Just had a baby and I feel so gross! I mean I am 180 and should only be 135. Please help. I know my baby is only a month old, and I have lost 40 pounds, but now I am at a stand still and feel ugly. My husband wants to have sex and I feel like I look so gross all I can think about is what he might be thinking...
2007-05-03 09:55:13 · 5 answers · asked by cutemom 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Wait a second, you say "my husband wants to have sex" and then you also ask "what he might be thinking" about you.
If he wants to be intimate then chances are 99.9 percent he finds you attractive, honey!
What you are feeling and going through is normal. I'm always hard on myself after I've delivered my babies, but I also cannot deny the gleam in my husband's eye! He loves me and thinks I'm beautiful and always tells me motherhood has added an exciting dimension to our relationship.
I was 170 after my last delivery and needed to get down to 125 so I was pretty daunted, like you are.
But after 6 months the weight all came off by following an easy plan - breastfeed, eat smaller portions and lay off sugary drinks. I am now 125 pounds again and ready for baby number four whenever God chooses to bless us again!
Congratulations on being a mother :-)
2007-05-03 10:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, been there....things stink when you get to a stand still. Best I can offer is to try to start walking a half hour a day, that should get things moving again, and eat watermelon, sounds silly but it really helps with digestion. There is a book called fit for life, it is a book on food combining and there are really no food restictions except the combinations you eat them in and the time of day, I swear by it and think it works wonders. I also think that it would make you feel better in general.
Good luck to you!
2007-05-03 17:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me girl, he's going to be thinking alot worse if you don't have sex with him.
Don't give up just because your weight loss seems to have slowed down. It's when this happens that most women give up when they're just about to start really loosing agian.
Give yourself a break too. You just brought a miracle into the world!!! What a powerful woman you are for haveing done so!
Do yourself a favor and go get a new hair do and your nails done. You'll be able to loose weight easier if you do little things for yourself to make you feel good.
Don't give up!!! After I had my first 3 kids, I lost 60 pounds. It took several months, but it felt SO GOOD!!!
Try to have a diffrent mind set as far as food goes. It makes sense to only eat when you are hungry and to only eat just enough for your body to use food for fuel. After all, we don't go pee until our bladders are full and don't sleep until we're tired so, don't eat until your tummy is so hungry it growls.
Make sure that when you DO eat that it's a small amount of the #1 thing you crave more than anything else so that you won't feel like you're depriving yourself of anything. Trust me, you won't crave all junk foods.
God made your body to know what to do, what you need to eat and how much. Just really listen to your body and only give it what it needs.
Take care of yourself AND that hubby of yours. You CAN loose those pounds girl. I promise!!
Congrats on your little one and best of luck to you!
2007-05-03 17:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you this paranoid about sex and your body while you were pregnant??? If not, then why now? Your body now is the result of something beautiful, don't be ashamed....just know that you can get back into shape.
Give it some time you're body isn't even healed yet. Then you can start excercising and start working on getting things back to normal.
2007-05-03 17:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should stop obsessing about weight, it will come off in good time. Be grateful u have a lovely baby instead
2007-05-03 16:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by iris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋