is it OK to forgive someone & never talk to them again?

Question

this is an irresponsible baby daddy

Answer 1

Forgiveness, is really an act that benefits You the forgiver. It is a way to cut ties to the burden you carry when you hold on to the hurt feelings or anger. Just because you give forgiveness doesn't mean you are best friends, it means you are moving on, moving forward. Since this involves your child you may want to keep a line of communication open. I personally feel at some point he may be able to redeem himself, you can do that for the sake of your child. There would be nothing worse than having your child feel as if you prevented an opportunity for a relationship. This can be very difficult for you, it can be impossible to understand how a parent could not want to share in the life of their child. It is something you might not want to waste time on. You just do the best you can, and if you are not sure there are many resources out there. The fault isn't in not having the answers, the fault lies in not asking the questions. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

NO, NO, NO...that sounds like you're STILL holding a grudge. You still haven't forgiven them. I wouldn't do what I use to do for the person but to cross paths with a person and just look at them with defiance seems just as confrontational...

Besides irresponsibility would be keeping a man from his child. I would suggest prayer for you and the person. You two will forever be connected because you brought a life into the world...hopefully he'll come to appreciate you and his child

Answer 3

If the wound 'caused to you is deep, then it is really hard to forgive. But wounds heal. You wanted to forgive because the wound is healing, but not yet completely. Of course at this stage, you will not talk to them yet. But you will see, the situation will find its way. Time will come, not as you planned it, that you can talk with them again minus the hard feelings.

Answer 4

i can't speak for the irresponsible baby daddy... only the father/daughter perspective here.

i daily try to forgive my father and it's never a "done deal" no matter how hard i try. i do not speak to my father because it's healthier for me to refrain from putting myself in situations where i feel condemnation and criticism.

i think that if you need to stay away from someone to maintain a healthy life for yourself (and your child/children) then do it.

Answer 5

Yeah I know it's easy to say that you have forgvie someone but deep inside you still feel the pain it brings.Right?
I do understand you're feeling,forgive them but not speaking?
it's ok to forgive but how can you say that you have forgiven someone if you are not talking to them?The only way to get out of the shell is to make that person feel that you are sincere...and you'll notice that the pain goes out of the box...
Just be casual and continue your communication with the one who hurt you and soon that person may realize how important you are...

Answer 6

Yes it is! Forgiveness is hard enough to do without opening yourself up to more hurt by that person again! Lighten your heart by forgiving, then protect it however you have to!

Answer 7

Yes definitely. You can acheive a certain type of peace this way. If you have forgiven someone in your heart you have done the best possible thing for yourself and those involved. Good for you.

Answer 8

Yes.

But remember, whatever you do, you have to live with it till the day you die. Every action you take is added to your ever growing collection of experiences that defines you as a person, and how you see yourself. If never speaking to them again is something you think you can live with, then do it.

Answer 9

I've forgiven people and not talked to them. It helps forgive them. Plus this way, you don't get mad at them again.

Answer 10

of course.
you only forgive someone so you can move on for yourself. doesn't mean you become best friends.