ok here it goes, first of all hi to all, I wanted to ask people that i dont come incontact with often, i respect my fiance to the fullest. Its been 3 months sice she got pregnant, and i know its not normal to not even wanna be romantic with me anymore, i dont mean i want sex sex sex sex you know, what i mean with romantic is taking my face a brushing your lips as you flirt with me, what i mean is kissing me with passion and looking deep in my eyes for that connection you know. ive tried being patient because i know females gothrough alot in these stages, but i dont thinks its normal, i blew a fit this morning, and let her know why ive been complaning so much, all i kept saying was, baby 3 months,something is wrong. i know its not me am always the active one and flowers,and kisses,cuddles you know, and not to be conceited am a cuty, hehehe lol ,so am really worried, houston i think i we have a problem here. i know we are busy but still................
2007-05-03 05:54:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's her hormones. She may have no sex drive or kissy-cuddly urges at all right now. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you. It IS normal. I went through a month or so when I didn't want ANYONE touching me, and that included my partner, for any reason.
2007-05-03 06:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by grayhare 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have some good news for you sweetie.... She's normal. There is no problem at all. It is extremely common for women in their first trimester to not want to be touched, have sex, smell certain things, etc. It sucks big time, for both you and for her, but it is completely normal. More good news... in the next couple of weeks as she enters her 2nd trimester, there is a really good chance that her sex drive and desire for romance and passion will return. It could start out slowly or WHAM!!! It could return just like that. The 2nd trimester is normally the best. The same thing may happen after the baby is born (but at that point, who has time for sex!!!). It's all because of these lovely things we call hormones - DAMN THEM! Anyway - your girl is normal, so don't frett too much. If in a few weeks things are still off, have her talk to her ob/gyn about it. They may be able to give you guys some suggestions. Good luck!
2007-05-03 06:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been great during all this but he's the same way, he says he doesn't want to have sex he just wants to be romantic and basically make-out. I know I should but I just can't right now. I feel kinda crappy and my hormones are kind of out of wack. I tell him to be patient and soon I will probably be begging for sex when my hormones go the other direction. I know you want the affection and it's been a while, just let her know that you love her and that your worried. I always encourage my husband to tell me what's going on cause I don't want him to think he can't talk to me. You have every right to be worried but relax, and talk to your fiance. I am sure she's just not feeling her best right now physically and emotionally
2007-05-03 06:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ben's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she's going through - although completely frustrating for you - is normal. Every woman reacts to the changes in her body differently and decreased libido and desire is unfortunately a potential side effect. As difficult as this sounds, don't take it personally.
It is also possible that the changes she is going through right now are effecting the way she feels about herself and if she feels undesirable or unattractive she will be less responsive to your advances.
Keep trying to talk to her and most of all be patient. Its tough for you both right now but you'll get through it. And that connection, it'll be back
Good luck
2007-05-03 06:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by tyger_willow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probaly is afraid of hurting the baby.Especially if its her first pregnancy or she has a misscarriage.And as far as kissing goes maybe she has morning sickness.I know when I was pregnant I felt ugly.Just tell her you love her and quit throwing fits.She shouldn't "HAVE" to have sex with you if she doesn't want to.Be a man and love and love the fact she is concerned about "YOUR" baby and wait.She will want to have sex again.Till then use your hand.
2007-05-03 06:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my first pregnancy, my husband just became my best friend. It's hard to feel "sexy" when you are pregnant. Just deal with it. She may come out of this phase later in the pregnancy.
It is 100% normal. And if you were getting me flowers and stuff all the day, I'd probably want to throw up. You sound like you are a bit over the top. Just tone down your romance.
2007-05-03 06:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by happymommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really more common than you'd think (sorry!)
I remember having basically a platonic relationship thru a good part of all three of my pregnancies. I just had no sexual urges at all--or any romantic urges. I don't know why; I can't explain it, but that's how it was. My poor husband...*sigh*
Hang in there...I'm sure she'll come back around.
2007-05-03 06:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will get better, i didn't want my fiance to even look at me the 1st 3-4 months, much less have sex. He was the assshole who did this to me and made me feel like crap...lol. now I'm 34 weeks pregnant and have totally flipped the script on him, I'm the one that wants sex all the time and sometimes i don't think he knows how to take it! good luck and give her time!
2007-05-03 06:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she been constantly nauseous during the first trimester? Having all-day sickness can really put a damper on sex interest and a lot of other things.
2007-05-03 06:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Piaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have time to read all of that, but yes, it's called HORMONES and hey be happy that's what got her pregnant in the first place so be patient she's going through a lot.
2007-05-03 06:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋