Sex with an Ex.......right or wrong??

Question

dated for a year and a half.....he broke up with me to
"explore his options" and we have had sex 3 or 4 times since we broke up.... he still says he loves me but dosnt want a relationship, for his own reasons.... what do i do..???? i want to send him a text message, but i dont know what to put........ HELP ANYONE PLEEEEEEEAAAAASEEEE!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

What do you do about what? He's made it clear he's only interested in sex from you. You either accept that and enjoy the sex, or move on.

Answer 2

Sounds like he is just using you to get sex when he cannot get it from his other "options". He knows you will be there and say yes. He says he loves you but doesn't want a relationship for his own reasons? Why commit to a relationship when he has someone who puts out whenever he wants it plus doesn't say anything about the others he is sleeping with. You are better than that. Tell him he cannot have it both ways. If he loves you then commit to a relationship. If not, there is the highway. However, I wouldn't trust this one to be faithful in a relationship anyway.

Answer 3

Now don't take this offensively, you have asked. Sounds to me as though this guy is probably using you, if he's exploring his options and not going into a relationship then it sounds as though he's seeing other people. I may be wrong here, and sorry if I am, but this is just from what I've seen in the past. If you want my advice, speak to him about it and keep an eye on him. :)

Answer 4

No matter the age or the gender, this is always a tough situation to be in. Is it right or wrong? Only you can answer that question. In most peoples eyes, those who judge you, or feel the need to judge others, they would say it was wrong. Those who have walked in your shoes would say that it wasn't. We all have needs, and we all have the desire to feel needed. What needs to be said to him, needs to be said from you. The question is, will he actually hear what you've said? Will you fall back into the same routine? Will it accomplish anything in sending him the text, other then perhaps making you feel better now?

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Answer 5

If you are ok with just having sex and not having a relationship, then fine. I personally wouldn't be letting him have his cake and eating it too though. It sounds like he basically still wants the sexual aspect of a relationship with you, but none of the commitment or responsibility that go along with that. I would explore your options and not worry about what he is doing.

Answer 6

OMG, dont have any thing to do with him, he has made it obvious what he wants, but just the same you are emotionally tied to him and not allowing yourself the freedom to meet anyone else and move on. As long as you continue to have sex with him you will feel an attachment, and by doing that you are cheating your self out of the kind of love and affection you really need and deserve.

Answer 7

Wrong. Sex outside of the marriage committment is wrong. If this guy doesn't want to be with you, why would you give yourself to him? Do you like being an object? Do you like being used? You are worth more than that. you are a human being. you are a precious princess, Created with Love by your Heavenly Father. He weeps to see you used and abused, giving away pieces of your heart with nothing in return. If a man loves you, he will commit his life to you. Anything less is settling. Hold out and trust. God knows who is the perfect husband for you, you just have to trust Him and be patient, preparing yourself and enjoying being single until he comes.

Answer 8

Sorry Dear, but he is using you. You are always there when he wants you, but I'm guessing he's not there (or maybe out on a date), when you need him.

As long as you keep in contact (phone/text or e-mail), you will continually keep his ego going. And unfortunately for you if you keep doing this you will always be wondering what he's doing and thereby not forming new a healthy relationships.

I don't know where you live, but there is a great place called the Human Awareness Institute. http://www.hai.org

They are in several countries and US cities, even if you can't go just check out their website.....very helpful for people in your situation.

You deserve someone who truly wants & cares about you.

Be good to yourself (and don't text him!)

Answer 9

This man only want to have sex with you, maybe he has his girlfriend put up. Mydear sex is not all, you need someone to love and care for you, and this man does not want that. Just send him a nice text telling him that "you have had enough you need to move on with your life". Hope this helps

Answer 10

If he broke up with you, and all he wants is sex and not a relationship, then you have to be smart enough to realize that you are being used. And believe me: A ***** WILL TELL YOU ANYTHING YOU WANT TO HEAR TO GET YOU WHERE THEY WANT YOU!!!! Don't be no fool baby, cause there is somebody around that will tell you they love you and show you that. You just haven't found them yet..

Answer 11

i am still sleeping with my ex...they say its wrong etc etc...but i cant ignore what my heart tells me, we still see each other daily and have a year old son together so more serious but even though it might be damaging in the long run, we are both following our hearts, neither of us "feel" dingle even though we carry the title. (we also didnt break up because of problems in our relationship, but outside matters which is MUCH worse)

You have to decide what YOU want, not base that decision around what hes thinking or feeling, be fair to yourself.