get payed, but you will not use up your payed holiday either.
Your partner would be sick of the site of you surely after a few months of sitting around moping up sick, and you will be hating each other, also what will you talk about at the end of each day??

I don't understand, perhaps you are a millionaire and don't need the cash, or maybe you are on the social and get all your bills payed! 3 months of? ha ha ha

Answer 5

You poor thing! Explain to her that the best thing you could do for her and the baby is to make money. Money that will be much needed after the baby comes. Babies are expensive emotionally and financially. Comfort her by telling her you will be there as much as you can for her and your new arrival. You deserve kudos for sticking by her and she should understand that. That being said remember pregnant women are on a hormonal roller coaster, leaving them feeling very vulnerable, so be as loving as you can while explaining your fears.
Are there any other family members or friends available for emotional support? This would be a great help if someone could be there when you can't so she doesn't feel deserted. I know this sounds silly but some people have very vivid imaginations and when you're pregnant emotions explode. Some women handle pregnancy wonderfully, but if she's anything like me, watch out.
Remind her that keeping your job is an important role for you to contribute as a dad. Daddy's are wonderful to have around but if the bills can't be paid then everyone will be miserable.
The most important thing in having a child is to love him/her and by keeping your job so you can clothe and feed him/her, is your way of say I love you.

Good luck
Hope I helped
Jane

Answer 6

I think she just wants the support, but if it not possible financially, explain it to her. Just make sure that you mention that you want to be able to help care for the baby in all aspects, and that it requires a bit of money. My fiance is fortunate enough to be able to take 2 months off (unpaid) and we can do it because we've been saving up since we found out I was expecting. If she gets upset (which she might because of hormones) then perhaps you can compromise somehow by being there whenever you aren't working. BTW, Have you tried requesting some type of paid vacation? Just be honest with her and explain why you can't. Try to be as gentle as possible. Good luck to you both!

Answer 7

If she is 8 months pregnant already, how could you take 2-3 months off work before the birth? Humans normally deliver in the 9th month. Who exactly is your girlfriend?

Answer 8

Just explain to her that you will take the week the baby is born and stay home with her a couple of days after the baby is born . Then you will have to go back to work so that you can support them. She is probable just emotional and scared if this is her first baby. I know with our first my husband could only take a week off and then my mom and sister also took a weeks vacation at different times so that I could have help. I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and he will only be able to take one week off with this birth.

Answer 9

you should just be honest with her. Sit her down and very nicely tell her that you will try to take off work as much as you possibly can but you probably wont be able to get more than a week or two. make sure you understand that you will spend all of your free time with her and not just hanging out with other people.. IF she is a first time mom then this time is very stressful for her and she probably just needs reassurance that you are still going to be there for her after the baby is born.

Answer 10

Hi there,

You need to sit her down and talk to her but very very gently and explain that you can't afford to do so but not only that she will be such a great mum that you will just get in her way. But that you would REALLY love to take that time off to be with her and your baby.

You need to make sure you are there for her as much as you possibly can be and then more so once baby is here though because life changes big time.

Communication is the key as they say.....

Good luck

YW

Answer 11

Hi, I would sit down with her and explain that you are only entitled to 2 weeks paternity leave, you could lose your job if you take any longer. Tell her how you need to work to support your family. Have you any other members of your family that could give her a helping hand, i know it is hard bringing up a baby but we have all done it. And as long as the baby is in a routine she will be fine.