i've been with these people for two years now in college.. at first it was great, but i am having a feeling that they may not really like me at all... like when they are planning to go to a movie, only one of them invites me.. but they wait for me during break... they are nice but every time all of us get together, it seems as if i got nobody to talk seriously to. i can't even tell them a secret the way i tell other friends outside this circle of friends... if i go with other people, they make me feel guilty as if they are saying that they don't matter anymore! but if i am there with them, most of them are just ignoring me and just looking past me.. as if i'm not there. should i get out of this circle of friends??? hope to hear from you...
2007-05-03 22:18:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It sounds like you answered your own question. If they are strictly college friends, just hang out with them when it's convenient for you and start to cultivate friendships with other people.
2007-05-03 22:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry to hear that.
I feel ur pain in a way.
This is really up to you tho but here is what I think. If you feel like they don't like you than mostly it's true. Yes you should get out of the circle and this time find just one or two friend that you can trust and be friends with. The more you have, the more fun you get but at times the more you have, the more you forget.
2007-05-04 05:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me they sound like they are your friends, but not best friends. Everyone has those kind of aquaintences/friends. Everyone has a few good friends that you can actually just sit down and talk to. I have about 3 or 4 "good" friends, and 3 "best friends". The rest are just friends that we can just get together and do things with. I don't tell them secrets or my life history. I have my good friends and my best friends that I can do that with. My other friends are nice people and that is fine. They don't judge me for having my good or best friends, if they do that, then they shouldn't be my friends to begin with. Some people you will meet in your life will be your friends and they will drift away and you will have good memories of them. I believe that they were there for a while for a reason. It is ok to move on if you feel it is time to move on. You can still see them and be polite or go to a movie or go out to eat on occasion if you feel the need. It is ok to make new friends too. It is necessary in our lives to make new friends. You will keep in contact with old friends too. I had a best friend in high school who I no longer keep in contact with. I miss her. She moved north and I moved south. I have new best friends, but she is still on my mind. I consider my boyfriend my best friend. I have a best friend in another country who just moved there. I keep in contact with her. She was my roommate for 3 years. I have one more here about 45 min away. I also have some very good friends who I go out and do things with. Some friends like to fish, some do not. I love to fish. You will be fine with whatever you choose to do. Look into your heart and see what is best for you. Sometimes people are not always going to attentive to you, even though they do like you as a friend. They may have other things on their minds that they are not sharing. Don't take it personally either.
2007-05-04 05:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to have a lot of firends...
In my opinion....
There are many kind of friends....
You can not treat all of them in the same way because they are different...
And it's just normal thing. Don't feel guilty about it.
There are friends for hang out...
friends for hobbies activity...
friends to talk about secret...
and best friends...
and many more...
for example :
There are 2 friends:
Susan : mouthy
Laura : can keep secret
you don't tell your secret to someone who are mouthy...
but it doesn't mean that you ignore Susan,...
you still love Susan the way she is...
So I suggest...you keep your friends(which you said in the circle). And keep making a lot of friends...
May be they are can not be your best friend....
so what...
You have a lot of friend..
nothing to loose...
And one thing : Don't think too much!
for example : when they say that they don't matter anymore because you hanging out with somebody else...
They must hanging out with someone else too outside the circle right...??
Your friends(outside the circle)...can be their friends too right?
Their friends ... can be your friends too ...
so...take it easy...!
be happy!
:)
2007-05-04 05:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by starshine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could ask one of the group that seems a better friend to you if they know what's going on, if still no Joy, then consider what you feel is best for you! It seems to me as though they are Just making you feel extremely sad and vulnerable good luck :)
2007-05-04 09:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that makes me think about how i might have treated people...
think about it like this, youre probably the quiet guy of the group. you may not feel important, but you probably are more important than you realize. Generally, if only one person is calling to invite you, someone is probably going, hey, you call so and so, and they call you. in my circle of friends, we generally recognize the heirarchy, even though its unspoken. I'm the one that gets stuck calling people etc, my friend is the one thats usually calls if i dont want to.
2007-05-04 05:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably hotter than all them or they envy you in some way. I hear girls are like that and I work with plenty to be told this by them. Jealousy. You should be in a new circle or start your own. Become the alpha female.
2007-05-04 05:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by lemon cheese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with them, quit.
Hope you are not too sensitive and over reacting, because you may find the same situation with the new lot.
If you know them for two years there must be at least one to whom you can voice your doubts. Alone if need be.
2007-05-04 05:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by A.V.R. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY AND CONTENT... I HAD A GROUP OF FRIENDS THAT I USED TO HANG OUT WITH, AND IT STARTED TO GET WIERD BECAUSE THEY WERE INTO THINGS THAT I WASNT, SO OVER TIME I BEGAN TO DISTANCE MYSELF FROM THEM. AND JUST MADE NEW ONES.
2007-05-04 05:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by beckybounce226 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best way out of this problem is to ask ur heart nd walk on the way it shows but still give ur frend just 1 more chance!!!!!
2007-05-04 05:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by cool d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋