I decided to grow up? My g/f and ex g/f is pregnant with my baby?

Question

My current g/f cassie who i just got back together with today is pregnant with my child. She decided to give me another chance but we got alot to work out. I do love her with all my heart but i still have feelings for my ex g/f jess. She doesn't even want to talk to me because of my affair with cassie. I met cassie a year ago and i was with jess at the time. I felled in love with cassie when i met her on the beach last summer. She is beautiful and so is jess, they both got great personialty. When i told jess about cassie she slapped me across the face and told me to get out of her life, i tried to hold her but she pushed me away. i dont care what jess says, i will be there for jess and our baby. Cassie is crazy about me and she gave me another shot and i will not blow this time, when i met cassie, i couldnt break it off with jess because i did not want to hurt her because i had feelings for cassie and jess and i still do alot but i am with a great girl in cassie. we are in high school

we are in high school, jess is a senior and me and cassie are juniors. I will not abandand jess and our baby even if she says she wants me out of her life. I will def not abandand cassie or our unborn baby, cassie is my life. I do got a job after school but it is at walmart. cassie and jess work too. I did something stupid, i will admit it even with my pride, i got into a fight with jess's brother because jess told him that i cheated on her with cassie. he came up to me and said some **** and said why u cheated on jess. i did tried to walk away and he said where are you going chickenshit, going to the wh*re you cheated with on jess. I turned around and punched him and we got into a fight. 4 teachers had to break it up, i broke his nose and igot a blackeye. I will not abandand jess even if she doesnt love me anymore. Cassie is crazy about me and i am crazy about her. when i told her about jess, she wanted to still be with me and i did work my charm alittle but she told me she will think

she came over to my place tonight and told me that she wanted to be with me but we have alot to work to patch our relationship up. i started crying and she started crying too. i said i love you and cassie said i love you too. i started working my charm. i started brushing my hand on her cheek and she wanted me i could tell. I didnt want to kiss her because i thought it wasnt the right time, she said well r u going to kiss me, i pulled her close and gave her a kiss which lead to one passinate kiss IMO. She loved it, but i didnt want to hurt jess but it just happened, me and cassie met and i felled in love, i felt something bigger between both of us. i think jess does not want nothin to do with me because i found the lockit i gave to her smashed on my frontporch. I also gave cassie one with a pic of me and her in it and she wears it everyday. BTW Cassie looks great in lingerie and a bikini lol. jess does too and they both have great personaity.

i feel so fu*ken stupid, my god dam life feels like a god damn soap opera love triangle god dam it and i dont fu*ken like it

Answer 1

You are in high school and you have managed to get two girls pregnant? SHAME on you!!
I think you need to take care of BOTH of your babies and mend fences with atleast one of the babies mommas.....I would have slapped you too, I don't blame Jess I mean you CHEATED on her!!! GOOD luck to you ...your gonna need it!!
I have one more thing to say....
When you are young It's easy to fall in love with the first person you meet... But as you get older you start to realize that the "love" you thought you felt was just infatuation. Who you think you love now probably won't be the one you love in 10 years or even 5....so just focus on the 2 babies. Be a good father and when you mature....things will work themselves out in the end.

Answer 2

Wow!
Your life sounds like it could be a tv drama. If you love Cassie, then stay with her because if u leave her, then u r probobly not going 2 get another chance. If you do have feelings for Jess though, and want 2 be with her, then I would fight for her. Also what ever u do take the initiative to be in both of the childs lives. Even if the mothers don't want you 2.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

okay...

First of all, even though you are young, its time to grow up because you have two babies on the way. Talk to your parents/guardians. They may throw you out of the house, or they may help you out.
Second, get a counsellor. You obviously have issues with the two young women in your life. You are going to need someone to help you understand all that you are going through. Maybe the counsellor can help you out with the concept of birth control methods. I think you need more information on condoms for you and oral contraceptives for the women in your life.
Third, talk to Cassie and Jess, but separately. Consider your options for these babies. Some people are against abortion, some people believe its the choice of the parents. Find out where you all stand on the issue. But maybe it is already too late for an abortion. Talk about adoption, and who is going to raise the babies. Maybe, given that you three are all in high school, giving the babies up to caring homes would be better than trying to raise them. There are different types of adoptions, some are open to the birth parents for visiting and special occasions. Or maybe this can be where your (or their) parents step in: either they raise the babies, or they significantly help you out.

And please do not quit school. At least try to make it work before even considering quitting. If you want your children to have a good life, you (and Cassie and Jess) need to be educated so you all can get good jobs to support the children.

Good luck to the two babies on the way.


... and one last thing, why are high school girls wearing lingerie? and why are you telling the world that they both look good in it? and why do you tell the world about your "charm?" That's not what charm is, darling.

Answer 4

okay, let's put aside the 2 children for a minute and just deal with your feelings for cassie and jess. I know it's ard when you have two great girls who both have things to offer. It's a little immature, but make a list. Name all the pros and all the cons. Even if there are more cons than pros for someone, evalaute how major the con is (maybe it's something like she's racist, but if it's something little like she doesn't like action movies, that's not such a big deal). If you find happiness with both and think you love both, the list might put things into better prespective. Who makes you laugh more? Who do you fight with more? Who understands you more? It might take a while but you owe it to all people involved to do it. Even if you find yourself loving Jess more and she won't talk to you, it's not fair to be with Cassie just because of that. You will be a better father if you're happy. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Your in high school for god sake. I can tell you right now, if you still have feelings for either of these girls in 10 years, it will be meant to be, but most likely you wont. Keep it in your pants or use protection, you have got 2 girls pregnant. Grow up and be more responsible, if you had of been more responsible in the first place you wouldnt have ruined either of these girls lives. Its likely neither of them will finish high school, neither will be able to get the sort of careers they may have wanted, partying after graduation is no longer an option, nor is travel. Do they both know the other is pregnant? If not then you need to tell them or it could get worse when they find out.

Answer 6

all 3 of ya become mormons(sp?)
the thing where u have more then one spouce

talk about drama....im in high school myself, never seen 1 dad and 2 moms both with same dad thing....heard about it....apparently it didnt turn out to well

i dont blame jess for slapping u, they both should

their ur kids, take care of em' be a good dad....shittie parents suck trust me
did u tell ur parents? and does the other girl kno u got the other girl pregnant too?

Answer 7

I have yet to see a question in all this mess of a story. But if you really want to grow up then stop sleeping with all these girls, and if you are going to, wrap it up. Its not fair to the kids you're creating. It's not like they're just going to understand that daddy has mad love for one girl, but still has feelings for another girl, blah blah blah. And as much as they might like going on outings to see daddy working at the local Walmart after school, do you really think that's enough to support all the progeny you're so proudly creating? Lucky girls, lucky lucky girls (sarcasm).

Answer 8

okay man. If you still have feelings for both of them then you dont need to choose one of them. Get it? Just get a couple of jobs at a few hamburger joints and take care of your kids! Deciding who to be with is the last of your problems right now.

Answer 9

wow..sounds like you have a lot on your plate buddy. have you thought about going to see maybe the school counsellor or somone about any of this? 2 babies. 2 different mothers...at 17..i imagine you could use a steady ear. best of luck! hope this helps and hope it all works out for you

Answer 10

WOW, You are the man! You grew up the minute you took it out of your pants and your are just realizing that you grew up. I am just glad that it happen before the babies were born and not after. cause now that you are grown up you know what you have to do..............