My husband and I have been together for 6 years married for 2. I just found out he took a woman on a cruise and cheated on me. He has admitted this, and also said it wasn't the first time. He is crying and telling me he wants to work it out. I WANT REVENGE!!! What is the best way to do it?
2007-05-03 09:12:29 · 26 answers · asked by ulovlee@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Work it out. But, make sure you contact a lawyer so that you can protect or hide some of your assets , the next time. I wish I had done that. My ex cheated on me 4 times and I forgave him till the 5th time it was with my youngest sister. But I never protected myself or hid assets. He had put the vehicles in his name , he had a seperate checking account. He had a seperate savings account. The day he split he empty our joint accounts , the savings account and the checking account. I never did get a dime of that money he said he spend it to live. What a joke. He lived with my daughters and bumed off them for 2 years.
Protect yourself , tuck some money away each week . Being prepared for the next time is the sweetest revenge. Try and put it back together , but you always have something to fall back on when and if you have to show him the door the next time Oh, since he took the other person on a cruise. I would demand a honeymoon cruise , a big and better one than he took with her. Protect yourself.
2007-05-03 09:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 07:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's immature for you to get revenge in anyway. Why would you want to do something to hurt him in return and still be with him without getting a divorce? this isn't a game. The best revenge you can get on him is no sex for a while, he has to pamper you from now on and make him take you out on dates to rekinddle your love. I don't know the exact reason why he did it but seems like he's sorry. If you trully believe in keeping your vows through thick & thin- let it go and forgive him. It doens't mean that you're ok with it- it just means that ur the better person and give him the chance to work things with you. Just have your eyes open thouhg. I'm sure everyone here is gonna tell you to leave him but trully- i beleive in marriage till the end till both the wife & husband die or one etc. Give him a chance- he's sorry and go to therapy together.
2007-05-03 09:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now he has to work SO HARD to get back your trust, respect and pride. He betrayed you to the extreme. Now payback should be such a bit ch, because not only did he cheat, but he took the broad on a cruise and that wasn't the first time!!!
I am amazed that you could even look at him again?.
You don't need to get revenge and stoop to his level, but he should need to do whatever he can to win your heart back again and until then, DO NOT LET HIM HAVE SEX.
Now you have to be intimidating and you have to be in total control of what you want. If he can't or won't provide it, then get this guy out of you life.
With your arms folded, tell him that he doesn't deserve you now. Not unless you decide that he has changed incredibly and he has (not said) shown how sorry he is for disrespecting you and your marriage like that and until you become very happy and comfortable with him again, because now you know how much he loves you and you can trust him, then your going to stay away from him sexually.
Tell him, he had sex with low life tramps, but he.has to make love with his wife. He just has to prove that he respects you and he could only make love to his wife. Good Luck
2007-05-03 09:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me i know you are super pissed and hurt right now. I know this because of going through this crap myself alot! Revenge will only make matters worse. Once the dust settles and some of the anger passes you will regret it. There are only two solutions i can offer you. One if you still love him then you both need to work through this. And let me tell you this is seriously not an easy task. Every time he leaves you are going to wonder if he is with someone else, every time he has his cell or on the computer you are going to wonder if he is talking with another woman, every time he talks in his sleep and it sounds like he is flirting you will want to kill him ( my newest hurdle) But if you really feel you can't do this and try to get it back on track and hope the trust will be there then just divorce him and let some other woman deal with him cheating. Believe me by the end of the day most of the time you are going to be worn out from all these different emotions you are going to go through. If you try to get revenge remember karma does come back to bite you and isn't the best revenge to just get on without him?
2007-05-03 09:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it sounds like you don't want a divorce. However, I don't suggest exacting revenge on him. It sounds like you need to try counseling and figure out why he has cheated on you.
If counseling doesn't work, it's up to you to decide if you want to stay in it for the long haul knowing that he might cheat again, or leave him and move on with your life...if you have kids then it's understandable you would want to make it work for them.
I know you are probably angry and hurt, but seeking revenge will not help things.
If you must do something, go out and spend a ton of money. Shopping is a temporary stress reliever.
Big hugs and good luck to you, whatever you decide.
2007-05-03 09:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by higherlovetx 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There really is no revenge. Been there done that......I posted the pictures that she sent him all over the internet. She got some really bad ratings on some of her stuff!!! The world now knows what she looks like without her close on. I also sent her afew emails saying that karma will get her etc. I sent pictures to her when we renewed our wedding vows. She's hurting I'm not......I win she loses. MY husband found out what I did, he was pissed at me for about 10 minutes, proof to me that it was over.
2007-05-03 19:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry no good will come with revenge and cheating on him will just resolve his guilt for cheating on you. Consider going to a prank store and buying some itching powder throw a bunch in his undies drawer and watch him scratch till the cow's come home. Or consider putting some peroxide in his shampoo and bleach his hair. Really though if he has his own car get it filled with manure since he is a piece of crap for cheating on you he might as well smell like one!
2007-05-03 09:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok there is no revenge with you staying and why would you want to if he has cheated more then once. Get out of that situation he is no good for you.
2007-05-03 09:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it will still hurt her! & karma will get her back, not her husband. he needs to divorce her without the added extra pain. atleast he can walk away a better man than she deserves, but if he cheats then hes no better than her.
2016-05-19 22:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋