he needs time to think about it keep in mind we have a house together and a 2yr old we share everything and he says he needs time before we get married should i wear my ring???? he totally ruined the moment when he asked me i was so happy and proud no im embarresed when people ask when im going to get married.
2007-05-03 15:24:47 · 14 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this happens a lot.it really is not cool to settle for shacking up and playing family having kids and not being married! you girls make it too easy men dont have to marry you,they dont have to work they can drink,do drugs and cheat and you put up with it! enough already! wake up and smell the coffee he is not going to marry you! he doesnt want too! pack up and leave or put him out if you can pay the bills without him and next time be smarter and dont settle!good luck!
2007-05-03 15:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wear the ring on my right hand if it's really nice, so at least you can enjoy it. and why does he need time, didn't he just get 7 years? Some people are afraid of the paper, but you guys have a house and a baby he should not need to think about making sure you and the baby will be taken care of if something should happen. I'm really confused on this one since it obviously not a question of commitment fear.
2007-05-03 23:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mr.G's wife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wear the ring and tell him that you would be proud to be his wife. Let him know that you are not going to rush him. You waited 7 years, what is a little more time. When people ask when the wedding will be just tell them that you haven't set the date yet but will keep them informed. I was with my hubby for 8yrs before we married. If he asked me at 7yrs., truthfully I would of said no. It took me 8yrs to know that I was ready. We have been married now for 9yrs. (17yrs. total) and going strong. Just have a little faith in your love and don't push. Before you know it you will be married, HAPPILY. The way that you handle this situation could be the deciding factor for the rest of your lives together. Be a loving and understanding wife. Good Luck and I hope that this was able to help you some. By the way, keep us posted on your big day, and CONGRATULATIONS!!!
2007-05-03 22:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is having second thoughts on the whole marriage thing. I would ask him if he feels like marrying you still if he is distant and well not forthcoming. I would say why are we wasting more time if you do not know if you want to spend the rest of your life with me?. I think this guy needs to step up to the plate he proposed the only man thing he needs to do now is follow through with his question and your response being yes.
Maybe he thinks that you will just do everything and he jkust has to show up, for instance set a date, start making wedding plans. Let him know that you have started on the plans and you have chosen this date etc. etc.. Sometimes some men just feel once they have asked that is all they need to do and the fiance takes care of the rest.
If this is the case ask him if not then I would tell him that you are now unsure if you want to get married because you with a guy who cant make up[ his mind after 7yrs of being together.
It also appears he just asked to show you he still cares about you but had no plans of actually going through with it!
2007-05-03 23:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you havent set a date! If you are proud of him and he gave u his ring to wear, i would wear it, of course, when he says he's ready i would want a new ring, the one u have now is like a promise of commitment. But what does he need to think about?? Ya'll already shacked up! Baby makes 3, so unless he's brought a house in mexico, i would see what the wait is all about, without rushing yourself, because u may need to sort some things too, and see if u can help him with his issues, and offer some sort of comfort. hopefully he will confide in you and see that u want to work things out.But if he gets all testy to better call Joey Greco of Cheaters!
2007-05-03 22:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by steelababi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be money that's always a good answer, or he might have something more romantic up his sleeve. if you suspect something else then you need to talk i don't think he would mess with your mind like that if he truely loves you some guys just need time and pray and be patient. good luck and congrads. And tell the other people in due time when we are ready you live your lives for each other don't let people make the date or time for yous.
2007-05-03 22:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should not be just his decision. What did you say when he told you he needs time? Does he know that your very upset over this and does he know that he can't just change your life like that. He can't be selfish, it's not only about what he wants. It's about both of you and if he needs more time, tell him you don't have any!
All you should want to do now is make eachother happy, because your in love. Is he showing you how much he loves you? Are you showing him? Find out everything, never wonder. Explain how you feel and what you want to do about this. Just try to work together and work something out. Something that will please both of you. Good Luck
2007-05-03 22:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay really!! think about it you have a two year old a house and 7 years together and he has to think about the fact on wheather or not he wants to marry you. Really I would be walking out that door so fast and talking the baby with you
2007-05-03 22:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by valjordan1112 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look marriage is not a problem,thing is how long this will last.So better think before you get married for that if he needs time give it to him. Do not worry about people they r not going to help you if any problem comes after marriage.
2007-05-03 22:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by gursan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once he makes up his mind then wear his ring until then both of your minds are on hold for the marriage.
2007-05-03 22:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋