Okay I am attatched and straight....however I am curious about being with another girl...and I really like this one, however I am not sure if she is bi and I am not sure how to go about asking her, if she would be interested in being more than friends for this one occasion.
How do I ask her and if she says no how do I handle it....No one knows I am feeling this way especially my partner.
2007-05-03 13:07:09 · 18 answers · asked by latinalooking 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Before you act on your feelings, talk with your partner. Cheating is Cheating!
2007-05-03 13:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, does she seem at all interested? Does she flirt back with you? I recommend setting her up in the right situation- you know romantic evening (whatever that may be for her), and then slowly putting the moves on her. Just be sensitive to her mood, watch carefully to see if you're making her uncomfortable. Don't push things to fast, take it slow, and be willing to back off completely. You can ask before hand if she's interested, or just naturally lead the conversation down that road. But I find that it makes girls more cautious and guarded. Though, you'll have to see what works best for you. If she says no, then take it gracefully, and try to see how she means it (is it a no not ever, or a no not tonight). If she's not interested, you might have better luck with an openly bi or lesbian girl. Good luck, I'm sure you'll get her just where you want her.
2007-05-03 13:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by blue_devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you really need to sit down and have a long talk about these feelings of yours with your partner. YOU need to explain this need to know for yourself and that YOU need to be sure you either are or aren't bi-sexual. Now, when the that's all taken care of, here's what you may want to do. First, of course, get yourself cleaned up and dressed-up nicely(there's no excuse for dressing badly or poorly). Depending on where you live, there must be one big city that has at least one LGBT club or bar nearby. Go there EARLY in the evening. The best way to meet someone is to stay in one spot and stay "open" with your body language. Don't: Slouch, cross your arms, look distracted, look desperate, and for goodness sakes DON'T look SAD!!! Or like a deer in headlights either! Now, as to this woman you've been looking at. Well, the best way would be to ask her if she's wanting to get some coffee or a bite of lunch. If she says yes to either, then ask if she wants go go with you. Sit down and actually start a conversation with her. Please don't jump out and ask her if she's bi-sexual in the first five seconds of sitting down, you'll frighten her! Actually put the effort into getting to know each other a little bit first. Yes, you may have to go to lunch a few times, yet you'll know when the time to ask her about it is right. If she says yes, she's bi, then you'll have a start as to where this could go next. If she says no, then please don't be disapointed. It's not your fault. She's just not that way. Most people I know are flattered when someone thinks they are or aren't one way or the other and that the other person has been "hitting" on them without actually doing so. As to handling this set-back, don't panic! Ask her if she knows of someone whom could help you with finding someone else you can speak with about all this, as well as maybe go out with a time or two also! This is kind of like dating in high school all over again if you think about it. Except this time, either you're the one asking another woman out or she is aking YOU out! Now, get out there and start dating already! And yes, you WILL find someone too! Just remember to practice safe sex please!
2007-05-03 13:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the 2nd that's no longer complicated on the eyes. There ought to be some actual and psychological charm. The emotional section will come once I study you. i might somewhat have somebody who's interdependent. autonomous ladies i will't stand with the aid of fact they suspect they could do all of it by utilising themselves and don't want you. then you somewhat become a call somewhat of a concern. additionally can no longer stand based ladies who think of that without you there's no way they might make it and continuously could desire to be with you. i like somebody who keeps her own identity yet that identity is in basic terms an extension of me. i want others to look at us and notice in basic terms one individual. In different words, they do no longer comprehend the place she starts off and the place I end. a woman who does not and could no longer lie, cheat, or thieve is a huge PLUS. a woman who does not take great thing approximately somebody or take them with no attention. existence is in basic terms too short to be doing this to people. a woman who communicates in a comfortable, soft, and passionate voice, somewhat of one who screams and yells on the genuine of their lungs.
2016-12-17 03:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by declue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea-get drunk with her. It always seems that drunk women start making out with each other.
Or, just ask her.
I am straight and wouldn't know how to approach someone of the same sex like that but maybe just do it the same way you would with someone of the opposite sex.
2007-05-03 13:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
about with a drink to loosing up a little first or ask her what she would think or tell her someone asked u first and see what her reaction is.
2007-05-03 13:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring up a 3sum first and see what her reaction is. Go from there.
2007-05-03 14:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST THING talk to your partner before you experiment in this. than see what you want to do after you talk to him.
2007-05-03 13:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by littleone60014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go out with her and she how wild she gets!! Then flirt a little and take it from there!!! Good Luck!!
2007-05-03 13:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cipes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about how she feels about other gurls n if they was to b2gether and everything else if she feels fine about it then go head and say how u feel n have fun i felt da same way about gurls
2007-05-03 13:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋