Ever since my wife started taking Kung Fu she has lost interest in me as well as the house. She is always tired and we hardly have sex anymore ? and if we do, is like she is being forced and complaining. Any suggestions ?
2007-05-03 13:12:33 · 18 answers · asked by Rafael R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I started taking the classess with her but do to work I had to stop. Otherwise, I would love to do it. FYI my 3 Kids are taking classes too.
2007-05-03 13:27:52 · update #1
We do go out on every friday nights to a night club which is our nights together. But it feels like she is not even dancing with me.
2007-05-03 13:53:52 · update #2
Talk to her and point out that you're glad she found a new passion. But it is a hobby, and hobbies are not supposed to take over your whole life. It is best if spouses share their activities. What do you think about going to the same class with her?
2007-05-03 13:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since she started doing Kung Fu she is always tired and hardly have sex, these things boost your energy level. And it has been proven that they also increase your sex drive. She can be sore and tired yes, but that is no excuse for no sex for a long period.
So it not about the Kung Fu , it is about about something else. She could be in love with the instructor , getting sex some where else or wants to do some Kung Fu and then get it on.
Ask questions do not be afraid, ask her what she wants. Tell her you need her.
Try and work this out, I would hate for you to starve due to Kung Fu.
2007-05-03 14:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Analyst 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps several points might be of help to you.
1) Ask her why she has an interest in Kung Fu? Is it to keep healthy? Is it to kick someone's backside? Is it to protect herself fromsome kind of threat? Is it a respect of a cultural tradition?
2) Communicate with her and ask openly and safely if there is something you are doing--or not doing--that maybe causing her dis-interest. I know this can be a painful question to ask and we all would prefer not to deal with it. However, if you ask this question out of concern she may reveal to you something you or you both need to work on.
3) Could Kung Fu be an opportunity for you both to spend time together? Sharing interests with a spouse can be fun, meaningful and sometimes even sexy.
4) Perhaps plan a nice evening for you both where you show your true love for her. But plan all these things expecting nothing in return. After your time together, express your feelings for her and kiss her good night but again do not expect intimacy in return. She may naturally respond to you, but if she doesn't use the next day or so to express your hopes and needs and then ask her also for what she may need from you.
No advice is perfect but I hope a few of these things might be of help. Blessings and best wishes!
2007-05-03 13:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Racer X 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grasshopper, I really don't know what to say. You definately have to have a conversation w/her on her priorities as in you over Kung Fu!?! Hey, why not let her throw you into the bed. Maybe she'll get the hint. It's pretty bad if she's complaining and being forced. I know it's not any fun when they're not into it. She is really blowing it if Kung Fu is takeing president over pleasing your husband's basic needs.
2007-05-03 15:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very sad. There is no way that Kung Fu Fighting can change a person's whole interest in a husband/wife.
I think that you should sit and have a heart to heart with her and try to find out what's really going on.
Take care.
2007-05-03 13:58:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it's not related to the Kung Fu, that's just an excuse. Either that, or she's sleeping with the Sensei.
2007-05-03 13:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol utt ohh i hope she isnt cheating on you with her kung fu teacher lol or some guy in her class...lol you should go to one of her classes with her and see what's up. I cant see how just getting a hobby like kung fu would make her lose interest in you...something sounds off. I hope im wrong.
2007-05-03 13:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to your wife and let her know that this is having an impact on your marriage. Maybe if you try to tell her how you feel and where your coming from she will understand. Ask her to skip class one night and plan a romantic evening to talk with her. Good Luck!!
2007-05-03 13:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy Seductive T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife about your concerns. Be supportive of her trying something new, but help her to understand that you are her husband, and she needs to take an interest in you too.
2007-05-03 13:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by The only good blu is a dead blu! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that people after exercises can recover soon after and have a good appetite for sex. So you have to find out if her excuse is really valid.
2007-05-03 13:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋