dose getting an abortion hurt??

Question

Ok, im 12 and i got sexuali abused and i got pregnant. And so i want to have the baby and put it to adoption but my parents are forcing me to get and abortion. Me personly im totaly against that but my parent are forcing me. So im realy scared of what to espect.

PS; Sorry for my BAD spelling

Answer 1

They will give you medication to help with the pain. At it's worst, it feels like really bad cramps. You will be totally over all of it within probably 2 days total.

You are doing the right thing. A pregnancy would wreak havoc on your little body. I know you have reservations, but your parents are doing what they think is best for you. And I think one day you will thank them. You are too young to have to deal with the repercussions of carrying a baby conceived in violence. You need to concentrate on healing yourself from your ordeal. I'll pray for you, my dear.

Answer 2

There is a huge different depending on the type of abortion and how far along you are. The least painful is a pill abortion with Mifepristone or RU486. This can only be used in the first 49 days of gestation, and usually causes cramps followed by a miscarriage. D&C (dilation and curettage) abortions and vacuum aspiration abortions are more painful. The amount of pain depends somewhat on the kind of anesthetic is used. Some abortions are performed under local anesthetic given with a needle into the cervix: The needle in the cervix is quite painful. Others are performed under twilight anesthesia, which is a low dose of general anesthesia medication, and causes the patient to forget the surgery and the time right after it. In both there is subsequent pain, comparable to a bad period. A partial-birth abortion or intact D&E (illegal in many areas) is used when the fetus is quite large, usually in the third trimester. I'm not positive, but I believe that it sometimes requires an induced labor, in addition to other methods, and is probably very painful. It is certainly most emotionally painful because most people do not have this unless it is a life and death situation.

Answer 3

Hey sweetie,

I've never been in your situation before, but I wanted to answer anyway. I'm so sorry for everything that's happened and that your parents are trying to make you do this against your will. You're very young, but no one should ever be able to tell you that you can't have your baby.

Someone a few answers above me said something like that a twelve year old has an 80% risk of dying if they try to have a baby and I know that that isn't the case at all. Especially, with a good doctor, anyone's chance of having a healthy baby and pregnancy should be about the same and iif complications arise when a woman is haviing a baby then they just give her a c-section instead--I know lots of people who were born that way and their moms are all just fine.

I think that the part for you that would be the hardest, and I'm guessing this is what your parents are most concerned with, is the emotional factor of being pregnant. Teen mothers aren't really smiled upon in our society and your parents might not want this to hurt the way people look at you (or at them). Having your baby wouldn't be easy honey, but that doesn't mean your parents have the authority to try to keep you from it. My mom's biological mother was very young, but I'm incredibly glad that she decided to have her because if she hadn't had my momand then put her up for adoption, I would never have existed. If you do want to have this baby, I think you need to start by telling as many people as possible. It might feel very personal to talk about, but you need adult witnesses who can help keep your parents from forcing you into this quietly. I would tell family member or friend, a teacher or counselor, or any other person yu can trust. Looking up a crisis pregnancy center and calling them may also be helpful, or finding a laywer. For your age though, I would suggest starting with a teacher or someone close.

Good luck honey and I'm hoping and praying for happiness and healing for you no matter what happens

Answer 4

You have several options depending on how much money you can afford.
The first kind of abortion is where they numb up your cervix with a local anesthetic (novacaine...) and they they dialate the cervical os, put in a vacuum tube, and push the tube in and out scraping the pregnancy off of the inside of the uterus. You will feel pressure as the doctor pushes the tube in and out, but the pain will not return until the numbness wears off. You will be completely awake and hear everythnig, including the contents of your uterus (your baby) being sucked into a vacuum container at your bedside. The least expensive.
The second type of abortion is done the same way, but in your IV (intravenous), they add something called versed or diprovan to kind of knock you out so that you will not know what they are doing at all, and you should hear or feel nothing. The next least expensive.
The third type of abortion that is done in the hospital is where they put you to sleep and put you on a 'blower' (a ventilator) and they do the same thing, but you wake up a few hours later. The most expensive.
You will have intermittent bleeding and cramping for up to 7-10 days after your abortion. You will be given an antibiotic and a pain medicine to be taken at home. You will be asked not to douche, put in a tampon, have sex or put anything into your vagina for a few weeks.
There are still a few cases each year where the uterus is punctured while having this procedure done and the mother dies form complications of hemorrhaging.
Good luck.

Answer 5

wow, I too was abused like that when I was little, but I cant say I got pregnant. I really feel for you. Having an abortion does not hurt. There may be some mild cramping, but it is not that bad. It is also a very quick process. Please know, even though this is a personal choice, your parents are only trying to do what they think is best for you. Try not to resent them for that. At 12, your body may not even be able to handle a pregnancy. Also, it could end up being a lot harder to put a baby up for adoption. You would get so emotinally attached. I am not trying to say that haveing an abortion is right for you, just try to think of it from your parents side. It is still there job to protect them/ Good luck sweety

Answer 6

Don't worry about the spelling.. You are only 12! I had a baby at 15 my Mom wanted me to get a abortion also, but I didn't want to! I ended up keeping the baby. He is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. If adoption is what you would like to do, it's your choice and I think it's a great one. I am glad that you can realize that people out there would love to have a child and can't and you could be the person to give someone like them a child! It's your body do what you feel is right!

Answer 7

Well, consider the girl who WANTS an abortion and has to do what her parents tell her. That is messed up too. Teenagers have little rights and that ought to be changed. You have your own mind and you should decide what to do.

Unfortunately, the laws do not give young girls much choice in the matter. You must do as your parent(s) wish until you are 18 in some states. I hope one day that congress and laws are off my body and out of my uterus!!!

You are stuck. That stinks. The law believes you parents have the ultimate say, and they do. They feel that this is best. After your abortion, work hard to fight for women's rights. Work for teenager's rights as a way of helping to correct this serious problem with society.

Good luck. I am it will not be "that" bad for you. Chin up. Think positively. Get counseling.

Answer 8

okay, first of all, i am pretty sure that it is illeagal for your parents to force you in2 that. even if you are a minor, it's your choice.

Even though you are given local anastesia, it can still be painful. Nothing to severe, but it can still hurt. They have to open your cervix , and vacuum out the embryo. Tou may also want 2 lay low 4 the rest of the day. It is leagal in m,ost states 2 get an abortion up to 3 months in2the pregnancy.

By the way, i am SO sorry that that happened 2 you. i cant even imagine how terrible that must be.

Answer 9

Because you are not of legal age they have the last say, you are too young to live on your own and if they don't want to support you the only other option if you want to have the child is another relative who could take you in and look after you, labour is a very intense painful thing to go through. If you have the child and it looks like you attacker it would just bring back what you have gone through, giving up for adoption may mean in the future they may want to find you, could you deal with that? I wish you luck.

Answer 10

an abortion does not hurt physically but emotionally yes & should not be taken into consideration, but in your case you would not be doing the wrong thing..
at your age you have an 80% chance you will die if you give birth & not only that, it wouldnt be the right thing to do anyway.
come on your 12, the baby was made via rape, i know killing it would be sad, but its not what you wanted, get rid of it!!! because your parents make a very good point.

look, i believe your still an innocent child, at 12 i was raped too by 2 guys, although i did not fall pregnant, now, down the track 7 years later i am very hurt by this. years ago i thought it was nothing, but it really does stuff with your head & i just think that all these adults sitting here telling you to have this baby need to sit back and realise what they have wrote. you are still a baby yourself. you probably cant understand because you think your old enough to do these things. but your not. your parents still have full rights over you, if they say your having an abortion... your going to have one.. you need to grown up on this one, your pregnant, you need to act like an adult & make the right decisions, not only for you but for that baby aswell....

Answer 11

I understand that you are against abortion - but you were abused. (my heart goes out to you) I don't know what to expect as i have never experienced abortion. Think about this if ou have the baby and put it up for adoption... 18 years down the road... baby comes looking for you to meet you and asks these questions "Mom why did you put me up for adoption, who's my dad...How are you going to answer those questions honestly without devastating or hurting your child...

I don't condone abortion for a means of birth control - but in cases such as this...damn freakin right i would definately get rid of it - it was a child created out of assault NOT love. And for the love of GOD it is not murder!!!