I made a mistake about six months ago. I did not cheat on my wife, but I had not been conducting myself appropriately in the least. The bottom line is that I let my wife down and hurt her terribly. Never in my life have I wanted to make something up to someone so bad. She has mentioned the vows that we took when we married and how I disrespected them. I want her to know that my actions that caused this will never be repeated, that I love her dearly, and that our vows mean everything to me...I want another chance and a clean slate. How can I propose this to her in the most special way? I'm sick with guilt and feel absolutely awful and just want to make things right with her.
2007-05-03 09:27:06 · 22 answers · asked by BeatTheGib 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Write down in a letter what you have explained to us. Let her know that you are truly sorry and that you love her very much and want to start fresh.
Take her to a romantic spot for dinner and give her the letter...(reserve a private corner so if she cries it won't be embarrassing to her)...
If you can afford it, buy her one of those eternal love bands and propose to her all over again. Go someplace romantic like Hawaii and arrange a small, private ceremony on the beach and renew your vows.
I know not everyone can do this, but if you can, go for it. If you can't go all out like that, I think the letter and the restaurant thing would do...if you think she would appreciate your offer to go to counseling, that might be a huge relief to her. If you think you need help with any sort of addiction, then counseling on your own is probably necessary to hold up your end of the deal.
It sounds like you are very sorry and I truly wish you both the best of luck.
*hugs*
2007-05-03 09:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by higherlovetx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a dozen roses, cook a romantic dinner, and if you can get another ring and ask her to marry you again.
Express to her that whatever you did in the past will not be repeated and this is how you want to show her how much you love her. Hope it wasn't too bad. Some women never forgive in their heart and will make you feel bad for a long time. Depending on how long ago it has been you probably need to give her some time to get over what you did anyway, provided you have not messed up in the past.
2007-05-03 09:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by cinnamon35 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself. Propose to her in a special way. Ask her to marry you all over again. You sound as though you really love her and regret the way you have acted. If she takes you up on the offer write your own vows and make sure you address you past behavior and how you don't plan on repeating that way.
God bless and best wishes!
2007-05-03 12:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing women love more than weddings - the planning, the ceremeny, the honeymoon, and most of all, the ring.
Propose to her in a creative, romantic way. Offer her a nice ceremony and a new ring. I am pretty certain she will love it - I sure would!
Remember though, that if you ever mess up again, then you are dead meat. Nothing you say or do will ever be able to make things right again between the two of you.
2007-05-03 09:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by LovablyMe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you`ve really done sth bad. The good thing is that you want to fix it and to show your wife that you still love her. Show her how important she is for you. There are many good ways . Try to remember what she really likes . . . maybe take her on some nice trip or reastaurant , write her a poem , sing her a song or sth like that. The most important thing is that she feels are realises that you really mean all of that.
I wish you a lot of success and don`t make any troubles in the future.
Good luck :)
2007-05-03 09:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lara_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! My husband hurt me very badly and we just renewed our vows......It gives us new start. When he said he wanted to marry me again it meant everything to me. It helped take away some of the hurt. My husband took me away for a weekend to the same place that he asked me to marry him the first time. We had a really great dinner and were talking and he told me he wanted to start over and marry me again. Good luck, you can make things work, my husband did cheat.
2007-05-03 18:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I second what everyone else has stated...but do not think you'll have a clean slate because memories can both uplift and plague us.
I am sure she will understand if she feels the same. Propose to her in the way she always dreamt it to be, and maybe that'll let her know how much you care. GL!
2007-05-03 09:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by parvastella22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Propose" to her again with an eternity band if you can afford one. That way it will feel like back when you were dating and then in a way, the whole process of a renewal of vows ceremony will feel like going back and doing it all over again.
2007-05-03 09:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is nice of you to think about her. I am glad that what ever you did you didn't go over the line all together.
Take her on a date; maybe to the beach on an overnight. Ask her to marry you. Tell her how much you love her and you want to start over.
Good luck
2007-05-03 09:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Propose to her with an eternity ring this time and ask her if she would honor you with renewing your vows to show to her your solid committment and your marriage. Make everything as romantic as possible.....Good Luck!
2007-05-03 09:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋