I am 25 years old; I married my GF when I was 16; don’t ask how I ended up with 8 kids. The love of my life pat away last year in a car accident & since then life is just “no words to explain it”.
I am not a benefit sponger or anything I am a marketing director so money is the last worry in my life. My kids are hard to handle and no babysitter wants to look after them. Matter fact I had a work colleague come over to my house and my youngest kid “asked her to suck his so called INVADER 99”; she obviously laughed but having 8 kids and being a single father + a job is not the easiest thing to do.
I don’t want them to go to boarding school because when they are around I can stop missing my wife. My options for working from home are very limited since I have to meet clients on a daily basis. Even if I look for another woman I am sure she will not give her life up to be a mother of 8 disasters with no life.
WHAT SHALL I DO?
2007-05-04 01:13:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
8 disasters ::??? open up a ready made nursery ::::::::(think of your hiring opportunities::!!
2007-05-04 01:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST -Sorry for the loss of your wife and the loss of your children's mother. It must be very hard on ALL of you.
SECOND - - Vesectomy - Just in case you find somebody else to share your life with. You do NOT need more kids.
Are there any family members to help you out??? Do you go to church? If you do not go to chruch - try going - there are plenty of people there that can help you.
Since money is not a concern - get the kids into therapy - they are more than likely acting out due to the loss of their mother. They are desperately seeking attention and even negative attention is attention. If you try this and none of these options work - BOOT CAMP for kids with behavior problems.
Look for a Nanny - - place an ad in the paper for a former Marine Drill Sgt. - - - - If they can handle a platoon of young kids and turn them into Marines - They can straighten out your kids.
How the hell did you become a Marketing Director in the first place - you do NOT know HOW you got 8 kids??? Were you drugged and taken advantage of?????
THIRD - - - Get yourself some therapy as well to help you deal with all the stress you are dealing with in your life right now. 8 kids, no wife, no help - who wouldn't be stressed.
Good Luck to you all.
2007-05-04 01:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by Perfect_Brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are ace no matter how they are, hire a housemaid for during the week (i loved my housemaid when i was younger) and spend the weekend with ur kids make it a sticktly jus for ur kids, or put the younger ones in a nursery and the older ones should be able to stay in an after school club and by the time they come home they will all be nackerd. It will pay off in the end and you will find that the older once start looking after the younger ones. I wouldnt advice bording school my mum was in one when she was younger and she hated it, apprently its too strict and im the type to let my kids have fun. I would love to have so many kids i wouldnt even need a man to keep me accupied, I have 2 of my own (love them to bits and love ebing a mum) and was looking into fostering but my partener refuses but i wish you all the best and you have my respect for doing a good job so far.
or hire a nanny x
2007-05-04 01:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There r women out there that can do the job.... She better have a great sense of humor.... And PATIENCE.... Ya never know.... she may be able to do this and work part time too. It all depends on the way its layed out and w/ your help in some areas,it can be done . It takes alot of scheduleing and the family working as a family unit. If there r older kids this can help troo. NO boarding schools.... out of the question..... The family is just that a family . They need to stay together to make this work!!!! A team effort!!!!
2007-05-04 01:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your wife but didn't you realize as you and your wife were popping out children that this would be rough? Kids are a lot of work and expensive. I cant imagine 8 I think that I would commit myself. I am sure that you can find someone to help you care for them, you have no choice. Maybe there is someone that needs a room and and you can trade a room for babysitting?? Good luck you Will need it with that bunch.
2007-05-04 01:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are going to be kids. You have not specified their ages so it is hard to say how old are they. But, it may be better to talk to oldest kid first and then all of them, if they can understand your problem. Kids are smart and they do have good gut instincts for everything. Maybe a small chat may help you set up straight with them, if you ask there help in keeping things straight etc...out of the 8 if you can find one who can take charge, few who can show there love by helping you...you are set....
2007-05-04 01:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need sympathy, hence I am not giving it. You will get people to look after your kids. Or else find a woman who can be your partner and a mother to your children. You will get her if you try hard. Just because you dont miss your partner with th4se children does not mean that they should always be with you. When they are to be educated, they are to be sent to boarding. You have to be realistic.
2007-05-04 01:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you seem to be comfortable off you should go to a reputable agency and find housekeeping/childcare help. However good the agency is, never as precious as your children so seek reference and keep an eye through neighbours, friends etc that your children are kept safe. Good luck.
2007-05-07 12:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 kids in what 8/9 years...thats means she got pregnant every year having one child after another!!HOLY MOTHER OF PEARL!! im guessing ur oldest wont be more than 10 years old and the youngest what 1?..havent you ever heard of condoms??
2007-05-04 02:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by oooops! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bypass to a keep outdoors of your community,that way you won't see everybody which you be conscious of.Or purchase different products and cover up the relies upon til you get to the counter.positioned the nappies on the counter first so it could get bagged and be out of sight.
2017-01-09 11:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by buono 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Laern how to control the general and his lil soldiers.
2) Get help and soon,. dont send the kids to bording school. Get help fast!!
3)if the woman really loves you she will love the kids and put up with them.
get help!!!!
2007-05-07 09:36:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋