your son has told you he is gay? I always had a feeling that he might be and I think I am dealing with it all quite well but my heart breaks for him too. Does anyone understand this situation? Why have I just had to resign from my job because of my homophobic boss? This is crap...I am proud of myself for sticking up for him but now I have lost my job...is this the way it is always gonna be?
2007-05-03 04:19:12 · 25 answers · asked by Laney H 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
That's terrible. Your boss can't do that to you. His personal feelings about your family have no place in your workplace.
You clearly love your son and accept him for what he is.
Your heart breaks for him because you know the abuse that he may have to face but I think that as long as he has a mother who is there for him like you he'll overcome it.
2007-05-03 07:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by polly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is absolutely ridiculous, I know it's too late now but no way should you have resigned. I am a Catholic and obviously have some issues with homosexuality but would never discriminate against anyone for being Gay. I live in Manchester five minutes walk from the gay village, they have their own bars and restaurants which I visit. Not to ridicule but because they are such a high standard and always trouble free. If your boss has made life difficult for you can you not complain to his superiors, the union etc. The man deserves to be punished, there are laws against this rubbish. May I wish your family all the very best and hope you get a decent job with a decent manager soon.
2007-05-03 04:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know a few gay people and I'm not homophobic, but if I ahve never had to deal with an issue like this as i have quite a large extended family and no one has ever been gay or even been suspected of being gay, everyone is married with kids. The say that like 1 in 10 people is gay so it seems strange thinking about it now. There were a few people at school who i suspected as being gay and they all came out eventually. If I had children and my son turned out to be gay, I don't know how i'd react. I have some vicarious gay friends so i know I wouldn't think it was choice and I'd know that it is who they are, but if they were my only child because of a lack of grandchildren, but then that could happen even if he was straight. I don't know. When I picture myself having a Christmas when I'm older, I have always seen it as wife, children and grandchildren, not as wife son and his boyfriend. It would seem odd.
2007-05-03 04:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am shocked by the amount of people who have already said that they would not be happy or in particular 'tell him that gays don't run in the family'. It just goes to show that there are too many ignorant idiots. Be proud of the fact that he has come out. Many people find it hard. he is still the same person what does it matter if he is attracted to other men.
Good on you for sticking to your beliefs. I should think it's just going to take time to come to terms with it. When you have children you always want their life to be easy and amazing and the thought that he isn't going to have the easiest ride out there (because of idiots like the people who have already answered) will be hard.
Just be there for him. And talk through how you are both feeling together. It will air both your worries. Good luck
2007-05-03 04:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, it's illegal for you to lose your job over this, go to your local labour board and talk to them, they should reinstate your job.
Discrimination in any workplace is usually illegal. I don't think it matters if you resigned, if your resignation was under duress.
As for your son, you'll probably have to go through denial, anger bargaining, depression and acceptance, not specifically in that order. It's a huge change for some people, let yourself move through the steps.
Your heart shouldn't break for him, you should be happy, he's more honest with you and himself now then ever before. It takes a lot of guts to come out, you should be proud you raised such a strong son.
2007-05-03 07:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you had to resign - obviously the company boss is a **** and hopefully he'll learn sense one day. No, it won't always be this way. Thankfully people like your boss are few and far between.
It's always a shock to a parent when they learn of the their childs sexual orientation, but, hey, he's your son, he'll always be your son. Just don't make him ever feel he's a freak... and who the hell cares that he's gay.... he's a person. He'll get by in his life just like everyone else, don't worry. Let him know that you are concerned though - it'll make him know you still love him for who he is.
2007-05-03 04:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son can't help his feelings towards his own gender and WELL DONE to you for being so understanding. I have nothing against gay people, its their life and should be left to get on with it. Hetro-sexuals enjoy all manner of different "GAMES" in their relationship,some of which are a lot more weird than the things gay people get up to! Your ex-boss is a very sad person. Just stick to your guns and things will come right eventually......Good Luck to you and your son
2007-05-03 04:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by swell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love my son no matter what, and you should too. Your boss had no right to fire you. It won't always be that way you will run into people like your boss though, but you just need to stick by your son and love him. Look for a job that you want, and don't let anyone discourage you.
2007-05-03 04:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Blondy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put in a complaint about your boss if he has been making unprofessional comments and making your life hard because of this. Nobody should feel ashamed or upset because somebody is gay. Three of my cousins are gay and they are amazing people, you have nothing to be worried about, gay people have the same choices in life as everybody else. Congratulations to your son for coming out i say! give the lad as much support as you can and NEVER make him feel ashamed for the way he is, it's not something he ever had control over and it's not wrong.
2007-05-03 04:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Ultra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should speak to a trade union or a solicitor about losing your job. You don't have to be sad for your son. Did he actually confirm what you've always felt? Until he does you can't be certain. If/when he does, he'll still be the same person you raised. Someday he'll fall in love, if he hasn't already and will want to tell the world.
Seeing two blokes kiss turns my stomache but that's my problem, not theirs. Let them be happy.
2007-05-03 04:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by xenobyte72 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋