on my birthday i invited my cousin to come over because i diddn't want a party but instead she went to the movies with her boyfriend and diddn't bother at all to ring me,as i found out from my grandma. it still makes my blood boil as i think about it! and i would really like a nasty overly NASTY way to get my revenge.
2007-05-03 13:42:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just so you know i made a huge effort and went to her party.
and i want revenge.
2007-05-03 13:56:31 · update #1
Is she obnoxious or just plain forgetful? If the latter, then she probably feels worse about it than you do. If the former, then she's not worth bothering with. Don't bother going to any of her birthday's or celebrations in the future and she'll probably get the idea.
I wouldn't advise overtly nasty revenge within the family (assuming she's a close cousin) as a blood feud can have unintended consequences spiraling out of control to other members of your family. I know you feel angry now, but it's worth taking a step back before you do something that could have effects lasting decades.
2007-05-03 13:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by Perran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Living well is the best revenge." Don't remember who said it, but he or she was brilliant.
First off, get out, meet people, try new things, broaden your horizons, and meet more people you like so you have more options for company.
Then forgive your cousin and move on. If she brings it up, shrug and say, "No big deal" and change the subject. If she's a twit, nothing will make her madder than realizing she's not the center of your world. If she's not a twit, she'll be grateful that you aren't holding her hostage for her mistake.
Either way, you win.
2007-05-03 13:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can feel your hurt, the steam coming from your ears, & YES, that totally was rude of her. The LEAST she could have done was pick up the phone, #1 wish you a Happy B.D., but apologize she had already made plans. But, you are the one who is making yourself upset by not "letting it go". She's not hurting, she had her "fun", did what she wanted to do. BUT, you're still "allowing" her to control you by harboring the bad feelings against her. I think what I would do would be to call her up, thank her for really taking part in helping you celebrate your B.D. & how much you appreciated her hurting your feelings like she did! THEN, let it go. Message relayed, she'll feel like the louse she was & case closed. Maybe you could even say you'll remember in the future you've learned you can't count on her & not to be surprised if she isn't included in the next upcoming event. But for your sake, you've got to let it go & move on. You have the control over that, so at least you can do rite by yourself on that anyway. BTW, Happy belated Birthday!
2007-05-03 14:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to pretend to be a human being.
Don't try for revenge.
You weren't clear in your details, but if she said she'd come over, and didn't, then you do have a grievence.
Be cold with her until she apologizes.
If you take revenge, then she will have a legitimate grievance with you.
Right now, you're in the superior position.
If you do something horrible to her, you will be in the sewer.
If you want to make her feel bad, be cold toward her and explain why, when she asks.
If you want her to feel infinitely superior to you (which she WILL be), then get revenge.
2007-05-03 13:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like my answer, but honestly, I would just move on, revenge doesn't seem worth it to me. Just know for next time. And yes I am sure I would be angry to over that situation, in fact it has happened to me! I would confront her and see what she has to say for herself. lol. And then I probably would not invite her to anything again. Even if she is family. lol.
2007-05-03 13:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is not the answer. Stop and think about it you would of done the same thing and not given a second thought.
2007-05-03 13:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she really needs you for something make yourself UNAVAILABLE or say you will be there and leave her waiting, serve her right! it was your b-day how rude i would have at least should up with a gift and card and a happy b-day b4 going to the movies, mayb would of invited u to come along...
2007-05-03 13:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is mine saith the lord.
2007-05-03 13:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by David R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs does not make a right...get over it and move on
2007-05-03 13:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to get revenge she did nothing wrong
2007-05-03 13:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by mommie_29801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋