dose anyone have any advice for a mother of a 15 y/o bipolar female whos hyper sexual?

Question

we took her comp out of her room when we found her having on line sex with an old boyfriend we took her internet away period when we found her looking up images shes had three in school restraining orders in the last two years last she took ten to fifteen topless pics of herself on her phone and took them to school to show an old boyfriend one of the ones that have a restraining order agianst her and told her to leave him alone she was caught by a teacher and now has been moved to a self contained behavioral class she says shes ashamed and crys but seems disattached and unruffled when confronted with the truth she takes lamictal and lithium and I make sure the meds are taken Im just at a loss as to where to turn to help control her urges I understand its a symtom of being bipolar but can someone please help me and my daughter figure out how to live with this one before she gets raped or ends up pregnant if you know alot about teenagers being bipolar can you link with me

Answer 1

Bipolar people are plagued with depression at times, but they also become hypomanic or downright manic at other times. This can all be controlled with medication. Hypersexuality occurs during the hypomanic and manic phases and is a symptom of the disease, not a lack of morals on her part. Other symptoms include spending too much money and going on shopping sprees where they buy things they don't need. You might also notice that she is sleeping less.

Some people don't do well on lithium. My daughter takes Abilify (one of the newer antipsychotics) and an antidepressant, Effexor. They started her on lithium, but it made her very sick, so they had to try something else--it took a couple of tries before they found the best medication for her. Now, she's pretty much back to her normal self, is a senior in college and is making good grades. She is much happier than she has been in a long time.

It's hard to believe it, but your daughter really can't control some of her bad behavior, so just be patient and supportive of her. Believe me, she is probably or will be as embarrassed as you are, and she really needs you right now. God bless.

Answer 2

This is a tough question as bipolar illness is complicated. Try the web site psych central for a start. Some of the latest research suggests this illness is progressive and needs to be caught as early as possible. So my feeling is you need to get her medication altered and monitor her closely with her doctor to be sure she gets the right medication she needs. Also there is evidence a good balanced vitamin regime helps also omega 3 and 6 helps some. Your daughter is suffering and there are other meds that might work better for her. I can't stress enough that the one thing your daughter has to fight with (her head) is the thing that isn't working properly. You are her only lifeline and I hope you both go to meetings with others that have this illness and their families. Your doctor should be able to help you find a group or the mood disorders association can help. Go to the library and read all you can about how others have coped. There is a lot to be said for routine to fall back on when an episode hits. So regular meals, exercise, and sleep are important. I hope I have helped some. But reach out and educate the people around her about her illness and how best to react to her and tell her many people have this illness and lead happy productive lives. Just face it head on with no shame or guilt (it is an illness) learn all you can. Make sure your daughter is on birth control as it would be sad for her to have a baby when she is a baby herself and right now a sick little girl. Take Care

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear of your problems with you daughter. Of course medication is a start and so would birth control, the type where it is implanted so she can't forget it. Then the next best advice is seeking out counseling for her and you. This isn't a battle you want to go alone. Yes you are right, there is a good chance that she will get raped if she is showing this sort of behavior and is out of control. This isn't a control issue, but boundaries do need to be set and followed. When she turns 18 and goes out into the world she will either sink or swim. Teaching her how to deal with what it is she is going through will help her swim. Life has no guarantee's. Some of the things you mention in your statement is what we went through also. We did our best and that is all you can do. Show love, now and later.

Answer 4

Being hypersexual is one thing. She seems like she could be a sex addict too. Pure hypersexuality tends to be more impulsive and all about the sensation. If that were all that was going on, she might masturbate a lot and be promiscuous. The fact that she keeps going back to the old boyfriends seems like more of an emotional thing. I wasn't diagnosed as bipolar until I was in my 30s but I was hypersexual from the age of about 12. Get her counselling for the emotional side of it. I would encourage her to put more energy into other pursuits like sports or volunteer work with close supervision and see if she can develop some attachments to animals, small children and elders. With any luck she won't have any sexual interest in them and it will help her get more balance in her life. Also, take the computer out of her room but let her be in her room as much as she wants alone as long as she is safe. She may masturbate or cry or beat upon the pillows or whatever. It doesn't matter as long as she isn't doing anything that will hurt her. I'm not an expert and I don't have kids. I'm just telling you what seemed to work best for me.

Answer 5

Hey...
Well, first if you haven't... you should talk to a doctor to see if she's taking the right bipolar medication (or if it's strong enough).
Usually the sexual peaks are when she's in the high state right? Maybe a better medication would help with the mood swings more. Both my cousins are bipolar and extremely sexually active.
One of the biggest thing parents of troubled teens need to remember is to actually listen to their children (we have a big problem with "no i'm the parent you must listen to me and do exactly what I say". Which can be very discouraging for someone who's trying to be heard) My sister doesn't have a very good relationship with my mom. However, I find that a lot of children who have these problems are lashing out because the only attention they get from their family is negative. When was the last time you two did something fun together? I understand it can be hard at times but constantly working at a healthy relationship can be work. I know it's hard when they constantly leave a bitter taste in your mouth. But maybe she is frustrated with life. and if you are constantly putting her down for bad behavior she can spiral. Remember to reward her for good behavior.
Also I suggest making sure that she knows about sex safety. Have you talked to her about her feelings about sex on an adult level? I hate to break it to you but most girls in this country have already started having sex by 15. The chances are even though you may be condemning it at home.. her peers are supporting it.
You may have to deal with the fact that she's going to have sex regardless of what you tell her. You just need to tell her that she's worth something and to be aware of what a healthy relationship is.
The showing breast at school sounds like it could be a cry for attention that goes hand in hand with her medical condition.
Is there a father in her life? What kind of male attention does she get?
Also, maybe doing some physical activities may help with the sudden burst on energy.

Also you may want to think about getting her a vibrator. That may keep her from being so tempted from the real thing.

Answer 6

I'm sorry about your situation. It must be really tough. Have you spoken to her psychiatrist. Maybe her meds need adjusting. Also, you need some support help, because you are not in a unique situation. Try either counseling so that you don't lose your mind or even better join an appropriate support group, maybe of parents (or relaitves) of bipolars. Your daughter is not able to make reasonable decisions because of the disorder. Until her meds work, she will be cycling. She'll have trouble in many aspects of her life. Have her meds ever worked? I know you want to protect her, ask her psychiatrist if there maybe a dual diagnosis. If there is an untreated separate behavioral problem or neurosis, then it will be harder for her to get better.

Answer 7

Contact DSHS immediately- The Department of Social and Health Services. They can help you with medical evaluations, programs, support groups, etc...

Answer 8

That sounds terrible. i could have accomplished an identical ingredient had I been on your shoes. Her mom is in all probability embarrassed which you comprehend how she relatively feels so fairly of wising up and accepting accountability for being a huge, extensive douche she took her anger out on you. Who is time-honored with of? I ensue to have faith that persons who get that labored up over homosexuality in all probability have some inner subject concerns of their very very own...in step with probability some guilt over some thoughts they have had. additionally, you in no way comprehend how the lady treats her parent's jointly as at homestead. toddlers tend to be diverse human beings whilst they're with their mum and dad and then turn the story around later (intentionally or accidentally). i does no longer attempt to get in direction of it too lots, yet supply the lady some help and attempt to no longer communicate with the mummy approximately it. it relatively is their very very own business employer how they habit themselves of their homestead. regardless of how incorrect it relatively is....until eventually they bodily abuse her, do no longer intrude....And in the event that they do finally end up kicking her out....properly, i do no longer comprehend in case you may evaluate letting her stay with you permanately yet it relatively is totally as much as you.

Answer 9

wow. sounds like you have a few problems with that. you need to let her know that you're in charge. its hard watching your daughter go down this path. have you ever considered mother/daughter counseling? i would look into it. you might want to inform her of the consequenses of her actions. is she allowed to have boyfriends? you might want to tell her that she cant have them anymore. if your daughter continues to be overly sexually active, cut her off from all comunication. take away her cellphone, regular phone, computer, don't let her out of the house besides for school. even taking away things like a camera might be helpful. good luck

Answer 10

well...i think teenagers like me think about sex a lot...
it's all about psychology...we pass through this stage when our sexual desire is active...

i was like that too, but i didn't do that online sex thing... it's like i dream about sex all day long...i even collect adult fantasy magazines...

even though any of my relatives didn't caught me doing anything with myself, i felt ashamed with myself..because you know, i live in the philippines and we have very high moral standards here...and i'm still a virgin at this age (i'm 17)...

well, i think the thing that kept me fron thinking about sex is that i got this very passionate liking for music...metal, actually...it's a really heavy music...many people think that it's wrong for a girl to listen to that kind of music... but it keeps my mind away from any dark thoughts...

you may think that this kind of music is bad but at least it kept me from doing some.. immoral things.


anyway, i'm still studying and i'm proud to be a virgin and i'm determined to keep it until i get married...