my wife begged me to have a baby with her after we got married. i told her i wasn't ready. she took matters into her own hands (stopped taking her birth control). now she's pregnant. she should be happy. she's miserable and wants an abortion. After all that bugging me to have a kid and all the fights over it! Now she wants to get rid of it! I'm thinking she freaking cheated on me and ill know once it's born. why else would a married women not want a child with her husband after bitching to him about it forever???
2007-05-03 15:39:05 · 13 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that does sound a little crazy. but maybe she doesn't want it because you sound so hostile about it. speaking from experience pregnancy is hard or a woman hormones go crazy and even if you don't have problems its hard...unfortunatly I had many problems just SUPPORT HER!
2007-05-03 15:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by togobackintime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could also be seeing how you react to her being pregnant. Tell her no!!! Even if the baby is not yours she should not have an abortion. When I was in high school many years ago lol they had a seminar on abortion and this lady got pregnant at 22 and was going to college. She was an only child and was scared to tell her parents that she was pregnant. She had an abortion and went home. She was exhausted and tired when she woke up she was in a pool of blood and had to be rushed in an ambulance. She almost died. Then the doctors told her she will never be able to have children ever again. Her parents were devastated they would of rather that she had a baby so they can be grandparents. I think it is rather strange that she went off the birth control to get pregnant and now she is thinking of aborting it. Talk to her in a calmly matter and ask her why.
2007-05-03 15:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont jump the gun and assume she cheated. First of all, it is important that you know that a womans hormones are in chaos in the first trimester of the pregnancy, which could make her come across as 'crazy'. Second of all, maybe all your negativity about conceiving in the beggining is starting to bother her and has her wondering if YOU will still want this child. If YOU have come to terms with the fact that "the damage" is done and she is bringing YOUR baby into the world, you need to show her that and support her. ANd mention this behavior to OB doc. Good luck to you both.
2007-05-03 15:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming this is a first child. She is probably just freaking out over the fact that she is about to be a mother and realizing how much responsibility she is about to take on. Not to mention wondering if she will be a good mother. Women go through this, it is normal. However, we usually don't go to this extreme. You may want to have her talk with her Dr. If it is that serious then she may need a little counseling.
2007-05-03 15:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by angiee631 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her hormones are speaking for her right now. Women go through a lot of hormonal changes when they are pregnant. It doesn't mean that she cheated on you. She is just really emotional. She also may just want to hear you tell her that you want this baby and for her to keep it. But whatever the reason may be, that baby is coming. You both need to be adults now. Good Luck to you both.
2007-05-03 15:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wanted one because you said you werent ready. She might have just wanted her way. And now that she is pregnant she regrets it all.
I dont think she was cheating. I think she is just feeling the affects of pregnancy. Try to talk her out of the abortion.
2007-05-03 15:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont. Get your sorry aZ& up and get a actual job! you have toddlers to feed. She is working and you being the "guy" of the homestead can no longer even cook dinner a meal or have a meal waiting whilst they arrive homestead. in case you will stay at homestead, do something different than getting fat. you have too many responsiblities to be a "expert gamer". Sigh. Get it at the same time previously she places divorce papers on your plate.
2016-10-04 08:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, thats fricken crazy. Is she serious or is just the hormones and pregnancy talking?
You have to talk to her and have her come clean. If it aint your kid -let her do what she wants w/it. But if thats your kid I would find out if they could test the fetus DNA. You dont want to wac your own kid. But seriously, thats fricken crazy. There is something up.
2007-05-03 15:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like buyers remorse to me. Anyways, you do not say how you feel about having a baby. So, I don't know what to tell you.
2007-05-03 15:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems a little looney and a lot manipulative. She needs serious help.
2007-05-03 15:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋