Within the past year we’ve been communicating less and less. Lately, she's made so many new friends and is involved in so many activities that there’s really no time left for me.
I really miss the bond we had as kids, going swimming & having adventures... Even up until about a year and a half ago things were great. We would hang out almost every day, talk online for hours, etc. We always had something to talk or laugh about... yet now she seems like a stanger. When I'm with her things are just so different.
I guess we've just grown apart? It really hurts to think that we might not be friends for much longer. I’m at a complete loss at what to. Last night I found an old game we used to play and it brought me to tears and then this morning I began crying again because I suddenly felt so guilty, like I caused this because I wasn't always the friend I should have been.
I just wish I could have just one more chance. Please, if anyone can give me advise I'd be so thankful!
2007-05-03 20:30:04 · 8 answers · asked by rainbow_river_rock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Some friendships continue without breaks for a lifetime. Many decline, sometimes over a period of months, as the people concerned navigate the changes in their lives. Changes in schools, jobs, neighbourhoods, or new relationships initiate most of these changes. Normally, the parting of the ways is a natural decline. More time between phone calls until, with neither party barely noticing, contact is the exception rather than the norm. Your situation sounds more painful as it seems to be an abrupt and unilateral decision.
If your best friend of however many years is choosing to spend her time with others, and there hasn't been an argument or any kind of friction, there's not too much you can do about it hon. And at the risk of kicking you when you're down, I'm betting you're not the best company right now either. I bet even if you tried to put a happy face on it, not too much would change between you. Why? Because we can always sense if joy is authentic or forced in those we've been close to, and if it's forced it's also not too much fun to be around.
You don't say how old you, but I'm taking a stab that you're in your late teens or early to mid 20's. This is a great opportunity to explore new interests, new friendships. Ironically, you have the best chance of getting this old friendship back when you don't NEED it anymore.
Not the best analogy, but emotionally you're in the Cuba positon following the change in relationship between Cuba and Russia after communism fell in Russia. Cuba had relied so much on the political and finanical support of Russia, but had to re-think it's domestic and foreign policies in order to survive. You need to do the same thing. Your domestic polices are your personal interests and past times. Your foreign policies are the new friends and acquintances you'll be making to replace what is currently no longer available.
However, if you have had a falling out, then the usual road of sincere apologies and talking it out normally suffice to set things back on track. As long as there's no loss of trust, things should be able to return to normal if both sides wish it.
Keep in mind, that the only constant in life is change. Good luck.
2007-05-03 21:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax !
Life is like this, as years pass old friends fade away, fade away as immediate interests/priorities change. This fading away does not mean a lost friend.
Some of us are good at making friends and keeping them, some of us are not.
Some friends are like the full moon coming and going.
Just keep in contact, even if only a few minutes on phone each week, if you can try meet somewhere for a quick snack, send a card, just let your friend know you are still there, that you still care, that you still want to be her friend.
Keep the game in your cupboard, chance will come to go down memory lane with your friend with it there to help.
IF you want to live in a perfect world the best thing to do is live as though the world is already perfect - and not let occaisional failings destroy you.
2007-05-03 20:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by pol_pak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well best thing I can tell u is pick a day for the 2 of u to go out but do something u use to do together or find anything that the both of u have in common where u will laugh about it when thinking about old times
2007-05-03 20:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by lolipop_01_420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happened to me with about 5 different girls i was really close to in primary school.
i guess people and places change. believe it or not, you are probley heaps different than the person you used to be when you two were friends.
i wish i could help you but i cant when i cant help myself. if it would make you feel better you could confront him/her and say hey why don't you come over this weekend? i know we don't talk much now but we used to be so close and i miss your company so are you doing anything? and then go swimming / make up games... play games, talk about life, talk about guys and friends and everything under the sun.
i havent tried that yet so i dont know if it works. but good luck!
2007-05-03 20:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dont u just email call or something and tell how u feel then maybe that will help everything out!!!! and honey it wasnt ever ur fault so dont think it is !!!!
always emily
ps. if u need someone to talk to eamil me
sassygal180@yahoo.com
2007-05-03 20:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by Emily B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have experienced this. if she doesn't want to be with you, let her be...don't force her as she might hate you.
there r many frens outside...1 is juz in front of u...u can chat with me through messenger, sisterjellyfish@hotmail.com
=D
2007-05-03 23:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by xJIELINGGGGx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same happens to me years ago... at that time i feel bad but people do what people wants to do... if she is far from you let her know that you miss her then she will do what she wants to do
2007-05-03 20:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quickly search
2007-05-03 20:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by rajiv p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋