I am upset and sick What should I do?

Question

I am 13 years old and at school im being bullied and made fun of now I feel like hurting myself and im not eating and I cant take it anymore I've gotten some help but that didn't help What should I do?

Answer 1

Okay.
I want you to do what I say as your reading it..

- Take a DEEP BREATH and start counting backwards from 10..
- As you reach number 7 begin exhaling..
- untill you get to 0.
Now..
Relax all your muscles.. And forget about EVREYTHING for just a few minutes..
Get your IPod..
And listen to some relaxing music as you slowly begin to relase all that stress and imagine putting it in a chest..
Now.. As your putting it away inhale and exhale with each thing thats stressing you...
When you think your done..
Imagine closing the chest with a secret key..
And hide that key somewhere else..
Now slowly open your eyes..
- If you ever want to go back to face that stress or get rid of it..
You will always have the key to get back to whats stressing you..
Tell me how its going!
- Ciao

Answer 2

Hi,
First of all Honey my heart goes out to you! I was bullied at you age too and it is not a nice experience.
I dont know if you are in the UK or USA, but basically there are things you can do.
You say you asked for help and it didnt help. Who did you ask? Can you talk to a parent? Or an aunt? Or an older sister? Or even a friend you can confide in.
If none of these is a good idea then think of your favourite teacher and ask to talk to them after class. You need to confide in an adult who can help you.
the next stage is for them to hellp you to tackle the school. this should not be allowed to go on any more. There should be no tolerance at all for bullying.
You say you are not eating, and thinking of hurting yourself.
Just because these idiots make you feel bad about yourself, please polease do not believe them! they are total idiots and they are the losers and not worth knowing. You are a unique, individual, sensitive girl! Don't let the idiots win! If you hurt yourself then thay have won! You have to get strong! you have to fight back! I dont mean literally i just mean you have to say to yourself THIS IS WRONG< THEY ARE NOT GOING TO GET AWAY WITH THIS, and do whatever it takes to make sure they cannot do this to you more. They are the ones who are in the wrong, not you. No one, Listen to me NO ONE desrves to be bullied. It is totally wrong.
As I said to you at the start I was bullied at you age and worse yet I was at bording school, so I couldnt escape it. Luckily in the end the staff found out and it all was put a stop to. but nothing would have happened without the head teacher on my (and my friend who was also bullied) s side. So I urge you...PLEASE ask an adult! Or if there is a help line, we here in UK have Childline, ring it! They can also give you good advice and are experts unlike me! Im just sympathetic.
Look please eat too. You will achieve nothing by starving yourself because pain turned in like that damages you..not them! Trust me, Ive been there. Try and turn that pain into anger and do something about it. I know its hrd but the wort bit is the first part getting someone on your side....

I wish you so much luck. Senidng you hugs and courage. Keep your chin up! You are a worthwhile person, those idiots are not worth this!!

Answer 3

Are there specific areas where you are being made fun of? Why are you standing out to these people? Clothes, hair, shoes, lack of deodorant, glasses . . . you can do something about these!!!! Can you find somebody you can trust and ask them what you can do to blend in better? A friend, a counselor, who will be honest with you? Does your family have certain standards that make you "different" that you could talk to your parents about?

Secondly, you need to talk to a school counselor. She or he should be aware of the situation. Odds are, you are NOT the only person who is being treated this way.

Third, talk to your parents. Are they aware of the situation?

Fourth, try really hard to form some friendships that give you a peer group. School will be out soon - can you find some friends to hang with this summer so that when you go back to school you'll have some supporters?

Bullies belittle other people to make themselves feel better. Try to think of them as having three heads or orange hair or being really rotten on the inside. Perhaps a response of "I am sorry you feel so bad about yourself that you have to pick on me" will shut them down.

Answer 4

Can ur mom take you and place you in a private school or go to homeschool? It is unfair that you should be abused every day and be forced to go to a place that is not safe for you. That also happened to me and it was h*** for me but nobody ever helped me.

Another idea is a registered letter from a lawyer to the school threatening a lawsuit for depriving you of your civil rights and harrassment and abuse. It is the school's duty to provide a safe environment for you. You can carry a hidden recorder and document the abuse. Then you can send copies of the taped recording to the parents and the school authorities. The most important thing you can do is to stand up for yourself. Don't be embarrassed or intimidated, because you are right and they are WRONG. I am trying to help a kid in my neighborhood who is going through something just like this also. He comes home from school crying bcuz the mean kids are abusing him. This really p***es me off.

You must also know that this time of life will be over soon and things will get SO much better in high school and college. Eventually, you will be successful and happy, and you will be reading about these jerks in the newspaper (this also happened to me, I read how some of the kids who abused me went to jail for armed robbery) Some jerks just grow up to be older jerks who try to boss everybody around in the PTA meetings.....oh well, when you are older you just have to laugh at them cuz they are pathetic still.

Answer 5

Others are hurting you, so your going to as well?? think about that for a minute. Maybe you need to ask your parents to allow you to change schools or maybe as them to call the school or maybe even call the bullys' parents.

you need to remember who you are, not who others think or try to make you.

why dont you try to volunteer somewhrere in your community to make yourself feel better about yourself.

those who are bulling you are really insecure themselves, that is why they are doing what they do to you, to get attention for themselves.

The main thing is dont stoop to their level..rise above it and go on. I know it could be hard at times but the main thing to remember is that one day you will blossom into a very beautiful flower that everyone will want to be a part of.

Just hold on and dont do anything stupid, this is just a "speed bump" in you whole life. Be the bigger person and know in your heart you are so much better than them

Good Luck

Answer 6

First go see your coucilor, second, face your fears, the bully off school grounds when there alone without there friends. It's the only way. Why would you let 1 person rule your life, take care of business

Answer 7

*Hurting yourself its going to make the probles go away.*

Never let them see you cry...it will only make things worse. No matter how hard things get always keep a smile on your face, it confuses the bullies! School will be out in a few weeks and you wont have to deal with the b!tches that are picking on you.

As far as not eating....girl, you're trippin'!!!! There are too many delicious snacks & treats to be consumed. Its our duty as humans to eat as much ice cream, pizza, BBQ, curly fries and mac n' cheese as we possibly can!

Answer 8

<~~~~~~~~~~ Agrees with Jayzzzz but in the real world.. blah blah....
Go to a guidance counselor and complain and tell him you want this to be private and for the others not to know that you were in his office. He can get the bullies together and tell them it wasnt you who told but he found out from other sources.. Trust me, they are trained to take care of situations like this. Don't hurt yourself..

Answer 9

just ignor the ppl that are being mean im sure you are a beautiful person it dont matter what they think of you all it matters is what you think of you.it is not worth hurting yourself over.all you have to do is make it though school then you will be away from them all good luck and god bless

Answer 10

if i was u i wouldnt let anybody bother me so u need 2 stand up 4 yo self and face the bully