Confused...
I love him, he know's it.
Recently he told me he needed space. I was in shock, but I'm dealing with it even though it hurts.
But I respect his wishes and gave him his "space".
Dilemma:
1)He calls me everyday and expresses how much he misses me.
2). He text's me every morning "Goodmorning Sweetie"
3). Tell's me how much he still loves me, but he needs to be to himself for awhile. The long distance was too much for him.
Does anyone else find this incredibly selfish. First you drop me (still a little traumatized), then you constantly give me a sense of false hope for the relationship.
Is he doing this to keep me wrapped around his finger while he get's to do whatever he want's to do? Or is he...man, i don't even know...
what do you think?
2007-05-03 20:49:01 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The thing is he doesn't know if he want's to get back together in the future...I'm not the type of girl to wait around for a guy. I HAVE to move on regardless. I do love him but I REFUSE to put my life on hold for something that isn't set in stone...
2007-05-03 20:57:52 · update #1
Don't answer his calls or texts anymore!!!! Change your number if you have to! He is keeping you on a back burner just in case he can't find any thing "better". Dump that jerk, you deserve WAY better than to be strung along while he gets his cake and eats it too!
2007-05-03 21:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through that when I was 16 or 17 he told me the samething and did the samething urs is doing but I found out he didnt want space he just want to have more time to be with other girls so eventually he just said it was completely over and he still loved me and stuff but i knew so basically really think about it if u want to wait for him to find the time were hes done taking space for him because guys should realize a girl isnt gonna always wait for them
2007-05-03 20:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by lolipop_01_420 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I have been there , This is a way of knowing if you are desperate or not.
He expect you to get hurt and see if you you can survive with out him and i am impressed by you actions - just to accept his wishes and gave him a space. You are super.
You know what i did - i made my self busy and stopped responding to his calls , i went out with my friends and had fun. I know it is hard i know , some times i even used to feel it is not right to have fun with out him . But i did it any way. When you talk to him please don't be awkward , Be your self . act as if you concerned about him - see how he is doing. Tell him about you new adventures and your new hangouts - once he knows you can survive with out him - believe me - he will come back to you. he want to be the part of your new adventure
So don't be hurt get on with you life okay.
Melon
2007-05-03 21:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Meloni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-26 03:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to keep you on the hook while he plays around. Next time he calls you tell him, "You wanted your space. Well now you have it. Don't call or text me again until you have finished playing games." Hang up and move on. Don't let him keep you dangling on a string while he is out having a good time with other ladies.
2007-05-03 21:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
BAD NEWS girl,
He is after a woman and same time he is possesive. If you give in you will suffer for the rest of your life.
Stop answering his messages and calls and find excuses that you are too busy yet invited for lunch and dinner by friend!!! or you have a friend over for the week end and couldnt talk.
His real self will surface...
2007-05-03 20:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by Stelios S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you might be right, he might be doing this because he want you under his control, but he might just be confused also.
Have you thought of ignoring him and day or 2?
You should try ignoring him and if he asks later tell him you were too busy, this will make it more clear to you if he wants to be with you or not.
2007-05-03 20:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared about your feelings, he wouldn't be doing this to you. He wanted space,he was prepared to hurt you for that space, you gave it to him. Nowhe says he still loves you but wants to be on his own???
Next time he texts you, don't reply. Do not text him. If he says he loves you, say something like "Really - you have an odd way of showing it!"
You deserve someone better.
2007-05-03 21:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-boyfriend is playing games with your head. By communicating with him now, he is in control. Either tell him to work on getting back together or not to text or call you. Tell him he can't have it both ways. You have to move on with your life.
2007-05-03 21:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by cheery 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yuck and ouch! set some boundries for yourself. Just the other day my B/F told me that he'd get inspired and by a house to move me into. (He knew I was moving out the next day so we could have 'SPACE'). so later that evening I told him that it was a really sweet thing to say but I'd prefer that he wait until he is serious and sincere. I'm glad I'm moving out! I love him and we are still together, I just need myself right now. My own headspace and peace.
2007-05-03 21:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by mauikittie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋