Theres alot of people that want to be at my babys birth, and some of them aren't taking no for an answer. So, how can i give birth with a lot of people being around me without letting them see anything? Like what would be best, water birth, ceceraen, etc? I don't want a lot of people seeing me down there so how can i give birth and minimize how much they will see???
2007-05-03 10:40:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Hi there! Well, here's my advice and it will work without hurting feelings. Tell everyone whom you wouldn't really WANT to be there, that the hospital has a limit on the number of people in the room during delivery. And this is usually true. The hospital will only let two people in at one time. You can let people visit you before the actual delivery starts. Your nurse will be very helpful in asking extra people to leave the room. She will be used to doing this task. And if someone IS in the room, that you'd rather not see you down there, have them stand next to your head. My husband stood there when our son was born, and he couldn't see anything down there. :) I let his Mother in the room during the delivery, and it wasn't weird at all. That's just my opinion. Do whatever makes you comfortable! And congratulations!! Best wishes!
2007-05-03 12:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by MommyMe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has to be your 1st baby..You do not have to have anyone other than who you want to be there. Most birthing centers I know of only allow the Father and coach if its not the father. So ask the doctor whats the people limit and go from there.. just remind the not taking no for an answer people that this is your baby and the health issues at birth are more important. There isnt any way to minimize the view. And if something (God forbid)were to happen, to many people in the way could hold up the help needed. Also.. if you are to soon be a mom you best learn how to say no and mean it! Tell them to wait in the family waiting room and you will get with them as soon as you and your baby are ready for visitors. Good luck!
2007-05-03 10:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sawboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can let the nurses tell them no. I did this so that no one would be upset. They can pretend that there is a limit, a lot of hospitals won't allow more than two people with you. Which ever form of birth makes you more comfortable is how you should do it, but I don't recommend a c-section unless needed. Why have a surgery that you don't need with all the added discomfort?
For my first child I had four people in there with me which was way too much, but you lose your shyness when it comes right down to it, just so you know.
2007-05-03 10:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my first I had just turned 18. I delivered in a small hospital and when I got there all the rooms were full. They put me in the triage room because they didnt think I would deliver quickly. Well...I ended up delivering in the triage room with people walking past my bed. I delivered and went to the recovery room before any of the women in the rooms even delivered.
I had another delivery with my mom, my dr, 2 nurses and 6 medical students watching.
If you only want certain people in the room then you need to tell them in no uncertain terms who will and wont be there. This is your delivery. If you only want 1 person...everyone else should respect your wishes. IF you want an army...so be it.
I have never had a water birth, but I hear they are wonderful
Goodluck!
2007-05-03 10:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can let the nurses know who you want in your room while giving birth. I only wanted my husband there and yes MIL was a little miffed, but was told that if she was pushing the issue we wouldn't call and tell them about the birth till after the baby was here. You're the one doing the work here and you need to be comfortable with what's going on... there's a reason it's called labor, it's hard and exhausting work.
You can always tell people that only people present at conception can be present at birth :-) (only exception being medical staff).
Stand up for what you want, you're going to get good at it because many people will tell you how to do it "right". There is no "right", only "right for you" and you're the only one who know what is right for you and baby (I guess I'm saying trust and react on your instincts).
2007-05-03 11:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Camilla H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first off no is no. it doesnt actually matter if they dont accept your choice, they will not be allowed if you say no, the nurses will not let them in there. u can even have the nurse ask them to leave or tell them for another reason that they cant be in the delivery room. the hospital i will deliver at saves me the time by allowing the dad and 1 significant other only @ delivery. post partum its up to u. but i agree u have too much to worry about going thru labor/delivery than to have people gawking at your vagina. they have to respect your wishes if they dont the nurses will take care of it TRUST ME. PS- u dont get to choose a c section just so others dont see your birth! and its major abdominal surgery u dont want that unless needed.
2007-05-03 10:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by charli_red1218 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
3 Things:
1. Your baby, your birth, your decision. No one else can decide.
2. When the time comes, you will not care who is around - just want to get that kid out by whatever means necessary! And there ain't no hiding from anybody.
3. Please consider a natural birth - at least don't get an elective c-section. Assuming you have no complications, your birth will probably be shorter and minimally painful (I didn't believe it until I did it!). And your recovery will be FAST. You have to decide if you want to be in pain for a couple hours or a couple weeks. (Oh yeah, and its usually better for the baby).
Good luck.
2007-05-03 11:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by lizzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell the doctors and nurses. They will be your "bodyguards" and respect your wishes.
Just FYI, I didn't really want my mom or mother-in-law there, but when the time came, I actually let them both be there, and my mom was so happy. It really meant a lot to her. So, if you feel like it, you can make up your mind then.
Maybe just tell them you don't want them in the room for the birth, but to wait outside, and as soon as the baby is born, you will let them in to see the baby.
2007-05-03 10:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most hospitals only allow a couple of people in the room with you (I had three). Honestly, when the time comes, you won't care if the whole damn city is looking at your vagina. I've learned that when you are pregnant you lose all modesty. Just pick the people who are closest to you to be in the room. If you don't want them to look, tell them that. I'm sure they'll respect your wishes. They can stand at the head of the bed and hold your hand (that's what my boyfriend did, because he was afraid to look!) Congrats and good luck!!
2007-05-03 11:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by aerofare 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time the hospital will check with you who you want around you, and also they tend to have a limit on how many can be with you because there has to be room for the doctors and nurses. So explain check with your hospital about delivery and then explain to everyone you can only have this many people with you but every one is welcome to wait in the waiting room and can come and see you and baby once there is enough room.
2007-05-03 10:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by Cassie V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋