i woke up yesterday really sick before my hubby even left to go to work i had already got sick 7 times. and yet he went ahead and went to work. and left me here to take care of r three kids. so anyway i ended up going to the doc and found out that i have the flu. so yesterday when he got home i was asleep on the couch and he yelled at me for being a sleep on the couch and not up-stairs in r room, but i couldnt sleep in r room up-stairs with r kids here and no-one else to watch them. so as the night went on things got worse, he yelled at me and was saying things like f-u stupid b##ch right in-front of his kids which r 4 and 7. and then r 4 month old needed a bath and he wouldnt even do that for me. and when i told him i was so sick that i felt like i was dying he said "i hope you are" now after all of this i dont know what to do. i am thinking about leaving him. what would u do if your spouse acted this way when u were that sick?
2007-05-03 03:46:13 · 19 answers · asked by greengrass 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when i went to the doc. i had to take the kids with me.
2007-05-03 03:53:10 · update #1
You are waving the victim flag around for everyone on this board to see. Here is some advice for you.
We don't care that much, and neither does anyone else in the world....You are the only one that can make your life better.
You already know that your husband's behavior is unacceptable, so you have two choices...
1. Fix your marriage. Get into counseling TODAY. You deserve respect and love, not abuse. You have all the power in this situation. Use it.
2. Divorce your husband and find someone who is actually a grown up that can treat you with respect and love.
Make a choice....The right thing is often not the easiest thing to do.
2007-05-03 04:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through such a hard time. I have been married for over 15 years to my high school sweetheart.
If my husband acted this way I probably ask him if he wanted out. Because apparently he is angry and unhappy. Has he always been this way? A husband should be caring and giving of himself as well as never degrade a spouse especially in front of the children. My heart goes out ot you, You should have a long talk with him about your relationship and make sure you are both still wanting the same things and in the same place mentally.
Good Luck
2007-05-03 04:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by zacks girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? You mentioned that these were HIS kinds. So, I am assuming you have not been married that long. I would think that if you had been married several years, you would have seen this kind of behavior from him before. He didn't just start acting this way all of a sudden because you were sick. This is part of a pattern of disgusting behavior.Your husband is inconsiderate, selfish, lazy, and definitely has no respect for you. I'm sure there is a lot more for you to consider before leaving him, but I know that I would not stay with a man who treated me like dirt.
2007-05-03 04:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he treat you like that all the time? Just one time is enough, especially in front of your children. He sounds very self-centered and cruel.. I would personally leave this abuser. Whats to even think about. If he truly wishes you were dying he must not love you too much. I have been through it in the past and can feel what you are going through. I left the bum and have been remarried now for 17 years. P.S. I had 2 children and they seen more than they deserved to and they are 2 wonderful loving fathers themselves now.
2007-05-03 04:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Linda C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is ridiculous! I can understand if he had to go to work, but the rest of it is bull$h!t. There is absolutely no reason for his behavior. If this treatment continues, I would ask him to leave the house until he can treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. You also need to make it clear to him that under no circumstances is it ever okay for him to call you names and curse at you, especially in front of your children! I would do everything in my power to make sure he gets your flu, lol. And when he does come down with it, treat him exactly the way that he has treated you.:)
2007-05-03 04:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being a pig!
That's not the way to treat your wife.
Can you run off to a friend's or your parents? Get away somewhere, and somewhere where you will be confortable as you are sick.
Maybe you can work it out, but I think he needs a seriously kick up the b utt!!!! Leave him to it, let him come home to an empty house.
Don't let him treat you like that - although I know, easier said than done when you have kids, let alone a baby.
good luck x
2007-05-03 03:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What did you do with the children when you went to the doc?
If he is unable to take off work....& you have no family.
Call the visiting nurse in your area for some assistance &/or recommendation. You dont need your children getting sick as well. And you need rest to get well.
2007-05-03 03:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sick or not if my husband treated me like that, he'd be out. I could maybe understand him not being able to take off work, because sometimes that is hard to do for whatever reason, but yelling at you and calling you names in front of the kids, and saying he wishes you were dying...Nope, that is automatic throw out!!!
Good luck.
2007-05-03 04:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk to him comely and say u no what i am really sick and i need help with the kids so can you take care of them for a little i while so i can lay down and try to get better. I would talk to him about him calling you that and tell him it really hurt your feelings
that what i would do
heather
2007-05-03 03:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Heather R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a self-centered pig! I bet when he's sick he moans and groans and expects you to take care of him. I hope he catches this bug and ends up as sick as you are. When he does, treat him the way he is treating you.
If you don't get your rest you won't get better soon. Is there anyone who can help you? If not, hire someone to help you while you're sick.
2007-05-03 04:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lorie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋