2007-05-03 03:51:37 · 7 answers · asked by pandabear 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Start with your spouse.
Good luck to all of you - you'll need it!
2007-05-03 03:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by love2travel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem becomes worse the longer you leave it. The sooner you do it the better. It is a huge step and you will have to be strong and brave. Nobody in the family is going to be thrilled. But the absolute relief of releasing this burden will be worth it. You will be eaten up from the inside, (which you probably already are) if you don't. You and the family will have to adjust to the truth. Tell your spouse first. Nine times out of ten they already suspect or know. Reassure her that you will always be there for her and your child. Don't bring in any infidelities right now if there were any. One issue at a time. Make sure you have backup from somebody who already knows and can help you emotionally through this. Don't forget that what you are doing is the RIGHT thing to do, no matter what the reactions are. Whatever you do, never feel ashamed, it is a terrible form of self betrayal. Be proud and respect your 'SELF'
I wish you all the support in the world
Good luck
2007-05-03 11:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Res 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. for one i would definitely first start off with your wife.. i may not be married or anything.. but from any woman's point of view... finding that your husband and father of your child is cheating or attracted to another men is quite a shocker. especially if she should found out under different circumstances. You may also have to explain the circumstance involving this to her.. so that she wont feel obligated to feel responsible for it (unless of course if she really does has something to with her.)
Once you do that... you should definitely let you and your wife explain to your kid.. that new situation that has come about that this has nothing to do with the kid.(But then again... how you break to your kid depends greatly with age so tread those water very carefully)
2007-05-03 11:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by jubilleestar17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first part is to talk to your spouse. I came out to my ex-wife before I came out to anyone else. they might surprise you, I know mine shocked me. Coming out to my kids has been a little harder. But I'm doing it. As far as the rest of my family, I told one person and that person told another, and so on and so on. Now everyone knows. I wish I had just told all of them myself. That was my big mistake.
2007-05-03 11:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same way you come out to anyone else. It'll hurt them a bunch, but there's no way to avoid it.
Remember that sexuality doesn't define your quality as a parent.
I suggest getting a therapist familiar with coming out issues in your community, they'll be of great help.
2007-05-03 11:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Luis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just do.
I came out AFTER my divorce, but my being gay had nothing to do with it.
...and Yes, I had a son when I came out. He was a perfect little angel about it!
2007-05-03 11:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just tell them to meet your child good luck
2007-05-03 11:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by lil sexy aka diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋