well my husband drives my friend home after me and her get out of work, she don't have her license and she asks for rides from us most of the time and it is out of our way we get out of work at 11 and she don't say thanks or offer anything. my husband works mornings so he told me to tell her that he thinks that shes taking advantage of us and she is soo mad now and shes telling a lot of people at our workplace, she was saying to me, when was the last time I ask you for a ride, ummm it been awhile because me my husband just had our vacation so we werent here....this girl got issues, she puts me down sometimes and everytime I cry for her
2007-05-03 05:18:41 · 15 answers · asked by Newlywed 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanks everyone, its sad because everyone at work is giving me the silent treatment and couple of days before my wedding she made me cry!
2007-05-03 05:27:12 · update #1
she doesn't sound like a true friend. those kinds of friends are dime a dozen.
If it's the case that you always give and she always takes, and she doesn't even thank you for it, then I think you were right in telling her how you felt about that matter. but if she helps you sometimes as well, in some ways, then I think you should have been a bit easier on her.
Either way, she shouldn't go behind your back and say bad things about you. that's just not right.
If you miss her friendship, just go talk to her...If she's an abusive friend, use this incident to break ties with her.
I hope it works out between you two.
2007-05-03 05:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by kujiiiro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very kind to offer much less give e ride out of your way.
People will take your kindess for your weakness. Sometimes tough love on a child helps them realize that you can't get nothing in this life being a Bum or a Leech;However, a Hobo at least will work for their money.
She works just like you and makes money just like you so it's important that the issue is how about throwing something in the kitty to help us keep giving you a ride because this car doesn't drive on water.
You have to be tough sometimes on cases like this for better results.
Look at it from a business side of thigns and do not cry for her for crying out loud. She's a grown girl. This is business.
Tell her what you want if she needs a ride weather she has the money or not. When pay day comes around...your palm itches so open it and she places the green back intact in your hands
Have a Nice Day
2007-05-03 05:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right and she is no friend...Just a Leach. Tell people at work your side but take the high road and be nice about it otherwise they'll just look at both you as being Catty.
If she is affecting your work and depending on the company, you can anonymously report her to HR. Then she may not have a job and then won't need a ride. I wouldn't feel too bad about it either.
2007-05-03 05:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Hoosier 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it appropriate to consider her a friend? The reason she is downing you at work is because now you've put her on the spot. Before you and your husband never said anything and now that she knows its a problem she is most likely embarrassed and in desperate need of another "free ride" I would simply and very directly explain to her ,the source, that you don't appreciate her discussing you or your husband with coworkers. If she is as simple minded as she sounds...drop her and save yourself the headache.
2007-05-03 05:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by zx24251 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
funny how you say that.. that kinda happened to me i gave my friend a ride home everyday (even when i had no gas, no gas money, or i had to go to wrk) and all i did was ask for a couple bucks every onceand awhile and i got but then he offered to giveme money and he promised it to me and i asked hima bout it once and that was the last time he talked to me..he thinks that i care more about money than i do ur friendship with is bs cuz i still get mad at the thought that he would think that... jsut dont give her rides anymore make her get her license and not be lazy
2007-05-03 05:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never you encourage such people and please do not call them your friends. Keep a full stop to it.
You don't have to be harsh in saying no, politely you can say sorry, i have some urgent work to do and things like that if you do not want to spoil any relation between you and the person you are referring.
2007-05-03 07:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by sarvedha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl PLEASE she ain't even worth it!!! Don't cry just when u go to work u go up there with ur head up HIGH!!! Let her know it isn't bothering u(Even though it is) but that's what ppls want is 2 make others feel down so they fell like they have the power!!! DON'T LET THAT BE THE CASE!!!
2007-05-03 05:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ms A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a manager about how you feel becuase this does sound like harrassement at the workplace.
2007-05-03 05:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by cherry16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me your husband was right she was taking advantage of the both of you and the only reason she is saying things at work is because shes embarrassed about not having lisence and not having an automobile so why cry you have wat she wants.The reason she puts you down is because misery needs company
2007-05-03 05:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah, face up to the truth this girl is not your friend. She is a loser. Use this rift between the two of you to break all ties with her.
2007-05-03 05:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by eryldaperl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋