I have this friend, and he is really great and everything, but i feel is in denial about his sexuality. He is a really sexual person, and has a very strong libido, however the problem is i beleive he is really into guys but won't admit it. He obviously fears for his reputation and his friendships because if he ever admitted it he would probably be attacked.. I found out about his preference shall we say, accidentally. He came over one day and we were having a great time sewing dresses and stuff.. After a while i went to the bathroom and then had to talk to my mom for a while. When i came back upstairs half an hour later, i found him trying on my underwear and bra and wearing a pair of my moms high heels. I was really shocked and quickly backed out of the room.
He doesn't know i saw him ,and i feel really awkward around him now. Does this mean he's gay? And if so... What should i do? I really care about his health and that is not healthy what he is doing..
2007-05-03 06:21:12 · 4 answers · asked by Karina M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no it doesn't mean he's gay. he could be gay, straight, or even bi but you can't tell just by that. if you really care about him as a friend maybe you should try and find a way to bring up what you saw... just be careful and gentle about it. whether he is gay or just likes to wear womens clothes he will probably be very shy or touchy about it.
if you really care about him and want him to be happy the best thing he could have is an understanding friend to share things with whether its crossdressing, being gay, or just being curious. we unfortunately live in a very judgemental world and those of us who are different often are in (or feel we are in) situations or places where we have to hide who we are. I know a little bit in this area because I am a crossdresser who is lucky enough to have a fiancee who knows and understands me. That is also how I know how hard it can be for some people because she is the only person I can talk to about this stuff.
feel free to IM or email me .... if i can help any would be glad too
2007-05-03 07:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy trying on women's clothes does not make him gay.
He is a transvestite (a person who wears the clothes of the opposite sex).
You should have a talk with him. It was not right of him to try on your clothes w/o your consent. It was a betrayal of your friendship.
2007-05-03 06:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not be gay but a cross dresser...
2007-05-03 06:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just walk right up to him and say, "stay the_______out-my-underwear!!"
2007-05-03 06:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋