Why do women find it hard to obey and respect their husbands in this generation?

Question

what happened to ...to love and to obey till death do us part.
why cant women just allow a man make all the decison
who brought this Idea that a man and a woman are in parnership

why cant men have sex on demand

Why cant a woman hand over all her wages at the end of the month /week/day to her Husband or man ,trusting that he will make good use of it for the common good of the family

why cant we have it on our school sylabus that women are inherently subservient to men

The reason why so many marriages have ended in divorce is because people dont put to practice my opinion

Answer 1

I do not know what religion you are but in the bible in the beginning god created man and woman the woman to be a helper. They were equal but the man a leader. I am perfectly willing to do all this and in fact did. (I just lost my job so there is no income to hand over). I would love the fact that my husband would be able to make wise decisions but in fact he says he cannot make a decision, he does not know what to do and leaves it up to me. He is muslim(not practicing but teachings are still in his head) and I am christian. I did not mind handing over my check to him, I do not mind obeying as long as it does not go against god's wishes. However we live in sweden and I had managed to save(he was not working) 40,000 kronors. He took all of it and spent it. It was money I worked and gave to him because he said I had to. He spent it on computer stuff for his business that he wanted to start. Ok there was nothing I could do but after 4 years he has never been able to replace it. In fact we wonder each day if we will have more than ghormet sabzee and rice or beans and rice or be able to buy more than bread. What kind of good decisions did he make? I am crticized all the time. He buys meatballs ( a favorite here in sweden) and then says he refuses to eat them. Should I use common sense my own common sense or should I listen exactly to what he says do exactly what he says. A case in point. I was barbquing. this was in his vegetable stage (he has stages where he will eat something and then not eat it again for years) I had put the vegetables in a bowl and then started cooking them. He wantd me to put them on a plate ( a plate mind you that he had refused to eat off of for 2 months--who knows why) I explained calmly to him I had a bowl to put them in thinking I had to do the dishes why make extra oh and he hates for me to do the dishes sometimes becaus the sound of running water bothers him. I never know when this will happen so I try to wait till he is gone to wash them. Anyway, After the veggies were done I put them in the bowl thinking he understood that that was a wise course of action. He took the veggies threw them on the plate and crushd the bowl. Now you tell me why is it so hard to be obedient? He took all my money, he treats me with disrespect. In sex which he can have any time he wants he fails to please me. He throws my legs ups in the air pumps away till he is done and gets up and leaves. I should do all this till death do us part? Yes I should do I want to no I want to kill myself because I cannot take this for another 50 years. where is the respect I deserve and the leadership I deserve? and the understanding? and the good sex? Why can't I say what is on my mind? Why must I "listen" while he does all the talking. Am I to be a silent partner? You tell me why it is so hard. Why must I be a slave? Is that what you are thinking women should be just like I have described what my husband does to me? I
came into this marriage ready to obey for the rest of my life and now I want my life to be over. OK? So don't say that there are people that won't allow a man to make a decision. They should. Marriage is sort of a partnership it is 2 people if a husband makes decisions for the family that's great but when it comes to big decisions it should be discussed between the 2 of you. The wife just might have something valuable to say. Ultimately though I agree that in the end the leaders decision is final.

Answer 2

Let see:

The first part of the marriage vows ask the bride and groom to love, honor and cherish.
In order to receive the for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, etc...that needs to be in place. That's why it is first.

Now, lets say, why don't you hand your paycheck over to your wife, and trust that she will make good use of it for the common good of the family? Kind of insulting isn't it? To tell someone all they are good for is a paycheck, and that once they have earned it, they have no say in how it is spent? We used to have such an institution: It was called Slavery.

Men CAN have sex on demand as long as they are entertaining themselves. If you want sex with a partner, then some consideration has to be shown for the partner. People do not just walk up to people and go, "Hey, I want sex now, so get to it." It's rude, and it is not how someone involved in intimate sex acts with you should be treated. Kind of takes the desire to pleasure your partner right out of it. Both partners should take something positive from the experience of intimacy. Also, sex on demand is available from any local whore. Most women prefer not to be treated like a whore.

You cannot put in the school syllabus that women are inherently subservient to men because that is paraphrasing slavery. It makes for insurrection.

The reason so many marriages end in divorce is because one or the other of the marriage partners is not being treated with due Respect.
The theory that one can extract self-satisfaction from another person by making them subservient is the recipie for every War we have ever fought on earth.

The tide will change because that is what history dictates. Eventually the supressed people rise up. Read your history books.

Answer 3

Congratulations! You have just won an express ticket to the 21st Century. You'll get used to it here. Men also vow to love until death do them part. The obey part was dropped a long time ago. When men make all of the decisions, it was soon found things got really messed up, so the intelligent men asked for women's help. It has long been known that marriage is a partnership. I cant help but wonder what island you have been living on, but I wish you all of the luck in the world.

Answer 4

Obey my husband??? I never had that in my wedding vows, I vowed to cherish him. And I do.
You can read many of the letters here on why most women cannot respect their husbands...simply they do not deserve it. I do have respect for my husband, but there has been a few times he pushed the issue. If you want to be treated like a good man and husband, behave like one and vice versa. There is no mystery here........
It usally takes two to support a family these days, if she is working just as hard as him she should have the same respect. Even stay at home Moms deserve respect, a husband has time off, a stay home Mom does not. Your a jackass for being so stupid. You need a sex change to be turned into what you hate. Maybe then you will make sense.

Answer 5

Being married is not a one way street.It is in fact to be a partnership.There are decisions to be made in every mar r aige some for the husband to make &there are those that has to be made by the wife.To love, honor&obey works both ways. That's why it is called a two way street.

Answer 6

Maybe the question you should be asking is, is the woman is doing something to make a normally well adjusted man unhappy? If this is the case, then both parties are reponsible for identifying the problem and taking steps to fix it. A failure to do so, will lead to a failure of the marriage and that means BOTH people failed. Calling oneself a failure for the end of a marriage implies that the person defines their entire identity through the marriage alone and this is an inaccurate view of oneself, indicative of low self esteem.

Answer 7

I do love and respect my husband as he loves and respects me. I don't obey him as in him giving orders and I say yes master. A marrage is a partnership. I don't have to ask him to do anything he does it of his love for me. You know I did use to give my 1st husband the money and when I or my kids needed something he didnt provide. My 2nd didnt work at all and I took care of all of us. Maybe its because woman got tired of being mistreated by men. You know if you truely love someone these stupid *** question you just asked wouldn't even be a question. Your gonna be a lonly man.

Answer 8

I don't think women find it hard to respect their husbands, but obey??
Partnerships are mutual respect, but I believe dogs are trained to obey.
Guess you have much to learn about relationships.

Answer 9

Because in all honesty some men over the years have gotten a little dumb. I would never hand over my money to a retard, and obey the wishes of someone that cant eat chicken without dropping it all over the sofa while they watch football and grow fatter and fatter. To be honest women are getting much more intelligent then most men. Maybe the bible preached this back then because women back then were dumb. We are no longer the dumb ones. No offense!

Answer 10

In the mans vows it also states obey... Hmmm didn't think about that did you...

As for sex if you want it on demand hire a hooker or get a rubber doll, a woman (wife) isn't there just so you can get your rocks off whenever the mood strikes you...