If your life is falling apart before your very eyes, what do you do?

Answer 1

A BIG roll of duct tape...fixes everything, right? Okay, seriously, without knowing what you're going through, it would be very difficult to give you a more precise direction. If it's something you have control over, do something about it. If it's something someone else has control over, talk to them about it. Like if your parents are getting divorced. There's nothing you can do about it (despite movies like Parent Trap), but you can ask your parents what's going to happen to you. If your sweetheart dumped you for someone else, move on. I know it's hard, but no one died from a broken heart (though some people thought suicide would fix it...it didn't). Life does go on, with or without you (kinda nice to have you along for the ride, though). I mean, there's only so much you can control. The rest, you just hang on for dear life and see where it takes you. Try to hang out with positive people. Get involved in a project or a volunteer program. Sometimes helping the less fortunate helps us see our own problems in a whole new light. My motto is, "Everything is temporary, and subject to change". This too, shall pass. I know those words may be small comfort while you're deep in your problems. But when you stop and think about it, things WILL change, given enough time. Do the things you can do. The rest, chill and wait it out. If you're a praying person, give it to God. He's bigger than all of us, and though some doubt this, He IS in control, even when things seem chaotic. Chin up, my friend. The light at the end of the tunnel isn't always a train. <*)))><

Answer 2

I would call your regular doctor again and get on an antidepressant, or call the psychiatrist's office and tell them that you are suicidal. I also think that the other posters who mentioned going to a school counselor are spot on. Sometimes the best thing to do is drop back in your goals until well again. Quitting this term may be the best thing for you. At the least, get them to let you drop several courses. This depression is not your fault. It is not a moral failing or a character flaw, nor are you just being difficult. It is a very serious medical problem that requires treatment. Depression is when lowered neurotransmitters in the brain cause a depressed mood. Oftentimes it is hereditary. Getting onto a proper medication is paramount. Relationships do suffer a lot when one is depressed. When you're feeling a little better, try to explain to your friends that you have been ill and are sorry for being hard to get along with. (I know--when I'm depressed I'm a b*tch on wheels!) You'll just have to advocate for yourself for a little while for today. Once you get a psychiatrist in place things will be easier. But do try both of them on the phone today!! Here's my internet "Get well soon!!" card. And I mean it.

Answer 3

I was in that situation a month ago. I won't share the details here, but home, family, work, school, finances, and other problems were all piling up on me. I was going to work to get away from stress.

I realized that certain things were out of my control and I could not control many of these issues. I also prayed and committed issues to God. Some of the worst things have straightened out, and I'm working on the other issues. Other issues have since been eliminated.

Because so many things were not in my control, I had to realize that I would just have to realize that these things were the way they were and that there was nothing that would change for now. But that the things will get better later on.

The serenity prayer is particularly applicable.
"God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change,
courage to change the things we can,
and wisdom to know the difference."

Answer 4

I want to poke my eyes out, but I figure, what the hey? It's not going to stop it from falling apart, is it?

Answer 5

It's been falling apart for a while now and i still don't know what to do.

Answer 6

Just hold on and things will get better, life is a journey and we all play a small part. Say a little prayer that might help.

Answer 7

I laugh and say wow, I really messed up this time! I better figure out what it is I did wrong and work on getting my life back together. We are not given more than we can handle, the stronger your soul the harder the challenges, its up to you to flow around obstacles rather than try and push through them.

Answer 8

It is, I do feel it falling apart & crushed to the ground. There's absolutely nothing I can do but watch it slide & hopefully regain another one

Answer 9

I already posted this answer, but I stand by it:


Whatever you do, the most important thing is to be sure of it.
Think long and hard, and don't be afraid to lean on a friend or two.

Answer 10

I take charge and change things in a different direction. It might not be perfect, but at least I can be in charge.