So we started dating March 13, 2006, engaged on Dec 24, 2006 and moved in together along with our children (his and mine), but he won't commit to a date. There is always something, oh I don't want to put to much on the kids at one time, oh I want to make sure this is what you want (HELLO I WOULDN"T HAVE SAID YES), the most recent is I want to make sure you can deal with the situation with my ex (which is a whole other story, she is super manipulative and difficult to deal with)...what do I do?
2007-05-03 09:19:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you not just figure out a date and tell him we are getting hitched on this date!. I think he is smart not to rush in
and maybe he is still feeling burned by his ex. he doesn't want the same thing to happen with you. Maybe he is trying to see how well you all live together as a family before putting the kids through a marriage ceremony and a new mom.
Congrats on the engagement and remember many people have very long engagements. Maybe it is time to tell him that you feel uncomfortable living with him and his kids when you are not married to him?.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
2007-05-03 09:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you move in with this guy before marriage? Guess he needed help with the bills. He's playing games with you, girlfriend. That crap about his ex is just that: crap! You're already dealing with her, so what else is new? And as for him making sure it's what you want: he's really being slick on that one. He's a con man. Better tell this guy you're not the one and make him set the date. Otherwise, you'll end up on the losing end.
BTW: Don't listen to these people who tell you otherwise. This guy wants the best of two worlds. That's great for him, but it sucks for you!
2007-05-03 09:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out.
Why should he marry you? Have you heard the old saying, "Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?" And it sounds as if he's putting you off.
I know this sounds harsh but sounds as if you guys rushed into a lot over the last year, dating in 2006, getting engaged nine months later. Whewwww.
Get to know the man. His faults, his likes and dislikes. Let him get to know you and then consider marriage with this man.
Remember that you have children and so does he so you want to make the best decision for the children as well as yourself but you have to slow it down before you get into something that's hard for you to get out of...
2007-05-03 09:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Come on. You know what to do. You're just hoping that by some miracle, one of us would come up with a magic solution. Can't blame ya, but you know there isn't one. Tell him you aren't going to be a live-in. That you love him, and want to be married, but if you aren't going to be married, he should say so, so you can move out. You may not like his answer, but you'll know where you stand. Good luck! He's probably just comfortable, and needs a wake up call.
2007-05-03 10:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! first of all you are setting a bad example to the children by moving in together, what is your hurry, marriage is a covenant with God, and we should obey Him, if we want Him to bless us......Jesus loves you
2007-05-03 09:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bert 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is "Why buy the cow"......syndrome?
He feels that since you are there living as his wife that he doesn't have to make you his wife. He can leave easier if he is not married? You cook, clean, take care of kids etc and he doesn't have to split the tax return with you. Reconsider where you are in this
2007-05-03 09:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is there a reason to rush? You have only been together for a year. Both of you have children, I think he is smart not to jump to quickly into marriage.
2007-05-03 09:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, give him the time he needs.
he's seemed to have made a committment to you through the live-in situation and the engagement.
forcing someone into making a decision they aren't ready for, is recipe for disaster.
take care.
2007-05-03 09:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Just live together until you get tired of noncommitment or he says when. It's up to you. If you push,well,it could be destroyed
2007-05-03 13:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you aren't officially engaged unless you have a wedding date.
2007-05-03 10:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋