I sometimes get lonely for a wife and kids but most the time I just look at all the miserable couples with kids out there. Yes, there are exceptions but most couples with kids are too busy to sit back and enjoy life........for now I am staying single.....i'm 40ish, never married and no kids and loving it. How bout you?
2007-05-03 08:42:56 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of you answer exactly like married people with children answer....you think I will die lonely without anyone to care for me....you forget, I have nieces and nephews and other family that care about me. I know it just gets under your skin that a single man can't be happy single without kids....cause I can tell how you answer. Peace. Single life rules!
2007-05-03 10:04:49 · update #1
I think kids just complicate thing and they take up way to much time
2007-05-03 08:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you keep on thinking how bad the other side is, you will never realize how good it is either. I have one child who is 19, it's been a up and down experiences which made me realize many things, mainly how my parents must have felt when I was growing up. I will never say my child was and is a greatest kid, she has her ups and downs as much as me. But as a panrent, I will always be there for her, no matter what.
Now that I am in the sandwitch generation, and witenessing elderly people who are very sick and dying, the only people who are there to take care of them, I mean really care, worry and do the dirty jobs, are their children, not their friends or siblings. I am not saying this is the reason why we should all have children, but the love and trust are just beyond imagination, and I think the whole purpose of us being here is to grow and experience as human being. We were born, we go through life and we will die. This is just a cycle of life. And having a great spouse who you love, and loves you, and if you can share the experience of having a child with that person, that is a greatest experience we can have.
2007-05-03 09:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pluto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't.
I think the bigger issue of the two is kids. A huge portion of society is almost apalled the idea of not having kids, like the only reason you should breathe is to breed. And if you don't your life is a hollow shell.
Before I say this let me note that I do not dislike kids. But for the 1st few years...until they can communicate and you can really get to know them they are just screaming, diaper messing chasms of need.
Later they go through the "I'm 15 and have this whole life thing down pat. Shut up crazy 'ole mom and dad." All tolled, I can certainly understand a person or couple wanting to enjoy life or enjoy one another without kids.
And be perfectly happy.
2007-05-03 08:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Atavacron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the crap filled your head with all of THAT rubbish? lol
You sound like you're on the right track. Yes, babies bring joy into your life, but they also bring expenses, frustrations, unpredictability, and you never know how the marriage is going to end up---and it is your beloved children who suffer the consequences of a divorce--and then parents sit back and actually question why you have all of these school-shooters and insecure teenage punks running around. Most people act on impulse, they "think" they've planned for a decent future, but their brains just don't have the capability to see into the future. Most familys start out okay, and then end up a mess down the road. Then again......what do you have when you are without family? An empty life. Sorry, pal, but even after all of the "not being able to enjoy life" ---without family --you have absolutely NOTHING.
2007-05-03 08:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Virgo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 40ish, married for 20 years, and have two children. Here's something for you to chew on: I didn't know, until my first child was born, what the true meaning of love was. What's more, I didn't know that I didn't know! If not for my children, I would have been incomplete and never known it. Instead, I am now complete and happy. Rather than "sit back" and enjoy life, I instead get involved with my kids and my wife and enjoy life.
Still, ignorance is bliss. If you're happy, that's good!
2007-05-03 08:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
did you also that the unmarried male has the average life reduction of 3,500 days? that's worth considering (i just took a free class through FEMA's online programs-It was about nuclear emergencies- and it sited that at the top of the list- you can ask me more about that more on an email...) But it's up to you- So you don't feel the NEED to reproduce and pass "it" (your morales- your passions for flying kites or tossed out of libraries, genes, what ever) on?
that' a very personal descion- but since your ?ing it- mabye you should look into it- I mean you are probably a nice guy with a lot to offer a wonderful woman- you only have one life- I mean, who are you going to grow old with? companion ship is a beautiful thing.
I personally view someone that's in your shoes as someone that never REALLY loved anyone before-(unless you are really religious monk type) and has either impossiblly high standards or is "too set in your ways" to be able to commit to the life long "struggle" of marriage.
Personally, I'm an EMT-B that transports old folks around- and I have never met a "Happy" old sick person that was alone-EVER. Go to a nursing home and see what I'm talking about!!!! People that are in there are literally grabbing at me to "just sit and BS" with them. That's what I'de say- we are a creatures of pack like origin. God said "go forth and multiply" - whatever.
2007-05-03 09:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by aliaysleighbasic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. To each his own! Do what works best for you. I'm happily married but we don't want children - I'm 29 and never wanted kids and my husband is fine with that - he's 37. Don't ever feel your life isn't complete because of those things...they matter to some and not to others! If you're happy, that's a good sign you are on the right path.
2007-05-03 08:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that some people want and need a family in order to be happy, and others don't. I knew when I met my husband that he was it for me. I wanted to be with him forever. I didn't give that much thought to kids, if it happened it happened. And it did. I have one child and I can sit back and enjoy life. For me, one is enough. I see a some of my friends having one baby after another, and they are going non-stop. They're not sitting back to enjoy life, but enjoying it on the go. So, no, I don't think you have to be married with kids to be happy. I think you can be happy with whatever makes you happy, And for some people, that's time and freedom to do whatever they want to do. Enjoy!
2007-05-03 08:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are loving it, then good for you.
For me personally, being married and raising (not necessarily having) a child is a value.
My only concern is that I have seen older men- 50, 60 who are still single, and they do get lonely. Life gets lonely when you are that age and you can't party like you used to, get women like you used to, and your looks and health isn't what it used to be. Even if your wealth is growing. At some point even your wealth will decline, and then you are alone. Who will spend their days and nights with you? And your friends will drop off one by one like flies.
I make absolutely no judgement because I agree, it is better to be single than to be in a bad relationship. But I just think it would be very lonely at some point.
2007-05-03 08:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. Different people find happiness in different ways. Ultimately, YOU decide what makes you happy. Many, many people never get married and never have kids, and they are perfectly happy. Many, many people DO get married and have kids, and they are miserable. Yes, it is true that some married with kids people are perfectly happy. Yes, it is true that some single people are lonely and sad. There is no one way to be happy. It just depends on the person.
2007-05-03 08:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I became a father, I thought I needed no children in my life to complete me.....and now that I have children, I cannot imagine life without them!
Yes they are a pain sometimes. Yes you will have no social life, no money. Things will be a struggle.
The best things always are a struggle - and they are aways worth it!
Don't doubt it until you try it. Consider offering to baby-sit for a relative whose just had a baby. They'll love the sleep-time and you'll have a valuable chance to see what children can teach adults about life and humanity!
2007-05-03 08:53:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋