Here is the story, the husband is out of town for 3 weeks at a time (sometimes more), when he comes home it is only Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. He knows that you have needs, and wants you to be happy, so he tells you that as long as he (the hubby) comes first, and that it is just sex (with the other guy), go ahead and have fun the husband will not get mad, and the husband is not having sex with another woman. Would you have sex with another man? By the way this is the husband asking.
2007-05-03 16:48:32 · 39 answers · asked by stress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's so appealing, but when my husband said that to me I knew that if I did sleep with someone else, even if it was "just for fun" it would change our relationship. Adding someone else really isn't the answer. Besides, women have a hormone that cause them to become attached to men after they have sex with them, so even if she went into it not intending to have feelings for him, chances are she would.
So, would I do it? Only if I really didn't want my marriage to last because I know my husband would be thinking about it all the time, and we'd never be the same.
2007-05-03 16:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband is gone 21 days out of every month, home 9. The only way I would consider it is if the man was Andy Garcia, and his wife said she would not mind either if he had sex with me!! But, since that wont happen, no, I would not. Even though with him gone so much I could get away with it.
I feel if there ever came a time when I wanted to be with someone else, I would sit him down, be honest, and end it before starting with someone new. I love my husband, there is no one else I care to be with and I do not put myself out there where trouble can happen. I guess I am pretty lucky that I can be okay with our time apart and never feel lonely.
2007-05-03 18:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being male I can't answer this question, but I can give an opinion.
I've lived a good while and have been married twice, the first time to an unfaithful wife. I divorced her because she was unfaithful. I have had casual sex and have been in committed relationships.
Committed relationships run circles around casual sex. If the husband in this hypothetical (I hope) situation is serious he is proposing his wife engage in casual sex, which is dumb when you are married.
This type of marital infidelity can lead to no good. The wife should say no and she should either kick her husband's butt for suggesting it or drag him off to counseling.
We all have needs. Casual sex is not one of them.
2007-05-03 21:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
while i think that feeling is behind the words i don't think i would be able to do that , because i would feel terrible afterwords and even if the husband was OK with it like i said i would be the one who would have to face myself the rest of my life knowing i did something wrong, although you may feel it is OK right now what about the future when you argue will you be able to look her in the eye knowing that she did this , i think it might just have been a slight lapse in judgment on the husbands part besides that is why they created a sex toy shop where you could do it yourself , i think getting her a few of those will make life easier for you both good luck
2007-05-03 17:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by rachel m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's hoping you'll take him up on the offer so that he can start having sex with other women. After all, It's just sex? Right? Perhaps he's looking for grounds to divorce you and not lose so much in the process. Either way you lose. So in the long run, Is it really worth it?? Only you can decide what is right for you. Best of luck..
2007-05-03 16:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, well once my husband did say I could. Mater of fact mt husband was there when the other man was as well. We were suppose to have '''fun" with an added person to our bedrom. WellI couldn't do it. I guess having sex with another man would have made me feel like a whore. By the way.... if you let your wife have sex with another man, it will effect your relationship. I let my husband have sex with another woman and it almost killed ours.
2007-05-03 19:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously I'm a guy and if my wife ever told me I could do this then I would ask for a divorce. It is basically showing that he/she cares nothing for the one they are married to. The person you are married to is a sacred and cherished person in your life. By allowing your spouse to run around with other men/women your defacing your angel that God has given you to care and love. Sex is not sex in marriage it is the art of lovemaking and should not be shared with strangers!!!. Since everyone knows even with permission it is still adultery.
2007-05-03 16:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is completely disrespectful to your marriage and your wife. From a womans perspective if my husband told me that I would first assume he is sleeping with someone else and secondly say that we apparently need to go to marriage counseling. Can you really picture your wife with another man and not have a problem? If the answer is yes then I would say there is no reason to continue the marriage because it lacks love.
2007-05-03 16:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by rocky112486 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?I think the husband must be crazy.
Do you respect your wife at all let alone love her and care about her?
You're trying to cover something up and there has to be another woman (women) involved.Other than that,this has to be a joke.No sane person would think this let alone suggest it.
I hope you can keep your happy home.
2007-05-03 16:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You havn't told the whole truth . What do you want in return ? If she can have sex with a different man what do you get to do in return . If i was your wife i would be asking a lot of questions !!! Because down the road this is going to come back on her and we all know it !!!!!!
2007-05-03 16:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by frankvfrankv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋