I have been married for 2 years. I broke up with my boyfriend because my parents didn't like him. Now I regret it. I love my husband but I feel like I only fell in love with him because I was on rebound from my boyfriend who I loved. I saw him a couple months ago and he said he still loves me and I couldn't smile at him unless I wanted to get divorced. (he loves my smile I guess) he didn't tell me at the time we were dating. My husband is divorced and has slept with many people...I have only slept with him. He told me to sleep with someone else just so I know what its like but I don't think I can do it. I'm afraid of what it will do to our relationship. My husband says he ruined my life but I feel like I ruined my exboyfriends life. i just don't know what to do I'm afraid temptation will get the best of me and I don't have any friends that won't blab in our small town. I see my ex almost every day and if I don't I can't stop thinking about him.
2007-05-03 15:02:42 · 6 answers · asked by togobackintime 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just wanted to say that MCC didn't really grasp the whole situation. I didn't say I even did anything with the guy I have been trying to avoid him because I don't want to be a statistic. And you have no basis to judge me. I am 20 years old and have had two miscarriages among the many other horrible things that have happened in my life. And although there are some things in my life I would change there are others I would not. My husband was cheated on by his exwife about 20 times within their few months of marriage thats why he's divorced so don't be so quick to judge. Maybe I should have explained myself better in the first place. But its nice to know that you have the perfect life and marriage...
2007-05-03 15:30:59 · update #1
I think it would be best to avoid your ex as much as possible, if not, you will be a statistic...a bad one.
2007-05-03 15:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you should have never gotten married even without the ex being in the picture. If any man, especially your husband tells you to sleep with someone else is not good on your behalf; that shows he's stepping out on you or he doesn't cherish the marriage as he should. Second, if you were still in love with your ex, yes you are wrong for getting married because your heart and mind were not where they were suppose to be, and you were not making a decision for you, you were making a decision for your parents. Never follow someone else's heart, and wants for you because you do not get any happiness out of the situation, nor do you learn from it. You need to check the statues of your husband, but first yourself and make the decision from there.
2007-05-03 15:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by miss voe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong . When i married my husband in 99 i was still in love with my ex bf. My husband passed away in 03 & for 3,5 years i finally started all over in Jan 07. I ran into my ex-bf & we picked up were we left off. But this time we only lasted 3 months. I saw a side of him i didn't want to live anymore so we broke up last Sun. I met him in 96 & we had a thing for 99, we broke up in April & i got married in Oct.
2007-05-03 15:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by texasstar1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so young to have all this emotional trauma. you did marry on the rebound. your husband is a loser and you will divorce sooner or later....no normal husband would tell his wife to sleep around....if he loved you he would never say this. you have to decide if you want to stay with you husband, if you have a lot in common and can see a future, otherwise give it up and go back to the one you are attracted to.
2007-05-03 15:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by swederon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, you are on your way for a divorce. Some people just have to play with fire in her house to see what it's like to burn it down.
2007-05-03 15:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from this man and start working on your marriage.
2007-05-03 15:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋