Sometimes I wonder have I given myself too much in pleasing other people to ensure things are running smoothly all the time.
2007-05-03 22:31:14 · 8 answers · asked by curiouscarp88 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You give to people so that they are happy. And their happiness makes you happy. But when the people you sacrifice for become selfish and instead of acknowledging and respecting your feelings, they begin to ask for more, thats when you know you have to STOP. This is your life, you need to make it smooth but not at the cost of your feelings getting abused. When you find this is happening, when you start questioning what your kindness got you, thats when you need to stop.
Giving is a two way game. You have to give and take. Taking doesnt have to be anything materialistic . . . just something that makes you feel like you are appreciated for your sacrifice. If you dont find this, I am afraid you have been giving to the wrong people.
And to the right kind of people, I dont think you can ever give quite enough. Because then you dont feel you are giving anything. Because you get twice the amount back for what you give. Unless this is present, I think you have given enough.
You know, you dont always have to be the one to part with something to make things run smoothly. The other people included in your life have to want it enough too and work at it together. If they dont, then your efforts are a waste. And after some tries, I guess you need to pull back now or else in the whole process, you will lose yourself.
You can live to fight obstacles only if you have your soul still alive within you, which gives you the aura of individuality in a crowd. But if you lose yourself in the fight, you can never win back life. Life is yours, inside you. Make it big.
Wish you all the happiness in the world!
2007-05-03 23:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Runa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You reap what you sow. We shouldn't expect anything back because of what we give to others. You should hope for the best, and pray for the rest. Give because it is in your capacity, and in your heart, to do so. Don't give only to expect something in return. Most of the time it will be given back to you in a most favorable way. You should be giving to others, but through experience, you will learn to use wisdom on whether or not you're just butting your head up against a wall.
2007-05-04 05:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot please all the people all the time! You have given too much when their happines is at your expense. Give, but don't allow yourself to be a doormat or victim, because then you are not helping anyone. You are not the higher being, just a human, and somtimes we never know .
2007-05-04 05:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mate. In life's little games there has to be winners and losers. If you look around and all you see is winners, you know you have to be the loser.
That sounds harsh, but its a lesson I learned through a lot of pain and many years.
I honestlly sympathise with you. The hurt can crucify you, can't it?
x
2007-05-04 07:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
that might be your purpose in life, however u know when u have given enough when u have nothing left for yourself. The first thing u owe to people is making sure you are o.k first, otherwise what good r u to them?
2007-05-04 05:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Convince Pete 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are doing something for someone and you feel 'you are giving' then is the time to stop and think. Do you want to do this or is it 'giving'? If it is 'giving 'then stop. If you want to do it then you are not 'giving' or 'being used'.
2007-05-04 06:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by leximp 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when you start talking about it and asking your self it means you gave more then enough.
2007-05-04 05:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not necessry to answer. You know the answer yourself.
jtm
2007-05-04 05:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋