Is it necessary to insert pen into the vagina for sex?

Question

i am married but when ever i have s@x i n my hubby has never insert his thing into the vagina as it hurts while doing it. I want to have babies but don't know how to as i think that the vagina opening is too small for his thing. Pls advice is it necessary to visit a gynec for this, can the doc increase the opening thru some surgery. I am not sure what to do we tried it many times but his thing is too big for my vagina.

Answer 1

BEAR THE PAIN FOR 2-3 DAYS IT WILL MAKE PLACE FOR IT IN YOUR VAGINA AFTER THAT YOU WILL ENJOY THE SEX AND WILL BE PREGNANT.

Answer 2

My husband is "well endowed" in that area and when we first started having sex it was painful for me but it eventually got more and more comfortable.Your vagina is a muscle and it has to stretch to accommodate sex.That is why men say virgins are "tight" they have never had sex and have not stretched.I am not saying that this is true for you but sometimes the fear of pain can make it worse,so try to relax and if after you have full penetrating sex several times and it still hurts you may need to be treated.You really should schedule an appt with a gynecologist just for a check up and let the Doc know about your problem.Don't be embarrassed this happens to alot of women and it could be a medical condition.If you decide to have your vaginal opening mad bigger you will have to see a plastic surgeon.Good luck I hope this helped!

Answer 3

First of all take a deep breathe and relax. This really does happen often. First thing you might want to do is go to your doc and explain exactly what you are feeling. He may have more answer than any of us can give. Also make sure you keep the lines of communication open with your partner. Let them know what is going on. I wish you the best of luck. And don't worry you'll be able to enjoy sex soon enough.

Answer 4

No, you can have sex and not have intercourse. But if you want to get pregnant than you need to talk to your Doctor. Even if getting pregnant was not a priority you still should talk with your doctor. So yes I would say - for sure, for yours and his happiness alone, visit a gyn and talk to them about this.

There is a condition where women can not tolerate sexual intercourse, it is called Vaginismus. I was looking around on Yahoo Groups when I found some support groups for it. Maybe they will help you??

Vaginal tightness, or difficulty or inability to allow penetration for intercourse is the primary symptom of Vaginismus. Normally, the vaginal sphincter keeps the vagina closed until (sexual stimulation) the need to expand and relax. This relaxation allows intercourse, childbirth, medical examination and insertion of tampons. Therefore, vaginismus occurs when the vagina is unable to relax and permit the penetration of the penis during intercourse however, when vaginismus does occur, the sphincter goes into spasm resulting in the tightening of the vagina. With some women, vaginismus prevents all attempts at successful intercourse. Vaginismus is not uncommon and may occur later in life, even if a woman has a history of enjoyable and painless intercourse.

The woman repeatedly has spasms of the vaginal muscles that interfere with sexual intercourse.

It causes marked distress or interpersonal problems.

Except for another Sexual Dysfunction, no other Axis I disorder (such as Somatization Disorder) accounts for it better.

It is not directly caused solely by a general medical condition.

Associated Features:

Recent or Past Sexual Trauma.
Fearful of Sexual Acts or Disgust.
Guilt.

Differential Diagnosis
Some disorders have similar or even the same symptoms. The clinician, therefore, in his/her diagnostic attempt has to differentiate against the following disorders which need to be ruled out to establish a precise diagnosis.

A General Medical Condition - a pelvic disease.
Cause:

The cause of vaginismus is often a result of an aversive stimulus associated with penetration. Some of the more common aversive stimuli are traumatic sexual assaults, painful intercourse, and traumatic pelvic exam.

Vaginismus may not only result from past sexual trauma but also the patient having strong inhibitions about sex stemming from strict religious orthodoxy or cultural norms.

This disorder does not mean that women suffering from this disorder are frigid. Many are very sexually responsive and may have orgasms through clitoral stimulation. Many women with vaginismus may seek sexual contact and sexual foreplay as long as actual intercourse/vaginal penetration is avoided.

Concepts such as penetration, intercourse and even sex can cause fear or trepidation in the mind of may a young inexperienced woman who may hear stories about painful first intercourse, which then reinforce the fear of penetration. This fear can compound and create a pattern of sexual anxiety, causing the vagina to remain dry and unrelaxed before intercourse.

In some cases, vaginismus may occur after a history of successful and enjoyable intercourse due to a vaginal infection, the physical after-effects of childbirth, tiredness or some other cause. This may be triggered by painful intercourse, due to the condition and then possibly lead to a pattern of further vaginismus even though the original cause has disappeared.

Treatment:

The treatment of vaginismus is usually a therapy program that includes vaginal dilation exercises using plastic dilators. It is important that the use of dilators proceeds in a systematic progression under the direction of a sex therapist and should actively involve the woman's sexual partner. The treatment include gradually more intimate contact eventually culminating in successful and pain free intercourse. Sex education is also very important to counter sexual naivety and dispel any misinformation which has been identified as a factor in 90% of vaginismus cases. This education should include information about sexual anatomy, physiology, the sexual response cycle, and common myths about sex.

Counseling and Psychotherapy [ See Therapy Section ]:

In cases where there is a strong phobic avoidance component, the use of hypnosis and self-hypnotic relaxation can also be useful.

Answer 5

The vagina is covered by a thin membrane to protect it called HYMEN. For some women it is thick and will not pierce easily and for many women it pierces automatically during even exercises or in nuptials.

My wife had thick hymen and with lots of difficulty and pain for both of us we got it punctured. It was horribly painful as I was cut down there.

Please visit a Gynaecologist who will perform a minor operation and make it OK.

Answer 6

The best way to start is with plenty of KY Jelly or lubricant. Tell him to spread ur lower lips with his fingers and apply the jelly. After that he should try inserting it in there. If a baby can come out of there, surely his 'thing' can get in.

Answer 7

It happens to everyone! The vagina is a muscle, what you need to do is relax so that you dont tighten it up. Little by little he should be able to stretch you out once you relax and loosen up. You might want to buy some lubercant so that its not so painful. I defenitly dont think you need to visit the gyno unless you really feel something is seriously wrong.

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Answer 9

Definately go to see your doctor. You could be suffering from vaginismus which is vaginal tightness causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems, or complete inability to have intercourse. There is help out there if that is what is wrong. Don't be scared or ashamed to seek medical help. Best of luck to you./

Answer 10

it is the major problem, you must have to visit the doctor.
becoz at first time the mouth of vagina is small but slowly it adjustabl, but if the pain continues, the best gyane is the answer.