Help! i have a serious situation and need help fast! Family issues.?

Question

I am in a very abusive family, but no one seems to believe me because i cant show any brusies... i dont know what to do, ive gone to social services twice and nothing happens, i am 15 and i am physically and verbaly abused by my parents. i want to move out but i dont know when its leagal and when its not...ANY answers will help immensly

Answer 1

Physical: Hitting, pushing, biting, punching, choking...
Emotional: cursing swearing, attacks on self-esteem, blaming, criticizing your thoughts feelings….
Psychological: Threatening, throwing, smashing, breaking things, punching walls, hiding things, sabotaging your car.

These are short lists of the forms of abuse. You, as the victim have the right to take action. Being only 15 you can not leave unless you have a place to live. NOW- if you go to a friend's house of another relatives house, the problem there is, your parent(s) can take action against them if they wanted to. Your best bet is to really sit down and think- are you REALLY being abused or are you just not getting your way? Are you doing things that merit punishment? Usually at your age getting spanked is over, you get grounded, things get taken away... But if you are truly being abused talk to anyone. School, police, friends, anyone who will listen and take action. Good luck, and I hope things start looking up for you.

Answer 2

To give advice in this type of situation without knowing everything that is going on could be more harm than good. My parents were strict but they loved me very much and raised me well. I was spanked with a belt, paddle and a hand. My kids here my stories and they think that I was abused.
If you truely feel that you are abused, perhaps there is a pastor, relative or parent of a friend that you could speak with. I would recommend that you try to talk with your parents or ask a school counselor to set up a meeting with the 4 of you so this can be sorted out. There are other avenues with the state besides social services. Keep looking and don't give up.

Answer 3

Dear Zandi,
You are in your family as a result of what you owe your parents and your other relations in love and understanding, just like they owe you the same. Unfortunately you are in the part of the world where all kinds of rights are acknowledged for children but without any clear understanding for what rights are due to parents. But you can bring about a great change in your house if you know the right thing to do!

First check your own behaviour.What happens before you get abused each time? What are the steps that always brings you to the point you get abused?Be very severe with yourself and answer this.This is where to start with your problem. This is rather unpopular but it is where to start.Understand this, then you are on the way to genuine freedom.

When you move out it means you have accepted to be wayward in life, and coming back to normal is usually impossible.Listen or watch talk shows on family matters you will see that moving out is no solution. You may send me an e-mail for further suggestions on this.

Do you know how to pray and what to pray for? Many people who think they do,even pastors and reverends or bishops dont know what it means to pray or what to pray for.

There is a New Law In Life." You are free to pursue your desires in life, but you must not harm any other human being in the course of satisfying your personal desires, otherwise you will bring untold hardship to your self" This law does not call for your opinion or the opinion of any human being. It works automatically.This is why you are in your family as a child.

Regards,
olufemi52

Answer 4

You can become legally emancipated at age 16.

Do you have any friends you can stay with until the police can resolve this issue? And you must call the police to get social services seriously involved.

You don't give any details what you consider abuse so it is hard to answer. Making you do the laundry is not abuse, physical or sexual battery is abuse. Withholding basic life necessities such as food and shelter is abuse. Your school counsellor or principal may be able to help direct you to the services you need.

I hope you get the help you need. Stay strong and keep trying!

Answer 5

Well its like this you can not move out legally until your 18 your parents are legally responsibile until then. The question i have is if they are hitting you why do you not have marks? The social services can not do anything unless there is evidence of such abuse . Also it is hard to prove verbal abuse . I am not doubting your word but need to ask have you been into a lot of trouble and your parents are trying to get you in line and you are just trying to have it your way cause you dont like rules and chores or is this really legit if its legit contact me

Answer 6

Being as your fifteen I would turn to other family members that could understand your situation. Talk with your school counselor and see if she can help. Whatever you do, get out of your situation because it is something no one should go through at any age. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Try Child Protective Services in your location and see what they can do. I wish you the best.

Answer 7

Listen sweetheart, try going to your family doctor, i know at your age, you cant go without a parent, but if you tell him/her that ur scared and noone will listen, you'll get help. Ive turned someone into social services, but when they went to the house there was no evidence, so they left, thats a waste of time, unless theres marks, or what about a neighbor, that may have heard ur family verbally abusing u. take care and be careful....

Answer 8

First have you tried to talk to your parents to let them know that you do not feel that they care about you? Are they trying to be hard on you because they think you are doing something that will mess up your life? Sometimes parents are afraid they are losing their teens to bad peers and that they are heading for destruction. If you can talk with them and work together to show them by your actions that you do not want to do wrong it might help them loosen up.
If none of this is true and they are just abusive try to find relatives or outside friends who will believe you and can help you get the help you need. If you are always truthful you should be able to find someone to help.

Answer 9

You need to go to the police and child protective services. Tell a teacher or counselor at school. Document the abuse.
If you have a family member aunt or uncle or grandparent you trust tell them and ask to go live with them. You are old enough to be emanciapiated. Don't stay there and keep taking the abuse.

Answer 10

I think u hav 2 b 15 or 16 2 move out and i think u should c a psychiatrist or something. or for a more dramatic effect get 1 of your friends 2 bruise u or get hurt somehow then show that 2 ur family and make up or tell a story so u can get out.