Why does she keep on emailing my mom?

Question

Why does she keep on emailing my mom?
I broke up with my ex-girlfriend of 5 years about 6 months ago. Immediately, she "reconnected" with an old friend and they were married 3 months later. So she is now married 3 months. it was a bad breakup, lot of emotions, crying, etc. I am still in love with this woman and sadly she never gave us a chance to work this work and realize that "you dont know what you have until its gone." I feel sick that I have lost her, it is too hard to describe the pain.

However, since then she has been constantly emailed my mom, she SAYS that she is happy, but that she suffers for me, as she knows I am upset. She said she cries as well for me, bcs. she feels bad that I am sad. Also said "you cannot understand how bad I feel for all of this." Actually, she even writes, trying to justify why she married this other guy, "why did he do this to me."
Why does she email SOOOOO much? Is it just guilt? Does she miss me? Should I do anything? I love herLadies help!!

Answer 1

tell that woman to stop rubbing it in your face and go take care of her husband. what she is doing is rude and unnecessary. she knows you still love her. its 5yrs for goodness sake!

Answer 2

Dude, Just realize that what you had is gone, I mean if she was willing to get married to someone that soon after she broke up with you and then marry him,Is that someone you really think you can trust with your heart?? No, It isn't.She sounds like she has a mess in her head and needs to figure out how to make her life stable.
Instead of being so sad about what you had, you too need to let go of the past and find some one new.Or at least date a while and give yourself a Chance to realize something.
Anyone can have somebody,But it takes learning and effort and knowing yourself well enough to respect yourself to find "thee someone" right for you.
This girl regrets her choice and hasty decision to marry this guy, but she only emails your mom to find out what your doing and to see if you have someone else.She is trying to keep her seat warm and also sit in a different seat if you know what I mean.Forget her, she will never step out and fix her mistake, shes not strong enough or be what your looking for.

Answer 3

Sounds like a sad situation. I think it's weird that she emails your mom. If she is married now, then she should concentrate her energy on her husband and their family, not her ex-bf and his mom. Sounds like she is playing mind games. I'm sure a part of her probably does feel really bad for what has happened. But it happened, and she chose to move on. I would not call her unless you plan to tell her to leave you alone. She's a married woman now. Regardless of how you feel, she's someone else's wife now. That is sacred and both of you need to have respect for that. It would be different if she was still single but she's not. The best thing you can do for yourself would be simply to severe all contact, ask you mom if she would do the same, and walk away. Move on. I know you love her but it kind of sounds like you might be better off with out her. Imagine how you would feel if the situation was reversed and you were in her husband's shoes? Seems to me like you might have actually doged a bullet.

Answer 4

First of all, you should have been planning what you might do in a variety of instances. Like a contingency test, over and over. "What if my girlfriend dumped me for some other guy?" EVERYONE should be doing that. Too late now. Be sure to do that the next time.

Second, you should NOT still be in love with her. At best, maybe leave it open for friendship in the future. You should not be this emotionally fragile, you're a guy! Personally, I would not court someone for five years.

Okay, without being rude. Without raising your voice, or using any bad words, you should ask her to please stop e-mailing your mother, and ask your mother the same, although you may water-down that request. At least your position will be known. Mention that you believe that it's a sneaky "Passive-Aggressive" action on her part. Try to do this with without being too emotional. Be blunt, but friendly.

Answer 5

Tell her you made the biggest mistake of your life by giving up without a fight. Tell her you love her and you miss her and you want her. This is not to say she will leave her husband and leap back into your arms, but it is to definately say that you will feel 100% better about the whole situation when you have the chance to come clean. This can open new doors for you even if it's not with your ex....I am serious---try it. You will feel renewed and refreshed either way. What's the worst that can happen? She's already married!!!!!!! Shout it at the top of your lungs, you only live once: " I love you, I want you, I miss you, I never should have left you!"

Answer 6

You were with her for 5yrs and she hooked up with an old flame and married him 3 months later? I might be out of line here, but I don't think she's over you, why would she need to e-mail your mom if your relationship is finished.

She's "high" right now....aren't we all 3 months in to a relationship? If you love her, wait a little while. I have a feeling she will be back.

Answer 7

You need to move on. She's probably e-mailing your mom so much for a number of reasons. Guilt...misses you...wonders if she did the right thing...checking up on you...all kinds of reasons I'm sure. If she realizes you're moving on, she'll probably back off on the e-mails. I know it's hard but perhaps the break up was for the better...at least for the time being. Enjoy being single again and make this YOUR TIME...do things you have been wanting to do. Start dating again if you feel you're ready but nothing serious until you're definitely ready for that. Best wishes!

Answer 8

touchy situation. she's married don't forget. you have one of two options as i see it. first, realize she's married and move on. tell your mom, if she e-mails her, you don't want to know about it. all that info just makes it tougher to move ahead. second, go ask her what's up but be prepared for an answer you may not like or want to hear. the choice is up to you but i'd say walk away. i know you love her but she set this in motion. if she is having second thoughts about her marraige, she may be looking to find out if you're still available. don't be a second choice for her. if she wants you, she needs to do the right thing and divorce him before she comes back.

Answer 9

No, No, No, No, No, No don't do anything so what she e-mails your mom she knows your mom is going to tell you.. so not and yes the reason why she is doing that is based on guilt, I know that you miss her but just like you if it was ment to be then she will come baack but don't wait for her.
Keep it moving

Answer 10

Who cares? That's a good thing to tell your mom if she insists on telling you about this strange, melodramatic crap. This ain't no cheesy Hollywood movie. This is reality, and in reality you need to find a woman with some integrity who really loves you and who will treat you right, not dwell on some psycho nutjob who is making some other guy miserable too.

Answer 11

She just does it b/c she knows it will get to you through your mom. She either wants to rub it in your face or she does feel bad but doesnt know how to tell you......Or she just wants you to know shes happy now. I dont really know for sure.....but, dont let it get to you so much! Get on with your life...Every minute you waste being angry, depressed, sad is 60 seconds of happiness you can never get back!! You only got one life, now go live it up!! You have another journey comin your way! Could be a fun one! Life is tough....you must take the good with the bad and smile when youre sad! :) Most of all, you learn from every experience! What doesnt kill you makes you stronger! People change and things go wrong, but just remember.....life goes on!! Dont worry, be happy!!

~~As for your mother...why the heck is she talkin to her?! Tell her to stop, its only makin you feel worse!