we are really close and have a great relationship, its also not because the worry of getting me pregnant. i want to know what other issues could cause this to happen? or if this has happened to anyone else, and any ideas on how to resolve this, and what more i can do. i dont want this to become an issue in our relationship.
2007-05-04 02:11:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
My husband was exactly the same. He felt inadequate when we made love and worried about his performace, etc which also made it worse. The next time we had sex he was more nervous about not coming which only aggravated the situation.
Just reassure your guy that you love him anyway even when you're as frusterated as hell and find a position where he feels more.
We found out that at the end of session he took me from behind while i stood with my feet closed made it a bit easier for him to come. Can your guy come with oral sex? If yes then there's no problem there.
My husband still struggles some days so just hang in there. Trust me i know its hard but try everything and see, let me know how it goes
2007-05-04 03:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tabby T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I went out with this really cute guy- great body- everything.
We would go out when we both had babysitters and have a few drinks- it took him a little longer than anyone else I had known, but he was able to "finish".
As time went on, I noticed he was having this problem.I tried to address the issue with him at some point because I began to wonder if he wasn't finding me attractive. He assured me, that wasn't the case, but something was clearly changing.
He would end up trying to rub one out and he would practically beat himself to death (if you know what I mean).
Once he made me go to the doctor with him because his erections began to not last very long- the doctor assured him he was normal, but I don't think he told the doctor about his self medicating.
The relationship didn't go on for too much longer since I found out that he was snorting coke and he guzzling booze behind my back, and that made him practically numb.
I kicked him to the curb- guzzling booze like a closet alcoholic + the drugs weren't my thing.
As he cried when I broke up with him- he admitted he had problems involving heavy drinking in the past and we all snorted a bit of coke in high school- but he never completely stopped. He has since lost his license from his second DUI and is still involved with the coke/pot- some people just don't want to be well.
That is my story- I can't tell you about yours. But maybe I have alerted you to some possibilities.
2007-05-04 03:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by gawd0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it sounds like he has delayed ejaculation. there are other men out there who enjoy sex but are unable to have an orgasm from it. Does he orgasm when he masturbates? if so, then he can do that until he is about to orgasm and then start to have sex with you to finish off. it sounds like a hassle, but thats his biology and you should be able to find a way to get around it and work it out so that it doesnt become a problem. Just remember that if he does have delayed ejaculation, then it isnt you... thats just how he is. do some more research about it on google or something and you will probably be able to find out if thats what your partner has.
2007-05-04 04:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by girlvette2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behind your back he has learned the techniques of Male Multiple Orgasms. Sorry to let the secret out but since you asked I could not resist the temptation to share.
2007-05-04 03:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just read some guy saying that it happens with him. He thinks the condom might be too thick. People advised
him to just hang in there, and it would happen. If both
of you are worried it won't happen, it probably won't.
Nothing like performance stress to ruin it. Just relax and have fun. ( and if he is into self pleasure, he should take a break.)
2007-05-04 02:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IProbably lack of passsion. Its so easy to take stuff for ganted. Give him a reason to want you! Dance for him, put you lips on him. Make him want you! You are probably forgetting how much he loves you. Wake him up in the morn ready for romance!!!! Youll be fine
Nah babeI. its coz yr pregnenent
2007-05-04 03:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This could be a medical condition if this problem persist you all should consult medical advice, but as you've said it really hasn't had too much of a problem within your relationship but as stated again this could be a medical problem.
2007-05-04 02:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by Brian L 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if it's non of those problems above.
He might be gay, actually there is some type of gay guys who act like straight. And after u marry him, u'd find the truth.
2007-05-04 03:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by Erixxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good thing to do is research the following online:
Delayed ejaculation (DE)
Retarded ejaculation (RE)
Inhibited orgasm
Male orgasmic disorder
2007-05-04 02:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's not keeping the same rythm or how ever you spell it. He has to keep going the same way the same pace. If and when it starts to get to feeling good he will change his pace to make it feel better. Is he masturbating too often?
2007-05-04 02:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋