My dad died about a year ago and i'm still very depressed. Is it normal to still be grieving?

Answer 1

yes that is okay to grieve because everybody does and its not a bad thing

Answer 2

It is very normal to still be grieving. Take your time. My dad passed away in 2005 and I'm still grieving. I get depressed from time to time about it.. This past week I spoke to my Pastor about it and he said that, We do not lose a loved one in death. It simply means that your dad and my dad's contract was up and the he had done all God wanted him to do on earth and now it was time for him to come back to God and do the things God wanted to be done in heaven.
You be encouraged and if you do not have a church home or God, please go and find both. While depression can be normal it can also be of the devil, cause he only comes to kill, steal and destroy the minds and bodies of God's people.
I am praying on your behalf today, that you will accept Gods comfort and strength each time you feel depressed. It's ok to grieve cause Jesus wept (grieved) when Lazarus died..

Be blessed in His arms-
NC

Answer 3

Of course it's normal!
Everybody is different, honey. And some people feel such a loss for a long, long time. As long as you are trying to work out those feelings, it's OK.
Therapy or counseling might be a good idea if a year has gone by and you are still depressed, though.

Try to focus on the good things you have, and cherish the memories of your dad. I haven't gone through your experience, so I don't have the right words for you, but I honestly believe your dad is in a better place now and he is sad to see you sad.
I hope you look for help soon. Talking to people who have been there helps, and asking God to help you heal is the best solution. You will be in my prayers. Good luck!

Answer 4

There is no set time to grieve over the loss of a loved-one, but it does indeed take time to heal.

If you feel it's becoming too much of an issue and is interferring in your life, seek some counseling.

I'm sure there are some local grief support groups where you live. You just have to do some searches or look in your local phone book.

Hang in there ... hard as it may seem, with time things do get better after the loss of a loved one.

Answer 5

Absolutely it is normal.
Some days are better then others. Painful truth is, that death is so final, and Dad's not coming back, and you miss him !!

Cling to your memories !! They are so personal.
They can make you sad or grateful. Choose to be grateful.

When my Mother died, I went into a deep depression &
extensive therapy. My Mother would not have wanted that for me, I knew that, but I was helpless. We where so close. To close the therapist said.

Things that helped me was to imagine that she was always with me and things that we would laugh about together. I talked to her and I could imagine her answers. She has been gone now 22 years and her picture sits near my favorite chair and she is here with me, smiling as I tell you that I will see my Mother's beautiful spirit again one day.

Look up honey and know that your Dad still watches over you. God bless you as you journey on & let your little light shine. God is so good in our time of need & always ~jill

Answer 6

YES!
I heard someone say " you never get over the death of a loved one. You just learn to live with it".

When my dad died, I didn't know what to feel. He had been sick for a long time. Part of me was glad he was gone and finally at peace. But part of me was so very sad that I would not have anymore time with him, that he would not see my daughter grow up and become a woman and that he would not be a part of our lives on a daily basis.
I didn't really know what to do with all that feeling.
I felt like I needed to do something. So I make a power point presentation of pictures of him and our family from before he and my mom were married until right before he died. I had a good cry going through all those memories and pictures, scanning them into the computer, picking the music and adding the effects. I sat for hours, crying , in front of the computer putting it all together until I had the finished product.

When I was done, I had made myself a place to go and "visit" Dad when ever I was missing him.

It's been almost three years since he died. I still pull that presentation out and watch it. It still makes me cry. It probabaly always will. And I'm okay with that. I don't ever want to stop missing my Dad.
But my life has gone on. And I know he would want that.

You won't ever "get over" the loss of your Dad. But you will learn to live with it better and better. And I'm sure your Dad would be heartbroken if he thought his death was keeping you from living your life to the fullest.
If your depression is keeping you from living your life, it might be a good time to see about getting some help. But if you're just still sad when you think about dad. It's okay.
Even three years later, I still sometimes get teary when I go to the grocery store. When he was in the last months of his life,the only activity he could really do was grocery shop (since he could hold on to the cart). Now, whenever I go there, I think of him. At first, I couldn't even drive by without crying. Then, I could drive by but not go in. Finally I was able to go in but twice I had to leave because I had a meltdown at the cashier (try explaining that to someone). But over time, it's gotten easier....I haven't forgotten, I've just gotten better at dealing with it.
You will too.

Answer 7

Oh honey...I am so sorry. It is very hard to lose someone that close. There is no limit to grief. We always miss those who were very close to us and parents are the closest to a child. Take all your time to grieve your dad. He deserves this and much more.Dont feel that you are alone in the world. Our prayers are with you and I hope that you feel better very soon. But if you feel that youa re unable to control the pain, you can defenitely take some professional help. Sometimes that can help but if it is just grief that you are feeling then dont worry and feel free to cry it out.

Answer 8

yes. My friend lost his father in 1991 and up until a year ago he couldn't talk about his dad with out getting tear in his eyes. But the more he talked about him the easier it got. Your body know itself and it will get better. You need to deal with it in your own way and amount of time. Do you go to his grave? that might help. I know I haven't excepted that my grandpa died and when I went to his grave it took me by surprise, I cried A LOT but it felt good. And it is way better for me now. If think your depression is getting to bad, like not getting out of bed for days talk to your family or doctor.

Answer 9

your still grieving because you don't have any body close enought to you to make you forgot what happened,every body got to die some day but you must not get depress for this .its true that you're sad but you must go on living your life with courage.sometimes sweet memories might come its another thing!go out to see your friends get more activities.

Answer 10

Of course it's ok...you lost one of the most important people in your life and althought the pain might lessen w/ time, your heart will always be bruised..it might sound sorny but it's the truth. My fiance's mom died last year and there are nights when he just cries to me. You can't put a time limit on grief...I hope that you can find peace w/ his passing

Answer 11

It is absolutely normal to still be grieving. My mother passed 20 years ago and I still cry about her sometimes. Remember your loving father always, but don't let yourself be so depressed. You know he loved you and he knew you loved him too, so don't be troubled. May God richly bless you.