why do people cheat on there spouse?

Answer 1

They don't have enough respect for their spouse to keep their urges in check.

Answer 2

I believe people cheat on their spouse because they simply do not care about their spouse. They may have some feelings for their spouse and may even love them, but they are not "in love" with them. I also believe that people cheat because they are caught into a trap of what they want, not what will hurt the other person if they find out. I think a lot of people that cheat would rather do the do and deal with the consequences later. There is no way that a person could actually say they care about their spouse if they are messing around with somebody else. If they cared, they would talk to their spouse and do whatever it takes to workout the problem. Either that or end the relationship all together. But I don't believe that there always has to be a problem in a relationship for someone to cheat. I think it's just a matter of someone doing what they want to do. I have been married for almost 3 years and I have not once cheated, and 30 years from now I won't cheat. How am I so sure? Because I remember my vows and I care about him. What will I gain out of sneaking around behind my husband's back? Nothing.

Answer 3

with me it has nothing to do with a lack of respect or poor morals,its a change in your life your husband or wife stop paying attention to you your sex life becomes non existent but the human wants needs and urges remain so to this formula ad another person with the same problem or someone who shows interest in the neglected person and bingo you have the makings of an affair,happy people don't generally fool around they have no reason to we all need love and attention and if it does not come from the home then it will be found elsewhere.
you should understand that just because you boink someone else doesn't always mean that you no longer love your wife though chances are if you meet the right person the marriage could or would end

Answer 4

There are too many reason why people cheat to list, but speaking from experience not communicating is one reason, and feeling unloved/rejection is another. I know that when my husband cheated on me it was because he assumed that I didn't love him anymore. I was snappy and in my own world, and I didn't pay attention to what he wanted or when he needed me (but he also didn't go about this matter in a way that I understood would cause him to believe our marriage was failing, I was clueless to his thoughts and feelings like he was to mine). I had recently moved to a new state 3000 miles away from family and friends' and became very depressed. He spent more time with his friends and family. He took my withdrawal as rejection. I thought he paid more attention to the outside of our home instead of the inside. Now we are trying to be very open and honest with how we are feeling with one another as best as we can and so far its working. Its hard because his unfaithfulness has cost us a great deal of things and somethings you can never get back.

Answer 5

I really have no idea how anyone can do it. I accept that people can be attracted to other people and that they can have deep feelings for them, but i can't understand how they actually cheat, unless they don't care about the person they're cheating on, but in that case they shouldn't have a problem with telling them and then moving on to the person they want to cheat with.

Answer 6

There i s no good reason why, some say because they aren't getting love at home , some say that they married to soon, what ever the reason it is still wrong. If you feel the need to cheat, get your self a divorce. Spare the other persons feelings.

Answer 7

I think it's usually because cheaters don't/can't/won't invest their time and energy in their own relationship. Cheating is an escape for some people - no arguments, no money issues, no stress... just sex. Personally, I couldn't cheat on my guy. I adore him from my eyebrows to my toenails and would never disrespect him or myself that way.

Answer 8

There are a variety of reasons....like neglect, lonliness, confusion, having been hurt, but they all trickle down to SELF CONTROL. If you meant what you said when you say your vows, then when the "worse" part comes, you maintain your dignity, and self control. If a person's not happy, they should leave the marriage before getting involved with someone else. It's not very smart to jump from the frying pan to the fire.

Answer 9

No respect for their spouse or for themselves. But mainly I believe that it is a lack of morals. If the relationship is that bad then they should divorce. Adultery is never the answer!

Answer 10

They are not getting what they need from their spouse. Often, it's because they want to punish either themself (they may not like themself) or their spouse. Either way, it's a selfish action and shows complete disrespect for the spouse.