I get paid by weekly, my wife works for tips( SO SHE HAS CASH DAILY), we make a good living together. I hand her my whole check , she buys me cigs, cologne , fills my car with gas, pays the bills, get the kids what they need,everything I need, but I cannot get her to understand how it feels to walk around without even 5 bucks in your pocket, any advice? And don't get me wrong I appreciate everything she does.
2007-05-03 16:47:13 · 15 answers · asked by no cigarette money 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually, it sounds as though she's doing what she is supposed to do with your money, so you can't fault her for that. However, you can fault yourself for not being a man and taking care of business yourself so that she doesn't have to.
2007-05-03 16:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Join the club if you want the headache of the bill paying and all the other stuff then have at it. Your wife is just probably more financially cautious then you are. Meaning that you will spend all the money before you have payed any bills or put food on the table. My wife always has the bank card and I leave usually with some money for gas and maybe some smokes but really she gets to deal with the bills and this arrangement is fine by me bills suck let alone paying them and calculating what each bill gets. Be happy that she is willing to do this. If she gets stuff for you then why do you need money five bucks is good for a pop and maybe a lite snack your good to go.
2007-05-03 16:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, why are you agreeing to this deal? Both of you should put your money into a joint checking account. You should make a budget (which includes pocket money for each of you to spend without discussion...like $50 or $100+ each per month), that way you both have access to that checking account and you both know what the budget is. This is only fair. Right now, she is controlling you. Unless you've been in bad debt or had a gambling problem in the past, she should not do this to you. Have a talk.
2007-05-03 16:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds controlling to me with a hint of "my husband is my child". You should both have a set amount of carrying cash. Period. I'm sure you appreciate everything she does because it leaves you free of worry. What about you learning to manage the money with her? What would happen if she died tomorrow, would you know how to take care of things? She is running the show because you wont step up to the plate and help her run it. Be a man. Make financial goals together. Take part in your financial life. When you know the bigger picture you will be able to see if 5 dollars or 500 dollars is reasonable to have in your pocket.
2007-05-03 17:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are either living from pay check to pay check, or you make very little money. Either way, surely you can have a couple of hundred on you at any time...that doesn't mean you spend it, it just means you have it. Make a big difference, and no, I would NOT be happy if all I had in my pocket was 5.00...those days are far behind me.
2007-05-03 17:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do this with my boyfriend, but not exactly the same she does with you. i give him so much per check to use for gas and lunch and whatever other stuff he wants during the week. we have a budget worked out, so i know exactly how much i need for bills and groceries and such, and he gets the rest. if the kids need something, either he gets it with the money he has, or i get it with my money. either way, he busts his *** too, and as long as the bills are paid and their is food on the table, he deserves the rest in his pocket. i work too, and help with the bills, and i keep whats left of my check. just tell her to take what is needed from your check for bills, and to give the rest to you, or put it in a joint account that you can access. when the kids need things, both of you should have money to get what they need. you work hard, and you deserve whats left of your check after bills. just because you have it, doesn't mean you are going to spend it all, but what if you need a tow truck or want to eat out for lunch, you need and deserve to have cash. you earned it.
2007-05-03 17:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by jess_85 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, cash your paycheck, take out some spending money and then give her the rest to pay bills with. She has money in her pocket all the time and so should you. Your marriage is suppose to be equal. If she cannot except that, then start paying the bills yourself.
2007-05-03 16:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to let you handle all the finances for a week and then she can see how it feels to have an empty wallet. I think she should at least give you a spare $20, I mean what if you have an emergency or something like running out of gas or maybe you just want a coke or something.
2007-05-03 16:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by hardmyth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cash the check, keep out what you need to live on for that week, then put the rest in checking or savings. You really need more than 5 dollars a week.
2007-05-03 16:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rita 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look chief, you made the bread so you reserve all rights to keep $50 bucks in the stash. Doesn't mean u don't appreciate anything. It's man law.
2007-05-03 16:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by SmallTalk 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋