Im feeling a littel quiltey latley. I work M-F and my son goes to day care M,T,W.......Was with his Gram yesterday and now today hes got to be with my hubby's sister. Im starting to feel like a bad mom because I have to do this. Hes 6 month's :( What should I do? I feel like it's good for him, but at the same time he needs his mommy..................
2007-05-04 01:48:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
THANKS JULIE!!!
2007-05-04 01:53:20 · update #1
Awww, I wouldn't feel like a bad mom in your case hun. You are doing everything that you can to provide for the little guy. He will appreciate that once he is older. AND, at least he is with family on some of those days. That makes a BIG difference on those days that he isn't in daycare. On those days he is in daycare he will be learning social skills which will help him as he gets older to interact with others. I had to do the same thing when my daughter was younger and her daddy and I both worked full time. And, he DOES have his Mommy. You are there for him when he really needs you, when it really counts. Not only that, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Cheer up. You are not alone.
2007-05-04 06:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by teashy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it is to leave your little one. What kind of mom would you be if you didnt feel this way. Just asking this question seems to me shows how much you care about your son. When you get to feeling this way think of it like this. Would you be a good mom if you were staying at home but because you werent working you couldnt afford diapers, clothes, rent, electricity,food, toys, etc... You are making sure your son is in a safe enviroment where he will get love and attention and also get to socialize with other kids while you go out and get what is necessary so that your son and get other things he needs too. Also just for the record dont feel guilty if at some time you need a break some time for just you to do something relaxing or for you. There is nothing wrong with your mom occasionally watching your son of an evening for a few hours to let you get a break. You guys need husband and wife time without mommy and daddy interuptions from time to time too.
2007-05-04 09:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by thumpergirl_1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel bad? It's an unfortunate fact that sometimes it's not a financially viable proposition to be a stay at home mum these days. You're working so your son can have everything he needs to thrive. From what you're saying I'm assuming that he's an only child. In which case, sending him to day care while you work is probably more beneficial than you think. As he grows and develops, he will also learn how to interact with other children, which will give him great interpersonal skills when he starts school.
Sure, he needs his Mummy, but he needs clothes, food, a roof over his head as well. Would you be able to cope with all of that if you didn't have your job?
Seriously, you are a great mum for wanting to provide all of this for him, and no-one has the right to make you feel anything but great.
2007-05-04 09:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Tish P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is almost 11 months and I work full time. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I HATE leaving him, I feel like a HORRIBLE mother. I would LOVE to stay home with him. But right now, I have to work and I assume you do too.
The good thing is, we leave our kids with people we trust. And our babies know we love them and will always know who Mom is! Your baby is still a bit young...but mine just started to crawl REAL fast over to me excitedly when I go to pick him up. He laughs, claps maybe lets out a little cry acknowledging that he knows I was gone. It's the MOST wonderful feeling because I finally know that he knows I'm important in his life - even if I'm not there during the day.
You are a great mom...just because you are worried about this issue. Your son is lucky to have you...and within a few months, you'll know just how important you are to him!!!
2007-05-04 09:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Full of Id 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age you have to do what you have to do... It does not make you a bad mom because your son is at the sitter's. It is just a mother's feeling of guilt.. I had it with my daughter... but now that I have 3 kids I chose to stay home until they are all in school full time.. But I do have a bad case of cabin fever from being here all the time..
2007-05-04 08:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There have been babysitters around for as long as there have been teenage and pre-teen girls and there have been parents who wanted a night off.
At 6 months, it's perfectly normal to have the separation anxiety you're having about leaving your baby with someone else. He needs to start to be exposed to other people eventually so he won't have problems when he starts school.
So no, you're not a bad mom.
2007-05-04 08:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mitch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its fine aslong as this doesn't carry on for much longer because sooner or later the poor kid isn't going to know who his actual mother is! But as long as its with family, no harm done, don't ever leave your baby with a complete stranger!!! Don't feel bad! You are entitled to a life too!
2007-05-04 08:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by curlyguitar <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard for you to leave him all day, but you know he's in good hands. And, you know he loves his Gramma too. You're not a bad mother.
Bad mothers leave their kids with Grandma and stay out all day AND night. Bad mothers stay home all day and drink beer and scam Welfare.
Be proud of yourself, you have a job!! You work! Supporting your family is a good thing.
2007-05-04 08:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by clever nickname 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, little pussa cat!! Please don't fret cos your baby is being really well cared for and is probably the most loved baby on earth!! Your heart is as big and soft and warm as mine girl, I know where you're coming from ................ he's an extremely lucky little boy that his mama works that extra bit jus for baby!! ....................Think of it this way, all you need to ever do is the best you possibly can and jus squeeze every possible ounce of lovin you can into mommy and baby time!! You're doing jus fine and should be real proud of yourself!! Well, d*amn girl, I am!! ...................... ha!
CHEERS
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2007-05-04 09:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Minx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
separation is hard to do when they are that age,he does have his mommy ,if he needed you you would be there in a flash,your not neglecting him in any way,your a good mom out there busting her butt, and he has you to love him when you get home,you know he is getting alot of attention when he isn't with you!
2007-05-04 08:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋