My hubby has no problem staying gone when Im pregnant. I left in the beginning because I didn't want to miscarry with all the fighting. But now I want to work things out and he is saying that he has drifted apart from me..which is weird because every weekend we were together with me spending the night and everything. But today when we were to start the counseling he wouldn't show. And he is saying he wants to move on..but its so easy for him too, I can't move on because I have his baby in my belly and I love him so much..Why do you think its easy for him or is he acting like its easy but its hard? I'm pregnant and emotional, and confused..FYI he wants everything to do with the baby just not me..he is taking the classes with me and going to be there for the labor, but why not the relationship????Any advice?
2007-05-03 15:20:47 · 11 answers · asked by ERICKSMAMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also he said that once the baby is born maybe he will change his mind..
2007-05-03 15:21:20 · update #1
it takes a real man to be a dad , and from what he is showing he does not qualify
2007-05-03 15:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by cesar kawi21 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
From what you said, it seems that your husband is acting like a child, but I suspect the situation is more complex than that.
When my wife was pregnant, she became so emotional that it was hard to take sometimes. Perhaps you are being overly emotional (this is natural) and he is being a little immature. I think that the best advice I can give you is to try to take it easy. Do something nice for your husband. Tell him how much you care about him.
Pregnancy is a wonderful time, but it is also a very difficult time. It means changes are coming and the two of you need to prepare to welcome a new life. Sometimes the energy of the event stirs up emotions that can be difficult. Just try to be patient and work through your problems. Show respect and love to your husband and he will return the same to you.
2007-05-03 15:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bernard B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is seriously pulling a manipulation tactic...I mean he's seems like he's putting up a wall and watching how you react. When you react w/being hurt, it gives him more power and thus no reason to want to reconcile. I'd get someone else to do the Lamas or whatever w/ you and tell him to pay up w/ the child support on time. To say you love the baby and not the mother and go to the classes w/you is really cold blooded. I mean doesn't he know you have feelings too? I think he's using the baby to exert control...I think disengagement is in order to show him the baby and you are a package deal. But I don't know. You can't make someone go to counselling if he doesn't want to go. I think the whole attitude is a front....but that's just me.
2007-05-03 15:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all i can say is wait it out and have patience and try not talking about you and him for awhile and focus on the baby just start talking about the baby like your a family choose right words to say to him it works really. have calm conversations with him and he will see the change in you i know sometime we have to be the first to change or make the first move men need help from us in all ways we just got to be more wise about it and i think most women are patient and only time will tell but pray and lets see how it goes leave it in Gods hands now. and if he doesn't change it could very well be for your own good and the baby and you don't need him to love just his money lol. you can love again.
2007-05-03 15:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should rephrase your question:
Why is it easy for boys to walk away from a pregnant wife?
A true man would stand by your side. A true man would cherish the fact that you are carrying his baby.
It sounds like your "man" still has some growing up to do. Don't waste your time trying to convince him to stay. The tiny person you have growing inside of you is much more important. Concentrate on your health and refuse to allow this situation to upset you.
2007-05-03 15:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience.... he's not going to change once the baby is born. We planned ours and now we're not even together my son is only 2 months old and daddy's been gone since he was 2 weeks (he comes and visits) but that's about it... doesn't buy him anything. I think the case with my ex is that he's just being childish and doesn't want the responsibility that comes with having a child.
2007-05-03 15:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by shorty_5600 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is problably scared or not mature enough but just think you need to take care of your self for the baby to stay healthy. If he is not happy then just leave him and he is not the only man on this earth there is plenty of men out there for you dont just relly on him because he doesnt really care for you i wish you the best in life and happiness
2007-05-03 15:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad truth is. Everything changes. Your body, your attention to him and much much more. Only 50% of women even have a man in the household. You wanted women's lib. You got it. The ability to liberate yourself from a man! See Ya!
2007-05-03 15:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by heatseeker 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At first I didn't know where this was going. I would buy flowers and chocolate or something to show her how much you love her.
2016-04-01 07:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really got yourself a doozy. He should be ashamed of himself and if you were smart you would rethink wanting him back. You are in for a life time of misery with this piece of work. I will say a little prayer for you and your baby.
2007-05-03 15:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋