He is in another country. I have searched the scammers websites and cannot find him anywhere. My scammer before, I found (afterwards) on one of the scammer sites. I have been talking to him for over a year. He hasn't asked for much. I've sent him small things like cards, keychains, etc. How can I check his isp location for free? Is there anywhere else I can check to see if he's on the list? I met him while I was being scammed by the other guy. He tried to stop me. Of course I didn't listen. He taught me ALOT of what to look out for , how to turn the guy in, (of course, and he admitted this, nothing would happen) etc. Now he is planning to come here to be with me. My heart of course says one thing but my mind is still a bit questioning. He's come through on everything he promised me so far. I just really want to believe there ARE nice people other places. I've had 2 divorces here in the states and don't need more probs....What would you do?
2007-05-03 06:32:09 · 18 answers · asked by Kelly773 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can tell you that there might still be nice people out there. You state that you have been talking to him over a year this might be a good guy. I know you have been through a lot in the pass but women must learn to be strong and move on. People will say he is looking a green card but this guy might be real. work with the inner part of you, if you feel that you have grown to love him try it out u never know this may be the right guy for you. take things slow because a lot of times we as woman rush things a bit and end up being hurt in the long run. I am not sure about how you would know if this guy is real or who you could check his background but if you want to see him in person do not take him to your home the first time. go to a local motel or hotel for a weekend take a friend too and have them book in another room and every where you plan on going have them follower you but do not let the guy know that someone is watching you and you can see how things work out. remember we need good loving even though we have been hurt several times there is a good man for us we might meet them over the phone,the Internet , but going to the movie, or a party they are out there waiting for us. wish you good luck.
2007-05-03 06:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by foodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You honestly just have to catch him in lies. Ask him detailed questions about family or something, write it down, then 3 months later repeat the question and see if he answers the same.
Anyways, what are you doing getting attached to someone in another country, who you have never met? You don't know FOR SURE what he really looks like, and what his true motives for talking to you are. Ofcourse it could be a great relationship and nothing is wrong, but the possibility of you being manipulated is still there.
I would slowly end it, and just let him know you keep getting busy and busier. How do you know he is not some PSYCHO killer? "Oh well he is just so nice and seems so normal". Honestly, I would go on match.com or eharmony and look for partners near you that you can meet in person. Otherwise, you take a big risk not only for your safety, but your childrens if you have any, and a big risk waisting your time.
Good luck though, and hope all works out well.
2007-05-03 06:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, I'm sorry to say this but you need to be VERY careful. Just because he's not on the scam sites doesn't mean he's not a scammer. I would have his credentials checked to make sure of where he works etc. If he's truthful about that then he MAY be on the up and up. I'm sure you know that there are a STAGGERING number of shady people on those sights. BTW even if he's not trying to scam you for money make sure he doesn't just want citizenship. If he's a native of a Western European country I'd say your chances are better that he'll be cool.
If you'd like to talk more about it you can reach me through my profile. Good luck.
2007-05-03 06:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Oprah's Minge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things very slow. Meet up in a public place, and once you've met him in person a few times, decide where you want to take the relationship from there.
I met my husband online, and we've been married for 6 years now and are very happy :) We are both Americans though, so I can't speak for dating a foreigner online.
You do have to be careful for scammers or bad people, like you said. But, you seem to be quite cautious and are going about this the right way. Good luck to you!
2007-05-03 06:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are nice people on the internet but you're playing Russian roulette to assume you've found one. You'd better listen to your gut and disappear from site and sight. I'll bet you've told him enough that if he's worse than a scammer he'll find you! You must like living dangerously.
2007-05-03 06:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh, this is a very bad idea. Most guys are ok but if your that worried about being scammed, dont do it. If your looking for a nice guy, go and join a club or hobby and look around. A lot of nice guys are overlooked because people dont think that you can find a friend or something more by going to diffrent groups.
2007-05-03 06:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by timdraco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said: "Now he is planning to come here to be with me."
WHAT? Do you mean meet you (that's fine, if he gets a hotel) or be with you as in moving to the US to start a relationship with you, even though you two have never met and thus cannot possibly know if you are really a good match or not?
Proceed with caution...there's WAY too much we cannot know about someone until we've been around them quite a bit, no matter how much email or phone conversations there have been.
2007-05-03 06:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that most of the people that scam never seem to get cought.
I would even talk to them, just grandually lose touch with him or her.
Do not give your adress detials, credit card detials or anything else that poses a security threat. The chances are that this may be what a scammer wants out of you to steel your money.
Trust me that the world is heaving with them!
2007-05-03 06:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what country he was from.I would think somehow every country would have a way to do a credit check of some type.I have found that people with good credit are generally good people. Also the ones with bad credit are just out to screw the next person out of something.
2007-05-03 06:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by k man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, once bitten twice shy. I would be very careful about internet relationships, the majority (not all) are scamming others. They can send you pics online of god knows who and say it's them. Promises are also made and broken along with hearts. Be careful. I would stay away if it were me.
2007-05-03 06:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by rola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋