I got back with an ex boyfriend (P) 4 months ago. We were together for 3 years and then broke up for 3 years, it was my decision as I met someone else and fell in love. It was an extremely tough time and in the end things didn't work out with the other guy, again I broke it off. Over the last few years P I have stayed good friends and we both recently moved back from overseas to our home country. When I got back here we ended up hanging out and decided to give things another go. I moved in with him pretty quickly and things were going ok for the first few weeks. He's the loveliest guy, completely loyal, loving, sweet, treats me so well and we're best friends. Problem is, I don't really feel physically attracted to him now. I don't know whether to leave him or try to work things out, is this something I should live with as everything else about him is so good? Is that just what happens to everyone after a while or would I be happier with someone else?
Thanks for your help
2007-05-03 20:00:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Depends on what you want. If you're looking for a room ate for a few months, why not? If you're looking for a lover, sounds like he isn't the one. You have to decide what you want out of a partner, lover, companion, helper, supporter, whatever. Then go for what it is you want. And, next time, spend a little more time exploring the guys qualities before making a commitment like moving in. That way (spending time checking out the merchandise first) it's easier to break off a relationship than it is to move out.
2007-05-03 20:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y aren't you feeling attracted to him?
You say he is the loveliest guy and all......
How sure are you that you will be attracted to the next guy you move on with and if so, for how long are you gonna be attracted to him or will you pack and leave again?
where are you heading.......can you see the point?
if physical attraction is all in a relationship, then it is doomed!
relationships never worked that way!
2007-05-04 03:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him what you been feeling, you don't want to hurt the friendship.
Try to talk to him, he's your bf and might turn to future husband. If he that good as a boyfriend, he will understand you. All you need to do is tell him how you feel.
And for you, If you don't have any feeling for him anymore. You should move on, or eles you might end up hurting each other and the friendship.
Good luck
2007-05-04 03:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Glenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer. Look deep inside and ask yourself the question. Listen to your answer. It is your own truth. You can still love a person. But you are not necessarily in love with him.
Can you see yourself without him ?
2007-05-04 03:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Maria V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋