i m depressed taken xanax and one night i saw them chating at 1 in z morning telling her that im sleeping and he can chat but she respond that she doesn't dear so i went into z conversation and told her that she have 2 be shame and go away . she send me an email telling me that there is nothing between her and my husband . but really i can not support her anymore . and my husband insist 2 keep a good relation with her and her husband . and me im dying more depressed .but he told me that he wanted 2 ask her about me cause i was unhappy and she good help me .but since 7 monthes im telling him u have 2 put a limit with u and her but nothing. now 4 summer we r planning 2 go 2 our country and i do not want 2 see her but my husband still very freindly with at least her husband .but really i cant see her i might kill her
2007-05-03 10:11:02 · 10 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let you husband know that it is upsetting you. Chatting at 1 am in the morning without your knowing is not a good thing. This makes me think there is something more going on between the two. If there were no strings attached he would have stopped after the first time you asked because he knew it upset you but he is not. I think the two of you need to sit down and talk about it and he needs to spill his guts. Let him know you are taking XANAX because of him!Then you can go from there and decide what needs to happen next. I agree with you, the friendship seems more than just a "friendship".
2007-05-03 10:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, if one suspects a spouse of cheating, usually they are. Or, there is something fishy going on.
Question for you: are you unhappy because you think he is cheating? Or, more likely, there are more things making you feel unhappy. Maybe a separation will help you figure out what you need.
I feel for you, nobody wants to think their husband is cheating, especially with a good friend. Dont get yourself down, focus on you, and think about how you can make your life better, even if it means being without your husband......
good luck
2007-05-03 17:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angie L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time for the ultimatums tell him that it is because of him talking to her that is making you feel the way you feel. if he wants to help make you better he must stop chatting with her NOW!. Tell him either he stops talking to her or he moves out and we start divorce proceedings. I think you have taken enough crap from this supposed friend and it ends now. I do not think it good for your marriage that you stay friends with this couple. Since it appears that this woman has her own problems if she is always talking to your husband when she has her own to talk to she is crossing the line, and your husband should realize this unless he has no common sense.
I wish you Luck and God Bless.
2007-05-03 17:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to spy on him when he is going out cause you really need something more than just conversation to assume what you are assuming don't jump into conclusions she was a good friend before all this need hard evidence then approach.
2007-05-03 17:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by oreo29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a husband? If yes maybe you should talk to hime aobut this. If not I would put an immedaite stop to it because any way you look at it it is wrong and she is not your friend. WAKE UP!!!
2007-05-03 17:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by TABBY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get rid of your husband...he continues to talk and see her because you are allowing it. Stand up for yourself and tell him you won't go on living this way. Get out he's an asshole. Oh and yes he is having sex with your husband.
2007-05-03 17:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lay down the law to him and tell him just how it's going to be. If he cannot accept that, show him the door.
2007-05-03 17:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like what might have happened didnt...so you should be happy nothing is there. Yeah I wouldnt want to be around her either.
2007-05-03 17:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is casual,itz usual.....dont prejudice ......ignore it......think that itz just friendship,may be they want to jealous you are so!keep faith,,this will win hearts....Never suspect,it will enable curious mind.So be cool.......spend time with him a lot,tel him you dont like it,if its more than friendship.If not ignore it.....live let live....
2007-05-03 17:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by diggy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your going to have to threaten him and say its me or them
2007-05-03 17:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋